What are the pros and cons of marriage counseling?

Answer 1

The only con to marriage counselling is that you get a bad one. If you are thinking about going to a marriage counsellor, then there are obviously problems in your marriage. I believe very strongly in counselling if there are problems that you cannot deal with yourself. A person who is not emotionally involved with either of you can see things very clearly, and unlike friends, they dont take sides....they wont give their personal opinions...they are there to help you work through your problems, so that both of you can get on with your life with the least amount of stress. They can give you tools to help you deal with emotional issues as they arise. They have no ulteria motives, but to help you come up with a workable solution for both of you. They are open and do not judge. If you do happen to find a counsellor who you dont think is helping you, or you dont like, then find another one. Its like a doctor....You can shop around until you find one that you like and you can relate to.

Answer 2

1. It's only as good as the mediator, and willingness of the couple to work things out. If the mediator does not remain objective and sides with one of the couple, it may help drive the final spike through the heart of the marriage. The frustrated spouse will feel ganged up on.

2. Meeting eachother half-way seems to be hard for many. There are times when you can't have it all your way, but maturity tells you that it is in the best interest of maintaining a happy marriage by being flexible.

3. Marriage counseling should not be an arena for tactical strategies. Communication of feelings, needs, and finding a bridge to misunderstandings should be the goal.

4. You both must be honest about yourselves & your track record of actions in the marriage. Denying bad habits, that you both know to be true, will only cause more resentment. Be honest about how certain bad habits, or behavior, negatively affects you. If the behavior is easily changed with effort, then both change your habits.

5. The main point is: Do not approach problems with an accusatory attitude. Be calm, own up, and ask for what you need to feel loved and appreciated.

Good luck and warm regards.

Answer 3

The pros of marriage counseling is helping one or the other understand something in marriage they either fail to understand and counseling usually helps alleviate the problem.
On the other hand the cons about counseling is where neither one has the ability to learn anything new or accept anything better because of a pro lateral consequence of the problem.
Young age or older naieve/ in which any situation told can be a total loss until one reaches to himself or herself the value of learning and accepting what is to be and if they can't accept that...and divorce the situation of the fog, then it will blind them for ever and they will never find happiness in any situtation with whom ever because they carry that burden with them for life unless they heal it.

Answer 4

The pros are that you get to talk, communicate, and get things off your chest and out in the open so you can work through and past them.

The cons are that you are putting your life in the hands of a person who knows nothing about you or your spouse. They are there to get paid by the hour. They have no context or basis by which to make any judgements or comparisons. They can't give you advice because they don't know what to say. So, basically, you are paying hundreds of dollars per session to let someone else tell you to talk to your spouse and work it out.

I have seen marriage counselors actually end marriages. You have to be very careful if you decide to use one. All it takes is for them to give you one piece of bad advice and your marriage could be over.

Answer 5

Professional Marriage Counselors, are the Pros.
Married Couples seeking counseling are the Cons.
Bring lots of tissues, because some one will have to keep wiping the corners of their mouth....there's always some pieces of Bull$hit still left on their lips. (not all couples will confess to the truth)

Answer 6

Pros - If you both want to be there to try and get things worked out, it can happen. Leads to individual therapy if there are individual issues.

Cons - If one really doesn't want to be there it's just wasted money, sometimes the counseling brings up other issues that you never realized.

Answer 7

marriage counseling sometimes helps two parties that are not sinked to beable to use a mediator or 3rd party to talk their issues out. The 3rd party doesn't give advice he just lets the two getting the counseling talk their problems out in a neutral setting.

I personally think.....that marriage counseling only works if the 2 parties believe it will help in what ever problem they have.

Answer 8

Pros- you have a neutral persons listening to you and spouse (won't be one sided), you get it off your chest with out the arrgument, you get advice and excerises that could benift the marriage. Will help if there are children involved.

Cons- You have to both be open to it or it won't work. If there is any violent abuse one might be going to jail (the councilor is required to report it [good for one bad for the other]),

I say go for it, and if it's not marriage coun. do individual counc., it really does help.

Answer 9

pros are it teaches you to communicate con is the guy whos doing the counseling, by the way send me your link to your 360

Answer 10

Pros - it could actually save the marriage.

Cons - could be a waste of time if one party is only going to appease the other; not actually interested in getting to the root of the problem or solving the problem.