My husband has a bad temper in the last wo years he has thrown things at me, breaks things, yells and raises his voice, has started cursing at me and telling me to shut up. He has told me that he does not act like this with anyone else, its only ME. I told him if this is true then he should just find someone else, I don't want him to act like this. But he said no, he doesn't want anyone else, he loves ME and only wants me. This makes no sense to me, can someone please explain?
2006-08-24 06:58:18 · 12 answers · asked by dlmvm0612 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
GUYS I WANT TO KNOW IF I'M THE PROBLEM AS HE SAYS WHY DOESN'T HE LEAVE ME....PLEASE ANSWER THIS QUESTION.
2006-08-24 07:02:08 · update #1
No explanation is necessary- get out of the relationship! Sooner or later, he is going to seriously hurt you!
2006-08-24 07:00:03 · answer #1 · answered by myspacewolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't really explain it either. My husband has always had a temper but it would escalate when he drank. Recently, he got upset over nothing and I decided to go upstairs to cool off and he grabbed my arm and left a hand print. I pushed him halfway down the stairs because I was absolutely terrified. On another occassion, he broke our glass table with his fists and left blood all over the place. I jumped in the car to leave and he came after me. He almost broke the window trying to get to me. I called his father and made him come over and try to help him because he was going to jail if he didn't try to get some help. My husband is now on medication to control his temper. I had tried for 6 years before he got on it. He is a different person now. He admits he had issues and he couldn't control it. I am thankful that he did. We both absolutely love each other and he has now cutting back dramatically on his drinking. He's making a great effort for us and our daughter.
2006-08-24 14:21:09 · answer #2 · answered by mustangchicky0621 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sort of behavior doesn't get better by itself. Counselling is needed to find out just what is making him act out on you. No one deserves such treatment, no matter what. I've been there and I know that without some sort of analyizing, this will only escalate into something more violent, and verbal abuse is violence and should never be tolerated nor should one act the same way the abuser is acting. Won't help. Get help, both of you, if you want this marriage to work out.
Sincerely
2006-08-24 14:02:52 · answer #3 · answered by fruitsalady2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either get counseling right now - or leave! Sounds like there is more behind this!
When a temper gets this far out of control - it's only a matter of time until someone gets hurt.
2006-08-24 14:01:00 · answer #4 · answered by Blond Logic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its the cycle.... whatever he does is not ur fault.... he has some serious issues..... you need to get out of there before you end up with broken body parts or worse, dead....
domestic violence does happy.... he can "love you" all he wants but once someone goes over that line there is no turning back...
the longer you stay with him the greater the possibility you will end up really hurt.... thousands of people are abused every day.. stop the cycle you are in call the cops the next time he throws something at you....
the second he talks down to you.... jump in ur car and leave.... he has to know that your not going to take it.... he's not in charge... he doesnt own you....its a power trip them....
but trust me you need to get out of there b4 something major happens
2006-08-24 14:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by portigean_princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it's time to seek marriage counseling. You won't know where the problem is unless you get help. It could be on both of your part. Even try to get a third party involved. Someone you both trust ofcourse. I did it with my bestfriend and her marriage calmed down after that. Actually, the meeting was between my bestfriend, me, her husband and his bestfriend. So we they had 4 opinions =)
2006-08-24 14:10:00 · answer #6 · answered by $&$& 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there must be an underlying issue here. hes not sure what he really wants maybe or hes frustrated with work. you two need to really talk and get out what is going on. having a bad temper might be part of who he is but there must be a reason he only takes it out on you. i wouldnt doubt his love, but i would try to pry deeper and try to fix what is making him so angry. you might have said something that made him mad, but really there may be something there that was the real issue hes not talking about.
2006-08-24 14:02:48 · answer #7 · answered by somegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a friend of mine used to do the same thing and he never did it at work, he went to his doctor and found out he was bi polar, they gave him meds and now he is even keeled at home also. Its definitely not your fault, but if you tell him to seek help and he doesn't, don't stay cause behavior like this usually escalates, he cant take it out on you for all his problems
2006-08-24 14:26:03 · answer #8 · answered by david 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he Loved you and only wanted to be with you, then he would do better by you, give him an ultimatum, either treat you better or it is over. You don't need to live like that, it could get worse.
2006-08-24 14:08:39 · answer #9 · answered by Shiney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is physically abusing you. He is violent and has an anger management problem.
He needs intervention, it won't be long when he starts hitting you as well.
Do something, is not you, is HIM.
Good luck
2006-08-24 14:23:09 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋