my grlfrind dont wana hav sex before marriage but i like to that, wht to do, we had so many fights coz of this

Question

we r going around for last 3years, i dont know y but some times i goes crazy about sex, we already discused alot about this but no results, she wana have sex after marrige, i can understand her felings but wht to do i am also helpless, i have my own physican needs, i want to be loved, we already hav so many fights because of this, i dont wana hurt her but it really hurts when i think that my girlfriend cant show her body to me when she knows that i wil gona marry her, i lov her so much and its a 3 years old relationship, i dont know wht to do??

We had sex many times, but never had intercourse, she also enjoys, she also responds wel on bed, she also orgasm but after that she gets upset, always says i dont wana do this before marriage, i dont wana do anything more than kiss and smooch, she never let me inter my dick always stopes me, and says i dont wana lose my verginity before marriage, we are 22+

Answer 1

Its not that she doesn't want to show her body to you, she just wants the wedding night to be special. Besides women from the time they are little girls are told that if they don't wait until marriage as soon as they have sex the men wont want them anymore. She probably also does not want to risk pregnancy either. Whatever her reasons are I doubt that the biggest reason is that she doesn't love you or want to show you her body. You should respect her and wait. It doesn't matter how long your relationship is and you should NEVER use sex as a bargaining tool in a relationship. If you really love her you will wait. If you cant wait move on because you obviously don't care for her as much as you think you do.

Answer 2

if you really love her you would respect her decision to wait until you all are married. She might have religious, moral, or other reasons that she wants to wait. Maybe she was hurt in the past or something. Just speculating. If you are just hard up or want to get laid then you can either use your imagination or go out and find some one. If you love her like you say you do then I think you would do the first if not just tell her look this no having sex until we are married is really getting to me I love you and I want to be with you but I can't wait that long. Maybe y'all can come up with a compromise (considering that some girls don't consider everything as "sex") If not then you have a tough decision. Wait on the girl that you want to spend the rest of your life with or break it off to get a quick lay. Whatever you do don't give her an ultimatum or hurt her because that will make it that much harder for the next guy.

Answer 3

So, let me get this straight: you invested three years to a woman you must love in order to stay with her for that long and you are ALWAYS thinking about sex and you two never had sex because she wants to wait until marriage? I am a female and can tell you that she must be worth all this to have spent three years with her and never doing the deed. She thinks that since you've waited so long, why can't you wait longer? I mean, this is what she is thinking. I mean, is sex that important to you? Because, I mean, 3 years with no "nookie". Are you going to marry her just to have sex with her? Are you two even compatable?
Yeah, you have feelings too, but, if she is like this, you know, not even showing you her body, what is in store for you when you DO get married? Is she going to schedule sex? The days when you can and cannot have it? What she WON'T do in bed? Hell, how about just cuddling? I mean, really, you are a fool to be in this for this amount of time and think everything is okay when, in reality, it is not. Move on. Let her find someone who is more "Mormon"-like then she is and you can actually cut loose.
Just let her go. Tell her after 3 years of patience, that you just can't take it anymore and if she really cared and not suffering from low self esteem, then, maybe. But, I would get out before you wake up with a ring on your finger and the knowledge you just made the biggest mistake of your life!

Answer 4

From a third person speaking, I don't know the whole story as I only see your side based on your writing.

1. How old are you two ?
2. Where are you ? In middle east, europe and asia or where ?
3. Are there any guarantee in writing that you will marry her ?

She wants to be with only one man in her life. She wants to give her best to that person. What guarantee you are that person ?

You can say all year long about that ? But what guarantees that will happen ?
If you two are so in love, why not marry now ?

FYI, girls has physical needs too, not only you. But she values her herself above her needs. I think you should leave her alone.

For your needs, there are always things you can do. You know that, don't you ?

Answer 5

Its 3 or 30 whatever .. you have not married her yet .. still "going to" .

If she don't wanna do it, may be she has a inferiority feelings that you may leave her after sex. If thats so, try to understand the reason behind that and try to rectify yourself.

Some girls use to value the sex. For them, it should be done only with the HUSBAND and whatever u r decided, you are still a boyfriend , not husband. If you really love her, you should respect her feelings too.

If you are so keen to do it, why dont you marry her immediately ?

Answer 6

RESPECT HER and RESPECT GOD! you are suppose to have sex when YOU ARE MARRIED. first of all why is it taking you so long to marry her if you LOVE her so much. YOU CAN'T MARRY HER but you want to get into her panties. man please, i hope when you do marry her that you don't dump her or cheat on her after you have sex. that would be wrong and backwards. the longer you wait for sex, the better it would be. she may want sex to but it is her belief to wait until you walk her down that isle and say "i do". until you say i do, MASTURBATE. don't lose a good woman because of your selfish needs. go to church and focus on something else. read books, get a second job to pay for the wedding and to make you tired and not focus on sex. if you keep on fighting with her, she is going to leave you. and guess what she may have sex with a guy that she is not going to marry. so for 3 years you waited for sex and now she gave it up to a guy within 1 hour. this is called god just taught you a lesson fool. lol

Answer 7

Respect her decision! If you truely love this girl, then you will respect her decision. There is a lot more to marriage than sex. Trust me. Waiting untill your wedding night will be well worth the wait. There are other ways that you can prove your love to each other. I am married and have been for three years. Sex is important but not as important as trust and respect. I know it is hard, but it is worth the wait.

Answer 8

Just be patient with her she may be just what you need in life and if you lose it because of physical whims you will be upset.In return for your patience you will be rewarded.She's a very respectable young lady and you don't want to lose her because of something like this.If you lose her and someone else gets her you would regret it.Think and be patient.There's other ways of feeling needs.

Answer 9

Quit thinking of your self, and be glad that when you 2 do make love you will be the only person that she has been with, that is if you marry her. I think it's great she wants to wait till she is married, you know there are other ways to please your self. If you don't quit putting so much pressure on her she is going to leave your selfish ***.

Answer 10

What if you have sex and she decide you suck and doesnt want to marry you afterwards???? What then???? You do not respect her wishes, you knew this is how she was and now because you think you need it she should do as you say, i dont think so...If this was me, i would kick your assests out the door....