e didnt say anything but can you tell from his eyes if he is still in love with me. we were together for 18 years. we now know each other 25. help me. this is very difficult for me
2006-08-24 08:09:22 · 22 answers · asked by nidia r 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
as a woman to woman, i think you should consider leaving him.
how can you degrade yourself by being with this man unofficially after he dumped you?
and maybe you don't know this other woman, but how would you feel if you were in her place? gullibly believing that your man is faithful but he's actually out there with another woman?
and if he loves you, then he would be with you and not with this other woman. he wouldn't be pulling you along in deceiving someone.
don't deceive yourself, please. time is only a number. people divorce after 50 years of marriage, what makes you think that he would treasure these 25 years when he's with another woman, but cheating on her with you after dumping you?
leave him. be strong. you don't need a man who can't justify his love for you, who can't even tell you whether he loves you or not. he most likely won't tell you because he thinks that if you don't know the answer, then you'll stay as long as possible to find out.
so don't be a toy to any man sweety. you're your own woman, stick up for yourself. and if he tells you that he loves you when you tell him you're leaving him, doubt his sincerity. because people (men and women alike) will say things that will be in their favor.
i say, be your own woman, and no one else's. good luck, and be strong. there are many guys out there who would be as loyal as you.
2006-08-24 08:18:51 · answer #1 · answered by jell 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free you are basically just feeding his ego by still getting with him! What makes you think that you are doing anything differant this time around that is gonna make him want to stay! Nothing! You are just being easy and why shouldn't he take advantage of someone that basically has a welcome mat at the end of her bed. You should be ashamed of yourself that you would just sit back and let some one treat you like you are a revolving door! You don't need anyone tell you what his true intentions are you know why he keeps comming around if you give it up guilt free for him he is gonna keep taken and taken until you require more and when you do where is he gonna be?
2006-08-24 08:21:41 · answer #2 · answered by LOLITA 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you are in the same boat I am in. I wish I could give you advice, but I need help as well. Guys suck, and I don't know if they should be believed in situations like this. You have to think... Why did he leave in the first place, and why is he with another woman if the one he loves is there waiting... I dont know this situation sucks and I think the only solution is to cut him off, although it is easier said than done.
2006-08-24 09:11:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont get involved with him. of course he still loves you because of your past relationship, but if he hasn't dumped her while seeing you he won't dump her now. You are the other girl and will always be the other girl (as hard as that may be) you will have the back seat while he does stuff with her, and only hangs out with you on the side. If you are wanting to be with him stop fooling around with him and tell him what you want. you are getting your hopes up being with him while he is with another girl. you are setting yourself up for more hurt as long as he is with the other girl (unless you dont mind being the girl on the side)
I know you are in a hard situation right now... believe me...been in similar situation.... its easy to give the advice, but hard to take it...especially when you have such deep feelings for someone and maybe even no closure for why you broke up... if you need someone to "talk to" about this I am more then willing to "Chat" with you... let me know...... good luck.... protect yourself thou so you dont get hurt, which you know deep down how things are going you will get hurt.... I'm sorry...
2006-08-24 08:15:57 · answer #4 · answered by Dana H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-14 11:08:42 · answer #5 · answered by rothe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated on you once... and now he's cheating on another girl with you... you would be foolish to think he wouldn't be cheating on if you get back together with him...even if he loves you. If you can live with him sleeping around on you then go for it...but I'd say kick him too curb for the way he seems to be using you
2006-08-24 08:16:06 · answer #6 · answered by pinchy_79 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
uhm well i think you did the right thing by asking him how he feels .You have to hold your ground and back up the question cause if he loves you personaly he should have left the other women years agao to be with you. Right now it sounds like he wants his cake and eat it to and if he does answer soon and leave the other women for you you need to dump him and move on , you dont need to waist anymore time on him.
2006-08-24 08:16:00 · answer #7 · answered by sht4brains4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Were you hurt when he left? If so, why would you want to do that to another woman?
Girl, get your self respect back. I know it's difficult, but does this fickle man really deserve your soul?
2006-08-24 08:12:32 · answer #8 · answered by medium_of_dance 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard situation. Remember that love triangles never seem to work out for anyone. My reccomendation is to give him an ultimatum: it's either all you, or not you at all.
2006-08-24 08:11:22 · answer #9 · answered by akristel2003 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell the girl the truth if you think she will listen to you and tell him to jump off a bridge. Quit wasting your life with this two timer
2006-08-24 08:11:58 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋