My wife and I plan to start trying for a baby in January, but I don’t want a December baby.?

Question

It sounds silly, but I prefer not to have our baby in December because of the holidays.

We obviously don’t have much control over when my wife gets pregnant.

But I was thinking of trying for a baby in January and February and if she doesn’t get pregnant then we will stop for a while to avoid having a baby in December.

Am I being stupid about this? Should I not even care about when the baby is born?

I was hoping to have a kid any other month other than December or January.

P.S. It will be our first baby and we are super excited about trying!

Answer 1

WHAT DO THE HOLIDAYS HAVE TO DO WITH IT? BECAUSE OF PRESENTS? COME ON, THAT'S STUPID..IT SHOULDN'T MATTER WHEN YOU HAVE YOUR BABY.

Answer 2

Good for you! My birthday is in December and it stinks! Everyone I know that has a December birthday hates it. Something else to think about, if you live in a cold climate, taking the baby out in the winter (to visit family or well baby doctor visits) is harder and can cause them to get sick. Trust me, there is nothing worse that a sick baby!

My advice would be to start trying now. Most people are not lucky enough to get pregnant as soon as they decide. I come from a huge family and never thought I would have a problem conceiving, so my husband and I "planned" it so we would have a May baby. I did eventually get pregnant, but I had my daughter in June - the following year!

At least have your wife go to the OB and have some blood work done to test for any potential problems. She can also start charting her bbt (basil body temperature) or using ovulation kits to find out if and when she ovulates each month. That way, she will at least know she can ovulate before you begin ttc.

Best of luck to you!

Answer 3

Personally, I really wouldn't be so concerned about when the baby is born. It is kind of the same thing as wanting a boy or girl. You can't always choose. Even if you plan for the baby to be born in a certain month, you could over due or the baby could be born 2 months early. Why not just focus on a healthy pregnancy, and getting pregnant. Good Luck.

Answer 4

I don't think it's stupid at all (probably because I did the same thing). I had hoped for my babies to be born in the spring. It took me 7 months to get pregnant the first time, so he was born in November. I would have stopped trying for a month or two had that not happened, because I didn't want my son's birthday any closer to Xmas than that. So, the second time, again aiming at springtime, I started a few months early, but didn't start until I knew the baby wouldn't be born at Xmas. Of course, I got pregnant right away, and my second son was born in February!

Answer 5

Why dont you guys try in December for a baby or November, then you will have a September/October baby! I wasnt trying when I got pregnant and I'm ready to go any day now... Which being pregnant in the summer wasnt as bad as people make it out to be. As long as you stay in the air condition. But even if you try, doesnt mean you are going to get pregnant, so i'd try now, that way you'll have the baby after the holidays... :) Good Luck !!!! :)

Answer 6

I don't think it's stupid at all. I did the same thing, simply because we have a ton of b-days in December and January in our family already and the kids always say it sucks.

I wanted a March baby because I love that time of year when the trees are blooming and everything is fresh and new. It took us a few months to get prego, so I have two July babies and one May baby.

When it comes down to it though, as long as you have a healthy baby, you won't really care what month he or she is born in!

Answer 7

You really shouldn't care when the baby is born, unless you have some hidden resentment towards Sagittarians or Capricorns.

My baby is due in January and I couldn't be happier! It will be SO nice, for me, to be super huge and pregnant and it's not 100 degrees outside! Maybe you should think about HER comfort level for a little while, instead of which month you prefer to have your child??

And good luck, my spouse and I tried for a WEEK and BAM! Knocked up. Guess I'm lucky!

And not to mention ... if you get her pregnant in Jan, she'll probably have the baby in Oct. Feb/it'll be due in Nov.

Answer 8

Nothing wrong with trying to plan things to suit your lifestyle preferences. Far more important will be making sure your child never has to endure the painful damage of separating from mommy before ages 3 -5 years old, that your child gets mommy's milk on demand, and is never ever left to cry.

It is wonderful having babies! We have a winter and summer baby, and while I am always taken by surprise by the need to start planning a birthday party right after Christmas, it's otherwise not insurmountable. And, it's far far more comfortable being pregnant in cool weather than hot!

Answer 9

My mom and grandmother always said that any time from the end of March to the end of October was the best time to bring a baby into this world because you don't have to worry about the holidays too much, and there's no snow to keep you from getting to the hospital. I don't know that I'd say you're being stupid about it, I'd say you're taking a very practial approach to the matter. Most couples are in such a hurry to have their baby that they want it right now, even if right now isn't the most logical time. You're not being stupid, you're just behaving differently than most people--I think in a good way.

Answer 10

I got pregnant May 9 and I am due Feb 2...go get a book called Taking Charge of your fertility by Toni Weschler. It will help you understand your body and all the myths about it. It will help you time when you are ovulating and the best times to conceive. My Doctor recommended it to me and after 1 year of trying I got the book. It worked the very next month. It turns out that my timing was wrong due to mis-information. I hope it helps you, too! It's not only about getting pregnant. It's about knowing your body and knowing when you are fertile or not. You can pick and choose what you do with your info. Good luck and don't listen the all the myths!

Answer 11

My daughter's b-day is Dec 21st and it's no fun! Having birthday partys and Christmas partys at the same time sucks! I would avoid getting pregnant until after April or even better - get started during the holidays THIS year and have a September baby!