No, I'm not looking for smarta** responses. I'm not looking for hate. I just want to know what everyone means when they use this term. IS there a "gay lifestyle"? If so, what do you think it is? If so and you're gay, of what does your "gay lifestyle" consist?
2006-08-24 07:11:37 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
"Gay lifestyle" is a term used by anti-gay people to try to reduce our sexual orientation to the level of a hobby, and imply that it's a choice.
If you play a lot of sports and pay attention to eating well, you could be said to have an athletic lifestyle. If you have an office job and watch TV all night and are overweight, you are described as having a sedentary lifestyle. Clearly, these are choices a person makes in life.
Hearing the politically charged and wrong-headed phrase "gay lifestyle" should make you as annoyed as the phrases "black lifestyle" or "left-handed lifestyle."
Gay people do not have one common lifestyle. Some are athletic, some are sedentary. Some are black, some are left-handed. Gay people are in all walks of life.
The ONLY thing all gay people have in common is the fact that we fall in love with people of our same gender.
There is no gay lifestyle. There are only gay lives.
2006-08-24 09:48:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
a lifestyle is the way a person (or a group) lives. This includes patterns of social relations, consumption, entertainment, and dress. A lifestyle typically also reflects an individuals attitudes, values or worldview. Having a specific "lifestyle" implies a conscious or unconscious choice between one set of behaviors and some other sets of behaviors. While being homosexual may not be a choice, how you 'relate' or 'interact' within the gay community is.
Personally I do not have a 'gay' lifestyle for the most part. I do occasionally go to a gay bar to socialize with my friends, and participate in the local "PRIDE" Events. But apart from having a same-sex-partner, my lifestyle is no different from most anyone Else's. I think that this is more of the norm within the gay community. It is just not as visible a part of our culture as those that live a more flamboyant lifestyle. I am not passing judgment on those that do - it is just not how I have choose to live my life.
2006-08-24 08:38:25 · answer #2 · answered by rp_iowa 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm gay, live in a rural area and work in the city. I get up every day, get cleaned up and dressed for work, pack my lunch, kiss my husband goodbye and drive to work. I come home from work, kiss my husband and we prepare dinner together. Afterwards we clean up the kitchen, or my husband cleans it while I start my homework. He may watch TV while I study or join me in my research. We may watch TV together afterwards or have a couple of cocktails before going to bed. What may or may not happen there is left to your imagination. The next day starts the routine all over again.
I'm a gay man and that is my lifestyle. It sounds an awful lot like the same lifestyle millions of straight Americans live, doesn't it? The only difference is that I do it with a man. How gay is that?
2006-08-24 14:32:21 · answer #3 · answered by Speedo Inspector 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, quite a few people like to use the term "Gay Lifestyle" to lump us all together, usually into what they think the worse parts of the community they see are. Things like the flaming boys at a pride parade, or the "rest stop hookups" that always make the news. My life style is much like any other married persons. I have dinner with my spouse at night, I work during the day, I take care of my family as best I can and I enjoy spending time with my friends, we dream of someday having kids and a house. The only difference is the fact that my spouse and I are both female, and that every day - as part of our life - we get stared at, second guessed (people don't belive we are married), and have to worry about our marriage being taken away from us. That's it.
2006-08-24 09:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by Alexis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say gay lifestyle and any other lifestyle are the same.The only diffrence is who we decide to sleep with."Gays,"sleep with the same sex of coarse.We are not any diffrent from the next person.We work,some of us even have children,we have pets and go out together.I don't hide in the public.I have respect for kids and elderly people,but normally I am just me.I don't even put myself in a catergory.I am a person on this Earth and I want to live a happy,healthy life.And if my happines means being with a woman-then so be it.People say "gay lifestyle"just trying to seperate us from people who aren't gay. I say just live to be happy.I hope this helped you some. It was a very good question.
2006-08-24 12:09:34 · answer #5 · answered by sexygal8321 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, living a "gay lifestyle" means, not being afraid to live the way you are most comfortable. 'With yourself as yourself'.
The term 'closet' would best describe how 90 % of homosexuals / bisexuals live. They are gay and flamboyant by nite, but straight as an arrow by day.
They are not OUT to their families, friends, jobs or to themself.
Living a 'gay lifestyle' means that you are OUT TO THE WORLD and not worrying or be afraid to admit it.
I answered a similar question in this manner:
We ALL have 10 fingers, 10 toes, a brain and a heart. What differs is our choice of whom we 'sleep with' or 'have sex with'. And clearly, is this not anyone else's business but our own?
BE PROUD - BE THE BEST YOU ARE
Hope this helps you understand the term 'gay lifestyle' a little better.
Cheers, I really enjoyed this question.
2006-08-24 07:43:36 · answer #6 · answered by bga 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a "gay lifestyle". I eat, sleep, go to class. I work, I cook, I clean, pay my bills. I love my parents, I love my family. I take care of my nephew from time to time. I go out and drink sometimes, I go out and dance. I hang out with my friends. I pass (and fail) tests.
What lifestyle should I be living?
I'm not being smart, seriously. Lifestyle means there was a choice made, and I didn't make a choice to be gay. It's who I am, and I'm not so different than a lot of other people, trust me on that.
2006-08-24 07:25:44 · answer #7 · answered by Agent Double EL 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is a term coined by the religious right. There is no such thing as the "gay lifestyle". That term is used to stereotype gay people in a very negative light either outlandishly, perversely, or criminally in order to portray how undesirable we are. Don't buy into the hype!
2006-08-24 07:34:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Well from my prospective, It would be, living my truth... I feel I live a gay life style. Meaning I'm out in the open, not closeted. I don't walk around pretending I'm someone I'm not. If people ask me who I am, I tell them. I hold my girlfriends hand when we are out and about. So I guess out and about.... I don't hide behind the curtains and I have a picture of my woman on my desk at the office...
2006-08-24 07:50:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My lifestyle is like everyone elses on a day to day basis, except I sleep with guys.
2006-08-24 07:18:44 · answer #10 · answered by buldawg 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋