2006-08-24 07:01:00 · 27 answers · asked by july p 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
marry a priest
2006-08-30 09:12:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Falling in love is always magical, and feels as if it will last forever. But as the magic recedes and daily life takes over, it emerges that men continue to expect women to think and react like men, and women expect men to feel and behave like women.
Through understanding the hidden differences of the opposite sex we can more successfully give and receive the love that is in our hearts. Love is magical, and it can last, if we remember our differences.
For example: When a woman is emotionally distressed, she most often NEEDS to talk in order to feel better. A man mistakenly assumes that if she is to feel better, she needs some solitary time just like he does. He will tend to ignore her and give her lots of space because that is precisely the kind of support he would want. To ignore her, however, is the worst thing he can do.
Men cope with stress differently. A man sorts out his thoughts and concerns, clarifies his values and priorities, and develops a plan of action. It gives him a sense of security. If a man can put his feelings into action (not words), he begins to feel more in control. He can find the same relief a woman might feel through talking. Inevitably, when a man resists conversation and a woman doesn't understand his NEED to be alone to recuperate from the day, she will have a variety of misinterpretations and begin to panic. If a woman is to support a man in coming back to the relationship, her job description requires her to understand this difference and accept his need for space.
The best advice I could possibly give someone to keep a strong and sacred marriage is to invest the time into finding out your differences and using that gained knowledge to better equipt yourself with the understanding and respect that you and your mate should have for each other.
2006-08-24 14:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by Julie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is definitely needed in a strong marriage but I also think it's so important to take time to reconnect - do special things together. It's really easy to get caught up in the demands of life as well as being super comfortable with a person. When those things happen it's easy to take a person for granted.
2006-08-24 14:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you about my parents marriage. They are each others best friends. I learned at an early age, that if they had to choose one of us kids over each other, we would very sadly lose. They are each others number 1! They accept each other exactly how the other person was. For instance, my mom LOVES hockey, my dad HATE the TV! But he never bit**ed about her hockey, but she never complained abou this hunting or drinking.....they have equal respect for each other. Sickness and in health, richer or poorer. For every reason that is right! I tried marrying that way. I believed that my marriage was for life. Unfortunately, my husband didn't believe it. They have had good times, great times, and horrible times. They didn't just throw in the towel during the horrible times, they both equally worked at it and worked at it and worked at it. They never gave up on each other,, NEVER. The fact that they are now in their 70's, and still "fresh" with each other, as in bum pats, and kisses on the neck, I grin whenever I see it!! I think it's awesome. Funny thing is though, all of my brothers and sister ended up in divorce. I think we all thought we could have that marriage. That marriage is very unusual, and very rare. They're lucky!
2006-09-01 04:29:44 · answer #4 · answered by sweetiern34 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are always going to have temptation. You can't have a leash on them and that is no way to live anyway. The chances of a man cheating are above 75% in a marriage. It is up to the man to say no but most don't. They will lie before destroying their marriage. You can only control yourself and what you do.
2006-08-24 14:21:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the key to a good foundation is trust. know your partner well and agree on what you want out of the relationship.
my partner and i were friends for a year before we ever got together. we knew each other as friends before anything physical ever happened.
we respect each other. we talk about anything and everything. we both have the same morals. when we got together, we had a long heart to heart about what we wanted and we were honest about it.
id have to say. trust, respect, being truthful no matter how hard that can be. we talk. we have good communication. we arent afraid of what the other is going to say in the long run. and we genuinely like each other for who we are. there are no illusions for either of us.
2006-08-30 09:27:16 · answer #6 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talking, sharing your feelings, and honesty, tell that person you love them everday just once is alot said. don't keep secrets. set time for you and him an hour or so a day and just talk, talk about your day talk about the weather, the kids whatever it is just talk, and dont go to bed angry talk it out before you hit that bed. never go to bed angry cause you can never take back what you said out of anger and that can be the only things you have said if something was to happen to you or him so never go to bed angry get out and over with. Just learn to love eachother everday like you just meet and your heart is beating fast and your palms or sweaty, and you just feel the love.
2006-08-24 14:10:07 · answer #7 · answered by hopelovesu2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect.
2006-08-31 23:09:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Building trust and confidence in each other.... should not believe what you have not seen but heard.. seeing is believing and lastly understanding and forgiving from both the parties
2006-08-30 04:18:05 · answer #9 · answered by dukes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty, Understanding, but most of all Communication!
2006-08-24 14:06:38 · answer #10 · answered by MC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋