I lost a parent in an accident. In a few months I will be coming into a trust fund. I married a man and did not have him sign a prenup. We eloped when we were very young and we still are young. Now I am of the age to receive my funds. At the request of my other parent I am to have my husband sign away rights to my trust fund. My husband said he would not sign any papers and his family felt the same way and he has now even consulted with an attorney. I am having my paper work drawn up and I feel as though if he does not sign this paper then he will be given divorce papers. I love him but if he loved me then he would sign these papers. I went through hell when I lost my parent and this money is the last thing I will ever receive from him. If my husband and I got a divorce and he ended up with half of it I couldn't bear it. I could get over a broken heart but not a broken wallet on top of it. Maybe I am wrong to feel this way. I need an outsiders opinon of this. Please adivse
2006-08-24 08:02:58 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This one is driving me crazy! I do not understand why he is consulting an Attorney about you inheritance and I don't understand why his Family feel that they should have an opinion in this matter.
Do you have any children with this man? I hope not!
With him consulting an Attorney one can't help but wonder if he is thinking of a divorce? This would really concern me if I were you and I totally understand were you are coming from.
Have the two of you ever sat down and talked this situation over?
When my husband inherited money, we talked all the time and it was always going to be his decision and fortunately he wanted a home for us. I would never of presumed that I should of had an opinion about his inheritance. It was nice that he wanted to do things for his family, BUT if he would of wanted to spent it all on himself, I felt that was up to him.
If you do end up with him walking away with your money, try to think of it as being the cost you had to pay to get rid of him.
2006-08-24 09:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by Plain Jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a good marriage, why would this be a problem? Seems like there are trust issues within your marriage. I believe when you marry someone it's supposed to be til death do you part. But then again, the way things are now a days, i'm not surprised. You need to consult with your attorney about this situation. I mean, it's incredible, your husband has gone as far as hiring an attorney to look into your trust fund. What are you hiding from eachother? Is there any kind of trust in this relationship? If money can get between your marriage and/or love, then I suggest you each go your own way and you cuddle up with your bank statements at night.
2006-08-24 08:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to hire a lawyer of your own and FAST....
If you loved your husband so much and if he trusted you, then that money would actually benefit the both of you.
This is a train wreck about to happen... put on the brakes and hold on... Hire your lawyer before you receive that trust fund, get an injunction so he can't get his hands on it... this was not EARNED money, this is an inheritance, there are probably laws separating the two..
Sorry to see you are going through this, but good luck... best wishes.
2006-08-24 08:33:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where you live but, in my state I don't think a spouse can touch a trust fund or anything left to you personally, unless it was left jointly to you. The mistake would be to put any of it into a joint account or any regular account. Or if you buy expensive things with it I think then they would automatically become 'community property'. Your husband should respect your feelings in this matter. Consulting a lawyer? Hmm. I don't know. I think you should definitely consult one. Good luck.
2006-08-24 08:13:03 · answer #4 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you he would just sign away the rights without question. Can you just not receive your trust fund until you get this resolved. You might find yourself in divorce court.
2006-08-24 08:22:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of things in this situation that you need to look at before you decide anything. How long have you been married? Do you get along? Has he been the primary bread winner in the family? It all depends on what makes you happy.
2006-08-24 08:08:24 · answer #6 · answered by Mechelle B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hired a lawyer to get involved with your personal affairs, then there is something definatley wrong. Talk to a lawyer. I believe your other parent can keep the money till they see fit. And if you were smart, get out of this marriage before you get your money, because that seems to be his plans. He's looking into seeing how much money he can get from you. (I'm sorry for your loss.)
2006-08-24 08:20:00 · answer #7 · answered by CLM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my spouse hired an attorney BEFORE OR WITHOUT asking me in person first, I would treat that as grounds for divorce.
Leave now and hire a good attorney, because he's not after half of what your parents are leaving you - he's after half of EVERYTHING...
2006-08-24 08:07:09 · answer #8 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with drumerbOy on this. If his only interest was you, he would have taken you with him to see an attorney to discuss how to best invest YOUR trust. Get out now and don't waste any time doing it as it can harm your interest anyway.
2006-08-24 08:10:50 · answer #9 · answered by open_phunguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he wants the money and so do you. That is tough, but I do feel that if he respected and loved you enough then he would sign the papers...
2006-08-24 08:06:17 · answer #10 · answered by sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋