She's currently dating this guy in his late 30s. The problem is HE'S MARRIED with a kid! She says it's just for his money. Apparently, he's a well paid lawyer. He's now fallen out of love with his wife and in love with her. He doesn't touch his wife, he's only stuck with her becasue of the kid. SHe likes him but she knows there can't be a future with him because guess what she's only 18! She's barely finished high school.
This guy is so protective over her. He doesn't allow her to talk to other guys.. he's constantly jealous but at the end of the day he still goes back to his wife at home.. He's having the best of both worlds, leaving her with nothing...
What do i say to snap them back to reality?
2006-08-24 07:49:58 · 7 answers · asked by Natasha O 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
OH LORDY! This sounds like a bad situation all the way around, and your cousin could easily come out the loser! "Only staying together for the kid" is SUCH a fake line! If by some chance he DOES leave his wife and marries your cousin -- will she ever REALLY be able to trust him? "Once a cheater, always a cheater" is a very true statement. He's obviously cheated at least once, which is how she found him, right? All she really knows of hs home life is what he tells her, and I'd be willing to bet she's getting a "slanted view" of things.
And the over-protective jealousy thing should be a huge red flag all on it's own. He's already manipulating and controlling, and that's NOT GOOD! lt will only get more pronounced over time, and could easily lead to abuse.
I think he is taking her for a ride here, and she needs to just get off the bus before it crashes!
I don't know WHAT you can say to make her come to her senses. Maybe if you show her all the responses you get here, I'm sure you will get a lot that could show her what a dangerous game she is playing.
GOD, I hope she ditches him. For her own safety, sanity, and HER FUTURE! It won't be worth sh** if she pins all her hopes on this D***H***!
2006-08-24 08:22:56 · answer #1 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she wants to be the single reason why those kids wont have a father if his wife finds out! tell her what goes around comes around and when she finally grows up and get's her own family what would she do if the father of her kids leave her for a teenie bopper down the street. If this guy is such a high paid lawyer then why hasn't he divorced his wife for her yet. That's because he still loves his wife and he chooses to stay with her. He will never commit to her and she can tell herself it's because of the money well then she basically in so many words is admitting to be his personal hooker! It has nothing to do with his kids thats just what seems to keep her at bay and keeps her pretending to be something she will never become a wife!!
2006-08-24 08:08:10 · answer #2 · answered by LOLITA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your cousin needs Counseling. Dont get delayed. Take her to a specialist.
Try to save your own side first. Some of the married males use to be like that. They would never change even you tell all these to his wife. So forget that way.
2006-08-24 07:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by Aronyo m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your cousin to realize that she has a future ahead of her and wasteing her life on a guy who is twice her age is not worth it . She needs to realize that he has a family and he needs to realize that shes way to young for him and theirs better looking guys her age with money. She needs to dump him and if he tries to do something threating beat you should personally beat him or call someone who can help.
2006-08-24 07:56:19 · answer #4 · answered by Its_barbie_bish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omigod! I don't know what you can say or do, but now, I too, am seriously concerned for your cousin. My fear is that if she breaks it off, he might kill her. With his age, going with a girl her age and his possessiveness, I think that she is in a perilous situation. I wish I could be of help, I truly do. I am so sorry for your dilemma.
2006-08-24 08:03:16 · answer #5 · answered by pessimoptimist 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't say anything to either of them.
The easiest solution would be to simply tell the wife anonymously and let nature take its course.
2006-08-24 08:00:11 · answer #6 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I KNOW SOMEONE IN THE SAME MESS U KNOW IF SHE DO NT TAKE YOUR ADVICE LET HER FALL BUT BE THERE WHEN SHE CRUMBLES SHE WILL WISH SHE HAD LISTEN BECAUSE THE WIFE WILL NEVER LEAVE AND HE WILL TELL HER HE IS NOT BANGING HIS WIFE IS A BIG LIE HE WANT TO KEEP LIVING THAT DOUBLE LIFE
2006-08-24 08:04:15 · answer #7 · answered by kizzy h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋