I have been a patient of this doc for about 3 1/2 years. For the last 2 1/2 years, we have developed a very emotional bond and deep connection. We have amazing chemistry. However, this past year, our appts have the pretense of professional, however, we spend it flirting. He jokes with me about using vibrators etc. (he will call me on my cell phone and tell me to have it on vibrate). I admit that I have instigated some of it, however, I feel that when I am with him, he is sending out signals that he wants more by tickling me, wrestling with me, the usual stuff I guess. He is married as am I and he rarely wears his ring and if he does, it is on his right hand.
My insticts tell me that he wants me to make the first move as he can't and that he gets so close to me I get the feeling he wants to kiss me....
Help - sorry this is so long.
2006-08-24 06:54:42 · 18 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I will also mention that we have never done anything sexual or met outside of the office................
2006-08-24 09:19:35 · update #1
If you value your marriage, find a new doctor. Affairs are always exciting but you have to weigh your options. You have a crush with that doctor and that's normal but with him doing those things, he is going beyond his boundary as your doctor. He likes you or he probably knows you like him and he's playing with you, but ethically what he's doing is WRONG!
2006-08-24 07:03:12 · answer #1 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-28 04:21:14 · answer #2 · answered by Lawrence 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a new Doctor It may feel exciting to know he likes you and it's someone new. But you are married and he is too.Besides he probably is flirting with other patients I have been close to my Doctor for eight years we are very close but if he tried to wrestle with me or tickle me I would slap the **** out of him. There is No way you get all these signals in a Doctors office you must be talking to him and seeing him outside the office. Right? Well your going to end up getting caught and the Doctor will most likely blame everything on you.If your husband is an asshole leave him you don't have to put up with some guy's **** just because you married him. But don't put yourself through the humiliation of being blamed for this Dr loosing his license and his wife He will end up saying you are a whore and he was tempted he couldn't help it that it was your fault.
2006-08-24 07:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by beardenk61 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be married to your husband find another doctor. If you really think this is what you want, start your divorce papers, because you know as well as I that you can't have your cake and eat it too, eventually you will get caught and it will be worse. If attention is what you crave, Do something spontanious with your husband, build the fire back in your marriage. There had to be something that brought you and him together in the first place. And besides, Doctors arn't all that they a cooked up to be. They are always on call, or at the office, and you know that if he's married that woman is NOT going to give up the money bag without a fight. It's all around not worth it.
2006-08-24 07:03:19 · answer #4 · answered by FANNY 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd recommend getting a new doctor, telling your husband what happened, and feel ashamed for letting it go on for so long. Because think about it, if you guys hook up, leave your significant others to be with each other, he'll do the same thing with the next patient he has "chemistry" (whatever that is) with.
Please, I know you have more sense that... don't let your "kitty" run/ruin your life!
2006-08-24 07:01:55 · answer #5 · answered by Loving Life 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you, dear, five?! He is married, YOU are married, and what you are doing is nothing more than planning to cheat on your husband. The doc sounds like he needs a few cold showers, too. And dear, one HUGE observation: He is probably flirting and talking about vibrators with MANY of his patients, not just YOU! Don't believe for an instant he isn't flirting (and more) with other female patients. You don't really think he has saved himself for YOU for over two years, do you? If you do, you need your head examined. Wake up and grow up!
2006-08-24 07:00:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
He's married? You're married?
FIND A NEW DOCTOR! You do not have the right to mess with other people's lives! Besides - if the acts this way with you - do you really think you are the only one? Hey - get some respect for yourself - RUN!
2006-08-24 06:59:04 · answer #7 · answered by Blond Logic 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
what he is doing is VERY wrong. I would report him to the state medical board. it would be very easy for him to move to more inappropriate things, and if he is doing this with you he may be doing it with others.
You can also report this to the states attorney generals office to investigate. One of my friends took part in a invesitgative sting involving a doctor who was getting to touchy with his patients.
I would stop seeing that doctor and report him
2006-08-24 07:00:52 · answer #8 · answered by Dana H 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't assume that if he does it with you, he is doing it with others. He may be, but don't jump to that conclusion. As your doctor, he may just want to keep it at a flirtation level. Still wrong. He should recommend that you go to someone else. How uncomfortable is it going to be when he examines you?????
2006-08-24 09:44:02 · answer #9 · answered by ABN 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He is married and so are you. You need to find a new doctor out of respect of both of your commitments to your spouses.
2006-08-24 07:01:38 · answer #10 · answered by That Girl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋