My ex husband drops off his Girlfriend at the corner of the street or leaves her at Jack-in-the box while he comes and picks up ours kids...Do you think thats right? I just don't understand why he doesn't want me to meet her..He won't even talk about her to me..Why do you think he does that?
2006-08-24 07:59:56 · 21 answers · asked by ?Whiskey Girl? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The only reason why I would like to meet her is Because she is arond my kids..Nothing else
2006-08-24 08:06:19 · update #1
I like to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. Maybe she is nervous to meet you, maybe he is being respectful of you.
However, as mentioned, if this lady is in contact with your kids it would not be unreasonable for you to ask your ex if you could meet her.
Maybe to make things go over better, let him know that you have no problems with her or with meeting her but that you do want to know who your kids are hanging around with when they are with their father.
But remember if you start seeing someone, he has every right to ask the same of you & your new man.
2006-08-24 08:07:04 · answer #1 · answered by nova_queen_28 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How long has the girlfriend been in the picture? Maybe He's just not ready because he's not sure if she's THE ONE. I have to look at the side that shows you the consideration not to throw someone in front of you without knowing exactly how he feels himself. Or is he trying to make her jealous by making her think you don't want to meet her? Or is she just not ready for the confrontation herself? Obviously you and the ex have a bit of time together and maybe she just isn't ready to deal with being that committed yet.
2006-08-24 15:09:12 · answer #2 · answered by slysandlin@verizon.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible that she herself doesn't want to meet you, and he's only honoring her wishes? Otherwise, if she hangs around your kids, and you have nothing against meeting her, I don't see any problem with you two being introduced. Have you ever given your ex a reason to feel that you might create problems in his new relationship? This could be why he's keeping the two of you separate, and he would be right to do so.
2006-08-24 15:09:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is the one who is asking him to do this. She feels that it would be better for the both of you that you two don't have any type of confrontation and/or conversation and it will be easier for the children as well. Or maybe she just likes to eat at Jack in the Box or whores herself on the corner of the street until he gets back. JK. But did that make you feel better?
2006-08-24 15:03:48 · answer #4 · answered by roadrunrtigger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an easy one... Because she's his future and you're his past. Two things that never need to be mixed. When a man (or woman) make the choice to end a relationship, that's it. No mixing, no introducing of the new girlfriend. That's his world now. Maybe he doesn't trust you to be mature... maybe it's just because you want it... never-the-less, it's his business and if that's his choice, then he has that right. Does it really matter? If it does then maybe there's something left over in you that's not ready to move on... check yourself.
2006-08-24 15:31:26 · answer #5 · answered by casual247 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's probably trying to be a little respectful of you. I mean honestly, do you want to meet the new girl in his life? Do you want to know what they do in their lives?
Maybe he thinks it will upset you if he brings her around or talks about her.
If you're totally cool with the situation then perhaps you should just mention to him sometime that you're ok with him and the fact that he's moved on and you're ok with her coming by or him talking about her.
How is he to know how you feel about it if you don't say anything.
2006-08-24 15:06:33 · answer #6 · answered by bluesie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's trying to be nice actually...save you the embarassment of meeting her.
I know that I wouldn't want to meet my husbands girlfriend, ex husband or not.
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2006-08-24 15:03:32 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quit being so self-centered. He just might do it out of respect for you. Or maybe you are such a b#$%^ that he does not want to deal with you or argue infront of the kids. Why would he want to discuss his girlfriend with you? You are self-centered.
2006-08-24 15:04:57 · answer #8 · answered by cindy s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sweetheart your right 100%, it not right, as a mother its your right to know everyone your kids come in contact with.. Sounds like maybe hes been telling her some little white lies and dont want you to blow it for him???.. Your friend from Tennessee...ROB
2006-08-24 15:12:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he doesn;t want any scenes or aweward moments. It's all about bussiness nowm, there is no need to be hypocrits and pretend that we can all get along.
It's over honey, whatever he does, is his bussiness, is not of your concern anymore
2006-08-24 15:13:28 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋