Is being apart sometimes good for a marriage?

Answer 1

For how long? And where are you going? And what will you be doing while you are apart? And who will you be doing it with?

Answer 2

In order to even approach an answer that might help you, you really need to provide a little information. (How long have you been married? Do you both want the time apart ? Are children involved ? What is the catalyst for the proposed separation ?

There are a lot of other questions you will face, too, if you decide this is a good thing: Can you agree how the relationship is going to be maintained during the separation ? Can you agree on the kind of behavior that is allowed during the separation ? (-- as to the last, are you both going to turn a blind eye to sexual activities ? Often a real sticky subject.) How are the finances going to be managed ? Who is going to remain in the marital home ? How are those bills going to be paid ?

So you see, the question as to whether a time apart can be good (or bad) for a marriage is dependent on the circumstances of the marriage, the relationship, the reasons for the separation, etc. Generally, I think "a time apart" is just a facade for ending the relationship. The idea of a marriage is to look inward for the substance, and outward, together, for the future. If you separate - how can you work at the marriage together ? It might be better to go to counseling - both separately (for the "time apart") and together (for the time together.)

Good luck.

Answer 3

In a marriage being apart for the right reasons is o.k.(work, emergency in which both can not go, etc.) If you find that you simply don't like to hang out with your partner than something is not right. When people say that they just need time to be alone that to me usually means, not with you or that they have a better time without you. Time apart in a marriage drives you more apart I believe this cause i have lived it.

Answer 4

My opinion is that once you are married you should be together always. I mean being apart on a daily basis because of work or chores and maybe go out with friends once in a while is good, but being apart for days on end is not a good idea. Any problems that arise within the marriage should be worked on a daily basis and no one should run away.

Answer 5

I think so. Even if you are apart for a day (i.e. work schedules...) that time apart makes your time together more important and you being to value your mate more. Too much time together could possibly bring out little annoyances that you may not always notice about your partner and the longer you spend together, the more obsessed and attached you become to those annoyances until you start resenting your partner for them. Being apart allows the both of you to focus on the good things that you like about each other and the desire to experience them when you do get back together.

Answer 6

Yes. I think marriages that are not based on dependence find being apart is not only good but healthy. Too many people marry to fill a void in their life. The best marriages are between two people who are fulfilled individuals, people who are not looking for some one else to make them whole.

Answer 7

No, No and No. Breaks are only for people who want to screw around a little on the side and get away with it. I'm not saying you should never leave each other's side, but 1 day is a long time to be away from each other. Sometimes when you can't seem to be in the same room together without fighting counseling might be a good idea.

Answer 8

I would say yes. You've heard the saying, Absence makes the heart grow fonder, I think it's sort of true. I love my old man but sometimes he gets on my nerves bad. But when he leaves for work I miss him alot, I can't wait to see him. So just those 8 or 9 hours give me time to relax and get ready to enjoy him when he gets home.

Answer 9

i think so, me and my husband use to work together and do everything together, it was in a way ruining our marriage because we even had the same friends. it was like we were one and not seperate. Now he is gone driving a semi and i see him once on the weekday maybe and on the weekends, it gives us time away from eachother and lets us miss that person and look forward to seeing eachother unlike everyday 24/7 where we were down eachothers throats now we look forward to being with other for that time he is home instead of regreting eachother.

Answer 10

Apart, for like, a weekend? Or apart, for like, a month? One taking off for a weekend with people that you know and trust every couple of months or so I think is fine. Good, in fact! Hey! Watch the movies you want to watch! Sleep in 'till noon if you like. Go see your buddies, hit the spa, burp loudley.
If you don't trust your spouse, or if s/he is doing it every weekend, then you have a problem.

Answer 11

Yes-- it's good to have some me time ie: time alone to watch a movie ur spouse wouldn't even think of watching, or just to relax and enjoy the undemanding time. go to a concert or the opera something your spouse wouldn't be caught dead doing!
As long as u r talking a day or two more than that there's a problem that needs to be communicated to your partner and addressed if you want to be truly happy.