My husband and I have divorced recently. He had an affair with one of his employees and plans to move in with her in December - they are building a new house. I make more than he does and as a result I have to pay him about $300/month child support - according to Canadian guidelines. Although we have no choice we agreed that he would not force the issue - there would be no support. My concern is that he will change his mind when this new house is finished and money gets tight. Do you think a man would ask for support from his ex-wife to help finance his life with his new girlfriend? He makes good money - just not enough to pay for this house. Do you think she will force him to ask or will she be embarrased as well? I am putting the money into a savings account for my son just in case. What do you think the likelihood is that they will ask? If it was me I'd be too ashamed. Together they will be making more than me.
2006-08-24 07:44:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just to clarify - we have joint custody - week for week. I kept our home so our son would have some consistency in his life. In December they will have two incomes - I will only have one.
2006-08-24 07:58:39 · update #1
I dont know about in Canada, but here in the states, people dont normally pay child support when they have joint custody. My husband has joint custody of his daughter and nobody pays child support. We buy her clothes and everything she needs for when she is at our house and her Mom does the same. Medical bills, school bills, etc. are split 50/50.
If you are supporting you son 1/2 of the time, I dont believe that it would be fair for you to have to pay child support.
Best wishes!!
2006-08-24 08:25:20 · answer #1 · answered by swak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I pay child support myself and I am the ex-wife. My ex-husband had no bones about dragging me into court when it came to child support. He and his wife are on welfare. I expected it. If you have joint custody, you need to talk to your lawyer and have it sete to where there is no child support. If you are both taking care of your son, then no one needs to pay support.
If you are that concerned that he will ask for support, then you might try a legal channel by going to a lawyer and having the paperwork drawn up that both of you can sign stating the he will not ask for support. In the meantime, keep putting that money into a savings account for your son. You never know what the future might hold.
And by all means, know your rights!!! You cannot count on the fact that he might turn on you no matter what. Make sure you have your visitation rights and don't let him bully you or step all over you.
Good luck.
2006-08-24 15:01:44 · answer #2 · answered by Barb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know Canadian law, but in the States the child support ordered could be reduced because of his marriage and his new wife's income. You might try that, but in reality, yes he probably will start demanding support so you are smart to put that money into savings in case that day should arrive. To tell you the truth, I would ask for support, after all he is your child also and it is your responsibility to do what you can to help. If I were you, I would insist that he take the support.
2006-08-24 14:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by Mary D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's entitled to child support, if you make more money. However, a good lawyer would make sure that you get credit for the extended visitation, or modify it by saying that you will provide school clothes, or whatever. I truly don't know about Canada, but here in the United States, support due accumulates if not paid. Talk to your lawyer. Good Luck!
2006-08-24 15:03:23 · answer #4 · answered by working mom of 3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your ex was granted custody, which I have to think he was since you are paying child support, then you should pay it. If you dont want to, then go back to court and fight for custody. This has nothing to do with what $ your husband makes, or who he is with, or what kind of house he builds. Its to support your child and having a roof over head is part of support.
2006-08-24 14:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by Stewiesgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is ruled by the courts then it is a binding legal contract you must fulfil. He can at anytime enforce the court order. So you should at the very least get a written statement notorized from your ex- attesting to that fact.
Regardless if it isn't changed by a legal court then you owe the money honey. Sorry...I pay child supoort too! Nobody said that life was fair.
Good luck
2006-08-24 15:01:30 · answer #6 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the liklihood is yes he will ask for child support. Three hundred isnt ****. Its your kid and that is not much compared 2 what some peepz pay. I would give my son my last dime if i had 2. So if he does you know that 300 is not that much and its helping 2 feed, cloth etc.... so be greatful your child would be taken care of.
2006-08-24 14:49:08 · answer #7 · answered by thesunnshynne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋