I leave nxt wk for WI with my boyfriend of almost 1yr.I will be meeting his parents for the 1st time.I've been divorced for 31/2-4yrs and finally I have met the man I want to spend the rest of my life with.I will only be there for 2wks then he leaves for Korea for 1yr.He is a pilot(chinook).On my way back from WI to AL it will also be my time on a plane.Right now we are in the middle of designing our 3story victorian home.He recently purchased 30acres also for this and us.I know he is nothing like my x.During our entire 12yr marriage he cheated.For the past several wks I can't eat w/o getting sick.I also have 2beautiful little girls who love & adore him also & he them.I am extremely excited about our trip.It will be our 1st together(long trip that is).What if his parents don't approve of me & don't like me.On the intelligent level he is the most intelligent of anyone I have ever met.He is so wonderful to me.I just don't know why I have been so depressed out of the blue.
2006-08-24 07:40:28 · 19 answers · asked by victorianangel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ASK YOURSELF, DO YOU REALLY NEED THEIR APPROVAL?
WHY? WOULD THAT CHANGE HOW HE FEELS ABOUT YOU? ABOUT YOURSELF? HE PICKED YOU. WHY ISN'T THAT ENOUGH?
LOSE YOUR BAGGAGE YOU ARE STILL CARRYING FROM YOUR PAST RELATIONSHIP. IT WILL CONTAMINATE THIS ONE.
MAKE FRIENDS WITH HIS MOM. EVEN IF YOU DON'T LIKE HER. YOU DON'T HAVE TO SEE HER MUCH, ANYWAY.
HE IS PROBABLY WORRIED THAT YOU WON'T LIKE HIS PARENTS. TELL HIM THAT THEY MUST BE GOOD PEOPLE, BECAUSE HE TURNED OUR JUST GREAT.
GIVE TO PEOPLE WHAT YOU WANT FOR YOURSELF. ATTENTION, TIME, CONSIDERATION, RESPECT, ACCEPTANCE.
QUIT ANTICIPATING BAD THINGS. QUIT WORRYING ABOUT LIFE AND START ENJOYING IT.
2006-08-24 07:47:57 · answer #1 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at all the stress you are under. Meeting the parents, new home, sweetie leaving and being a Mom. If possible, just chill. If your man loves you as much as it seems, then surely his parents will too. Most parents are happy if their kids are happy. Just be patient and be yourself and everything will work out. Just because the 1st was an idiot doesn't mean the 2nd one will be too.
2006-08-24 14:46:07 · answer #2 · answered by Rachael 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with you?? What a depressing question.
I think it's possible, that your getting sick might have nothing to do with everything else. As for your concern about his parents,
you're just anxiuosly apprensive and nervous. They might like you, more than you think. Relax, girl! It's natural to feel depressed about the absence of a loved one, or about the possibility of losing one. It's a sign that you really love him. I think everything will be, ok!
2006-08-24 14:51:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You list many factors that would lead to depression. You are flying for the first time, your meeting family for the first time, you fear rejection from his parents, and he will be gone for a year after your trip. I would be depressed too. Hold your head high and face the days ahead with confidence.
2006-08-24 14:48:31 · answer #4 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nerves. You are scared because you realize how much this man means to you and you are putting all of your focus on meeting his family. Just relax. Take a deep breath. For him to love you, you must be wonderful, don't focus on the family, just enjoy your time together and it will work out. When you feel like you are getting nervous, breathe in through your nose and slowly out through your mouth. It calms me down and allows me to be calm. Best of luck.
2006-08-24 14:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by Michele D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to be nervous of the unknown. So look,be yourself..if he liked you, they probably will too. If you're bringing your girls, remind them to use their manners. Ask if you can help with anything around the house. Stay busy. Don't sit around looking scared. You'll probably be just fine and get along well because most men tend to bond best with women who are alot like their mothers.
2006-08-24 14:51:36 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Resolve issues from you last relationship before going to the next one. The issues from the past will affect your new relationship in a bad way.You are not ready to move ahead, finish up past relationship. Lay it to rest.
2006-08-24 14:47:09 · answer #7 · answered by angiet47933 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be confident . if he loves u so will they and even if they dont i am sure he will be by ur side no matter what. i am sure he has told them all abt u and they r excited to meet u. u being a mother knows that we would do any thing for our children's happiness and if u make their son happy they also will be happy to accept u
2006-08-24 14:45:06 · answer #8 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his parent will like you and if they don't then it doesn't matter and that is so great that you found someoneve so much you love so much don't turn into that movie meet the parents but with a girl instead of a guy
2006-08-24 14:47:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing yor not there for his parents, and besides you'll live far apart from each other. The best you can do is be your self and dont try to hide who you are, let them see you that way. Hope all goes well
2006-08-24 14:42:28 · answer #10 · answered by snockey23 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋