my fiance talks about how ihis frnds gf is beautiful , intelligent and HOW SHE KNOWS TO DRESS??? should i take any hints from this???
2006-08-24 08:00:32 · 27 answers · asked by sandras 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You could go one of three ways with this, namely (1) you recognize that he may subtly be hinting at how he would like to you dress and see if you can make some changes to see how it would look on you; (2) you could choose to be flattered that he feels safe enough with you and your life together that he is willing to tell you that this other girl turns him on; or (3) you could freak out that his finding some other girl attractive somehow makes you less attractive, less desirable or on less solid ground in the relationship department.
2006-08-24 08:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask your fiance if he would want you to be like her. If he says yes - dump him. If he says he would rather have you the way you are - treasure him. He may be appreciative in nature and it is healthy that he appreciates another woman before you. Atleast he is not drooling over her behind your back. I think, you can take a few hints if you think you really are sloppy or dumb. Pull yourself up. But definitely not because he wants you to - because you want to be intelligent and beautiful and know how to dress.
2006-08-24 15:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by someone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't guess. Ask him directly if he is dropping hints; if he is then let him know that you don't appreciate it and that it hurts you. I think this is a red flag for you to consider carefully before your engagement goes much further.
I'm not suggesting that you break the engagement, unless there is really something to this talking of his or if other problems come out of this or other situations.
A guy who loves a woman should be at least a little sensitive to her feelings and how she responds to statements or questions.
2006-08-24 15:07:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a confident woman, don't let this bother you. He is your best friend and he feels confortable telling you this things. He is obviuolsly happy that his friend has found someone worth writing home about after probally a string of ladies that were not suitable.
He is happy for his friend, so you should too. He can tell you this about his friend because he also seeks your approval as your are his FIANCEE and couples discuiss this things all the time. He loves you and he is proud of you, he is going to marry and he is sharing his hapiness for his friend with you.
Think about it
Good luck
2006-08-24 15:06:05 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what hottie you think his friend is!!! Make remarks on his tight butt and how you love listening to all his intelligent conversation and then stair him straight in the eyes and give a great big sigh. Maybe he'll get the hint.
2006-08-24 15:03:54 · answer #5 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how often and when he does this. If he's done it once or twice, it's not so bad - especially if his friend had just started dating the girl and he was offering his initial opinion of her (as people do pass judgment on their friends' gfs/bfs). If he's done it more frequently, or after getting to know the girl better...well, I would watch out if I were you! He probably thinks he's being subtle, but he's not!
2006-08-24 15:21:09 · answer #6 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is almost like he is trying to say to you, 'Why can't you be her? Why can't you look like that?'
This is what he is trying to say. To me, that is. I mean, it is almost like he is obsessed with her. I think not only you need to be worried about him, but, his best friend as well. I think you should test the waters and see if he is the guy for you.
Maybe there is someone else who would find YOU the most beautiful, intelligent, nice-dressed woman to him.
2006-08-24 15:09:35 · answer #7 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your fiance what he means by it, you should be able to talk openly about anything he says, I mean you're marrying the guy eventually, right? Ask him if he wished you dressed differently, or whatever
2006-08-24 15:03:38 · answer #8 · answered by Hannah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, maybe he is trying to tell you something. But then again, maybe you're looking in to this way too much.
Try doing the same thing about one of his friends haha!
2006-08-24 15:21:11 · answer #9 · answered by hewhoknowsthemost 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends, do you think you're taht bad? Talk to your bf, if its making you so uncomfortable that you have to ask a questin on a public forum like that, then you should sit down w/ him and ask him why he keeps talking about her and explain your side
2006-08-24 15:02:58 · answer #10 · answered by lonely_dove04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋