without sounding like a brat? He did not celebrate birthdays when he was a child and now he has to take it out on me. I feel very neglected and sad, and he said he'll get me a card today..yesterday was my birthday!!!!
2006-08-24 08:35:00 · 16 answers · asked by sd2138 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell him "hey, I'm kinda upset that you didn't get me a present for my birthday." Don't play games! Women get mad at men because they expect us to read their minds, but guess what?...We can't!! Tell him if it's because of the way his childhood birthdays were, you understand, but you did not go through that same experience and are accustomed to your birthdays being recognized by the people you love and that love you. It doesn't have to be a big elaborate present or even a card, just acknowledgement (on or before the actual day, not after) that it is a special day for you.
2006-08-24 08:45:03 · answer #1 · answered by Disco Stu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a person who grew up as a Jehovah's Witness, I too did not celebrate birthdays and holidays. For me it's taking time and patience from others to help me adjust. Also I need to have reminders as well. However, I need to celebrate these events my way. Some people will have all kinds of Christmas decorations, when I'm only comfortable with a tree.
Now that I'm a bit older it is easier to say "Happy Birthday" or what ever holiday it tends to be...it's still a little bit of a challenge.
Imagine going 20 years without ever having to say "Happy Hanukkah" (or if you don't celebrate Christmas, saying "Merry Christmas"). Then you get involved with people you love who say this and you now feel you want to get used to saying this. It will take time.
2006-08-24 08:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grow up...why do you need some kind of special recognition for getting older....your actions aren't matching the occasion....why are you taking it out on him that you need an ego booster? I'm not really cutting you down (even if it seems that way)...just playing devil's advocate....I understand that it is nice for your S/O to remember you on special occasions, but is it really worth getting upset over or hurt feelings? NO...it's really not. If so, you have a very long road ahead of you. My husband and I have been married 6 years, and we do good to even TELL each other happy anniversary. We don't get each other b-day gifts or even christmas gifts. I don't need those things to know that he loves me. If I did...he wouldn't be worth having around.
2006-08-24 08:41:44 · answer #3 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try explaining to him that birthdays are a big deal to you and your family and that he really hurt you by not celebrating the day you were brought into the world. Then hug and make-up. I'm sure he did not mean to upset you.
2006-08-24 08:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by jen_customweddingsolutions 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cry a river build a bridge and get over it... I dated that a guy that didn't celebrate Christmas...
Some people don't take things in a bigger light that we do.. it's not a big deal. Doesn't mean he doesn't love you. He's just not use to celebrating b-days.
2006-08-24 08:43:00 · answer #5 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You picked yourself a real winner there... Try a new BF... If you care about someone it doesn't matter what you did or didn't do for birthdays as a child... Your main focus is making the person you care for happy... He obviously thinks little of you...
2006-08-24 08:42:20 · answer #6 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i might want to were disillusioned to. It would not appear like you're in touch as a lot about how a lot he spent, yet with how impersonal it became. vegetation are sort of a bypass to present for adult adult males which makes it appear like he did not imagine too a lot about what he became doing. per chance you ought to indicate out to him that you needed you would possibly want to have celebrated your birthday more desirable. He might want to do something sensible for you want prepare dinner an excellent meal, grant you with a rub down, ect. If he does no longer have time to do such issues as that as a results of defense force he would have written you a letter or picked out his own card. i might want to easily talk with him and say that in the destiny you want to sense slightly more desirable particular on your birthday with something more desirable own.
2016-11-27 19:24:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that recieving a present for your birthday is one way in which you feel loved. everyone percieves love in a different way. and by him not showing you on your birthday that he loves you, it made you feel like you weren't worth anything to him.
2006-08-24 08:39:16 · answer #8 · answered by Nails 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slap him in the face with a wet fish
2006-08-24 08:38:23 · answer #9 · answered by angelo26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen 2 huggles
2006-08-24 08:49:41 · answer #10 · answered by Veronica 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋