how can i explain that women dont always go and it has nothing to do with men. please dont answer this unless your older than 20. no offense.
2006-08-24 07:08:01 · 25 answers · asked by rose45 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey, I think we all fake it sometimes, mostly because we don't want to offend the other party! I am also married and have faked it. He does not know, and if he is suspicous he has never asked! What you tell your husband, is how great he is and how much you love him, you just weren't really in the mood, but you didn't want to let him down! Good luck.
2006-08-24 07:12:38 · answer #1 · answered by jaystonrn 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him you were just trying to 'get into it.' That's, I think, why most women get to the point where they're faking it -- not because they set out to, they were just hoping to catch the mood and rhythm (so as not to be just laying there). Then, if you don't actually get off, you gotta come down from that cloud somehow, so you wrap up the noises and movement just to come down from the height HE FINISHED at. If, in the past he's not been up for another round and/or he doesn't offer to help you finish -- or you just give up cause he didn't/couldn't wait - it shouldn't be on you, or him, that you 'faked it'. It happens. Hopefully not too often!
2006-08-24 14:19:11 · answer #2 · answered by Ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that you faked it -- not exactly. It's the dishonesty. I know women don't see it that way, but men do. He thinks that he has pleased you for years. Now, he wonders if he ever did please you. As a result, he's disappointed in you and himself.
IMHO, women should not fake orgasm with their man. Instead, teach him how to make you scream. Every guy I know wants to make woman orgasm until she begs for mercy. If it doesn't work out, just say so. I'd rather know than be treated like a child.
Also,if you have trouble reaching orgasm, you should work on your masturbation skills and learn how to please yourself. Then, you can tell him. He wants to know. I guarantee it.
That said, I have to honest and admit that I have faked orgasm twice. (Yes, men can fake it.) I felt bad both times and have never done it since.
BTW, how did he catch you?
2006-08-24 14:17:50 · answer #3 · answered by Otis F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon...... I wont thrash you for faking but please......
If he's the kind of man that WANTS you to orgasm, at least play fair (those are rare creatures). TELL him when you do and dont want to "go" and more than that, tell him EXACTLY what you want if you DO wanna go.
If you're getting close but need something specific MAKE IT KNOWN. A good man will make that happen and ask questions later.
Just be totally straight with him. But I have to tell you - it is perplexing- NOT wanting to orgasm. I know its true but, as a man, I find it baffling.
2006-08-24 14:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by Alexander Shannon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him. If that doesn't work you can go to the book store and get some reading on men and woman in the bedroom. Something from Dr. Ruth. I use to get into her at one time. I know that they are out I just can't think of there names. It is kind of like foreplay. Women get into it a lot more then men. He is just mad cause it hurt his ego. Husband like to think they always full fill there wife's. I like to know things and at one time wanted to know everything about sex.
2006-08-24 14:17:10 · answer #5 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's like me, he likes to give as much as he gets. He wants to please and I'm sure you do too. I know you probably faked it to make him happy, which is great. But as you found out, it was a bad plan because he knows you intimately and you got busted. Tell him you did it for him, you weren't trying to trick or decieve him. Then try telling him what he can do to guarantee the big O next time! That will turn it into something positive.
2006-08-24 19:04:37 · answer #6 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All women have faked it at least once AND so have men. Ask him to be 100% honest with u about rather or not he's faked it. Mad, hell why ? It's normal.
2006-08-24 14:21:54 · answer #7 · answered by geminiblue26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and expalin it just as plain as you have told us. Then tell him you won't fake anymore, but that he should be ready to go again until you do "really" come. Re-assure him that it doesn't mean that you don't love him, you just felt that by faking it it showed that you care about him. Your mistake.. Don't fake. Explore new and exciting ways that you both can learn to come "together" Take care and good luck.
2006-08-24 14:20:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you cannot blame him for being upset but you have to make him feel like it wasnt him and boost his ego back up. Make him feel like a real man and show him that it's ok. They can't be expected to get off all the time. It's a give and take sometimes they do but we don't and the opposite doesn't make it a bad thing it's enjoying your partner. I enjoy making my husband happy and he doesn't expect to make me climax every time just being intimate is great.
2006-08-24 15:16:17 · answer #9 · answered by Raineybaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to understand, that we can't always climax. My fiance and I have an awesome sex life, but every once in a while I can't climax. It's not because of him, it's just that my body won't let it happen. It's hard to really explain but it does happen. Tell him not to worry about it. But if he's anything like my fiance, he'll still think it's him.....Good Luck
2006-08-24 14:23:44 · answer #10 · answered by CLM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋