My friend was introduced to this guy about 2 weeks ago. this past weekend she told him she loved him, which i thought was a horrible idea. when that happened, a couple days later he broke up with her. he's always told his friends that he liked me, and i obviously like him. my friend and i have known ea other for about 4 yrs but we've jus started hangin out within the last 2-3wks. would it be wrong if i were to persue a relationship with this guy?! my mom thinks i should, my other friends think i should, but i jus dont want to hurt her, she thinks she loves him, i honestly think she was jus infatuated, but she's conviced herself it was love. what should i do. i need unbiased opinions.
2006-08-24 08:14:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
he startin datin her not knowing i liked him. once he and i started hangin out more ((me as a friend helping them both out with thier relationship)), his and my realtionship grew into something more. she basically tries throwin herself at him makin her look cheap. i try tellin her that if he wanted to be with her he wouldnt play games and they'd be together. and its not like she truly loves him, she's told me herself she jus didnt want to see him with anyone else. he's also told her several times he likes me and wants to persue a relationship with me when i'm ready, she jus dont wanna hear it. the other part that kills me about the whole situation is that she wants to get back with her ex-boyfriend, but doesnt want to move on because she knows once she has, he will too, with me. ((and he didnt really "accept" her love, he told her she didnt kno what she was sayin. he didnt return the favor either.))
2006-08-24 21:24:39 · update #1
Give it some time...like you said it sounds like infatuation...she will get over it soon and then you can go for it..If the guy really likes you then he wont mind waiting a couple of weeks...Then you would be a good friend and have the guy you want...just be patient..
2006-08-24 08:19:19 · answer #1 · answered by Tyler Durden 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well i think that u should respect ur friends feelings and NOT go out with him. i also think u should give the guy an explanation as of to y u cant go out with him. tell him that once she's over you though (which she will be) you'll be glad to go out with him if he doesnt have a gf then. if he likes u enough..he'll understand and maybe wait for you. iv been in many situations like these. hope i helped
2006-08-24 08:19:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I would NEVER do that to a true friend.
If this guy really means that much to you I suggest you sit your friend down and explain to her why you want to be with him. If you get her blessing, then go for it. If she is really hurt by it, then you have to make a decision on which relationship you would rather have, your friend or a potential boyfriend. Either way, Good luck to you.
2006-08-24 08:18:11 · answer #3 · answered by Doreen A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you better talk to your friend and tell her about it. she will get hurt bothways (if you pursue it and if you tell her about it) but the point is you are honest with her and you respect your friendship with her by telling her about it. she may feel bad towards you but that's part of the risk that you have to take. hopefully she will overcome the bad feelings and understand things.
however a word of caution about the guy. if he liked you, why in the first place did he accept the love of your friend only to break up with her a couple of days later? just make sure he is sincere towards you.
2006-08-24 08:27:54 · answer #4 · answered by smiling face 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart, he could be the one. If she's your friend, then she should be happy for you, its not like you stole him. Talk with her, let her know that your going out with him so it doesn't come to a surprise, but dont rub it in her face. The did only see eachother for a couple of weeks right, she'll realize guys come and go
2006-08-24 08:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by Hannah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the most sensitive thing to do, she probably thinks, is to not date the guy. but in all fairness, no one can make you not want someone, and they can't expect you to just forget some guy you want to see cuz her butt got dumped. see the guy,hun, but don't rub it in her face, and try not to go places you know she'll be. unlesssss you don't want her as a friend anymore, in which case you could send her a fourty-five minute audio cassette of you and him going at it with ' evanecsence's new cd playing in the background. wooooooha!
2006-08-24 08:19:54 · answer #6 · answered by grumpy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,I have been there.and if u are really interested in the guys and he in you then go for it.She will if she is your friend really see that they where not meant to be.Let her know in a email or letter how u feel.and then go forward it make take her a bit to see it.But if she is really a friend then she will understand.And who knows maybe there is one of his friends that might actually be the one for her and u all can hang together.That's how it worked out for me.Good luck
2006-08-24 08:21:47 · answer #7 · answered by motherof319662000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the guy know that you are interested, in a way sort of 'reserve your spot'
Give it a few weeks and then go for it!
2006-08-24 08:16:58 · answer #8 · answered by kenny_the_bomb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look this is what i think you shold do ....if you really like the guy then yes....and about your friend you need to talk to her and tell her that he always liked you not her and that you always liked him too.......and that now you want to go out with him but at the same time you dont want to hurt her fellings....that is what you need to tell your friend ok...i hope everything come out good....GOOD LUCK....
2006-08-24 08:19:28 · answer #9 · answered by shy girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never choose a guy over a friend, look somewhere else. let some time pass and let your friend move on to someone else then maybe you can go for him, this happened to me and i never forgave my friend.
2006-08-24 08:18:56 · answer #10 · answered by lisa s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋