Why is it so hard for a man to express his emotions?

Answer 1

men shy away from expressing emotions as it makes them feel weak. all women must condition themselves to understand that men behave differently from women in emotional situations. perhaps women feel the need to express as they long to be soothed, loved, cared for and even fussed over. Whereas men although would love to be soothed, loved and everything will not ask or demonstrate the need openly. It has something to do with their manlihood or even ego - which is not bad in any way. women, on the other hand can display their emotions which can trigger at the drop of a hat. I am a woman and I am trying hard but I can see it is pretense to control emotions being the fair sex. the damn chemicals in female brains produce the tears and melodrama. LOL

Answer 2

the question SHOULD be, "why does it matter?". Women just like to complain about nothing. And I say that to say that if a woman is with a non-expressive man she may not like it, BUT if she is with an emotionally expressive dude she will lose respect for him. Also, having control over emotions, in front of others, is a sign or considered part of strong leadership. No one wants to follow an emotionally expressive person, but a stable strong steadfast solider. At the end of the day, let a man be a man. stop questioning him for doing so. understand it and embrace it, it's been so since Adam and Eve, meant to be so, and will always be so. and let a woman be a woman, stop questioning her for doing so. understand it and embrace it, it's been so since Adam and Eve, meant to be so, and will always be so.

Answer 3

Because for hundreds of generations boys have been taught that to show any strong emotion such as crying shows them as being weak. Women especially would lose respect for those men. But I have also found, that on certain circumstances, Women appreciate the fact that Men do have strong feelings about really important things and are not afraid to show them.

Answer 4

Well, I'm a guy and I have no problem expressing my emotions. In fact, my wife complains because she thinks I express them too much.

I think men are generally socialized and expected to put their energies into action (getting stuff done) rather than emotion. Women are socialized and expected to put their energy into emotions and relationships.

Wouldn't it be nice if we could all find that happy medium?

Answer 5

The difference between men and a woman who need to be heard is that when a man feels the strong need to share his feelings he will also want to be right. When a woman needs to share feelings, generally speaking she only requires that she feel heard and validated. She does not require a man to agree with her.

Another thing is that men, generally do an excellent job of expressing their emotions, it is the female who doesn't understand the differences between men and women and thus holds him to the standard in which she herself would express her own emotions.

Even in children, males are usually thought to be "doers". They are often quiet when something is on their mind so that they can "come up with their plan". They need time with themselves in order to think things through and come to their conclusions. Then they like to go into their "put it into motion" mode. They can't help it.
Females, on the otherhand, NEED to talk much of the time just to hear for themselves what's on their mind. Often, they talk without really having much to say but it is their way of putting things in order.

Have you ever had a fuss with your husband and gone for any length of time where he was silent. You felt as though he didn't care because if he did he wouldn't allow you to go on with these unresolved feelings as he did? Then after some hours, or even days, your husband come up to you and want to have sex? Remember how you got a little heated thinking that he didn't care about your feelings and now all he wanted was to take something from you?
YOU WERE WRONG !!!!
Your husband, unaware that your needs are different from yours, took his silent time to "sort things through". In his conclusion, he found where his love for you is stonger than anything else that might have possibly happened between you too. Once he sorted it out in his mind, his first goal was to act on that finding. For a male, it is only through physical sex first that he is truley able to open up and give the true love he has for his wife. He in reality was wanting to GIVE you the best he had to offer, his deepest love. Yet, how many times did his advances turn into yet a worse argument and you denied yourself of his expression of love?

The understanding has to be with both partners but with it you can gain new knowledge that will surely open your eyes to see that you may be getting much more from your spouse than you ever knew possible.

Good Luck and Best Wishes!!!

Answer 6

because men are taught that to show emotions is a sign of weakness. things like shut up, big boys dont cry echo in the head when they get hurt. they are taught that they are supposed to be the strong ones.

another thing. guys arent into the details like women are.

Answer 7

For some men it's easy. But for most, it isn't because women and men's brains are ruled from differing parts of the brain.
Do a search on left brain / right brain.
It's a fascinating subject, but men are just "wired' differently, and women are more natural at communicating their feelings.

Answer 8

It's a sign of weakness for many men. Some show them in different ways.

Answer 9

because men are conditioned there whole life to be strong, hold it together, be a man, they see our emotions as weak

Answer 10

Beacuse women classify us as week if we do. Double standard. We really do have feelings, they get hurt, but we are expected to be the emotionless drones that get things done.