I spent 5 years with a person and know I realise that I don't know him at all and this scares me.He lied me all the time.He was haveing 2 identities...
2006-08-24 08:01:20 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I personally do not think that anyone ever really knows anyone. Listen to how some divorced couples after 20 yrs talk about each other, about how they did not know certain things ior that they could be so cruel and so on. Some people where so many different masks, it is hard to distiguish who is real and who isn't good luck, but at least you found out about your partner, and now you can talk about it or move on..
2006-08-24 08:04:23 · answer #1 · answered by sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that happened to you!
I understand how you feel I don't know if you can really know anyone unless that person is 100% open and truthful with themselves first I was married 16 yrs and I was lied too continuously. I have trust issues with men...
I Hope you meet a person who is trustworthy in your future
for now take time for you and what you want to do Good luck
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2006-08-24 08:07:57 · answer #2 · answered by daack7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, all people will fail us, some worse than others. Some failures are minor and some are major. Do we ever REALLY know someone? I think the answer is no because most people don't even know themselves, because we all change over time.
I have strong relationship with God which helps me understand why people let us down, lie to us, abuse us and fail us.
It's called sin.
Sin is in all of us and unless we give our lives to the Lord, we will all fail ourselves and other people.
God is truly the only trustworthy one because He is pure and without sin. In my relationship with Him I have learned that nothing that I go through is without His divine appointment and therefore no matter what trials, hardships or pain I may go through, He is always there with me, guiding me through. In the end His promise is that those experiences will make me more like his son Jesus.
Does that mean we should never trust another human being again? No. Because when our faith is in Him, and we live in His will and not ours, He will allow nothing to happen to us that is not in His will for our lives. We can trust that the people (and their actions) that He brings into our lives are His will, whether they fail us or not.
I wish too, I had learned earlier to seek God's will before letting people come into my life, especially those who I gave my heart to.
God bless.
2006-08-24 08:19:10 · answer #3 · answered by lilmissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, most people don't have two identities... Your case was exceptional. I think it's a reasonable assertion that you can come trust most people as long as they haven't given you a reason to feel otherwise - but you can never predict the future, and there's nothing wrong with being prepared for the worst, even when you do trust a person. We're all human, we could have missed something.
2006-08-24 08:05:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is possible to know someone very well, if it's the right person, and someone who is trustworthy and has nothing to hide. I've known my husband for 26 years and I thought I knew him, but he was a liar. I just chose to cover it all up. Not anymore. You can tell when you have a trustworthy partner, you just have to be honest with yourself.
2006-08-24 08:05:55 · answer #5 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could spend the rest of your life getting to know your partner & in the end, never really know all there is to know about them.
They're the ones who have the responsibility of earning your trust... by proving themselves to be trustworthy.
2006-08-24 08:16:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes two people to build trust in any relationship, so if he can admit 2 u that he has a problem & willing 2 work it out with. then yes u can trust him.
2006-08-24 08:23:05 · answer #7 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you possibly have a relationship without trust???
Some one who lies, can not be trusted, you need to sort it all out with this guy and find out why he feels the need to lie to you.
2006-08-24 08:10:46 · answer #8 · answered by Doreen A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear this, I know it's painful. HE has serious problems and you might consider saving yourself by getting out. You're broken heart will heal over time. But if you stay, your lowered sense of self and lowered self-esteem may never heal.
2006-08-24 08:06:04 · answer #9 · answered by tweak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's probably why you don't know him. but yes, youcan, but it takes two people to build that trust though. There is always a give and take
2006-08-24 08:04:04 · answer #10 · answered by lonely_dove04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋