What are the warning signs that a spouse is having an affair?

Answer 1

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Your spouse seems bored. Bored with you, with job, with kids, with hobbies, with life in general.

Your spouse seems to want danger or thrills in his/her life.

There is considerably less intimacy in your relationship. Your sex life is practically non-existent.

Your spouse has a low self-esteem.

You notice your spouse has a sense of confusion about self.

You spouse has become lazy, especially around the house.

You can't get your spouse to communicate with you.

Your spouse gets very defensive if you mention infidelity or affairs.

Your spouse is suddenly more attentive than usual.

Your mate is working longer hours at work.

Your spouse is dressing nicer, looking nicer.

You notice charges on credit card statement that don't make sense.

Your spouse is indifferent to family events like birthdays and holidays.

You find your partner has been lying to you about a variety of things.

Money becomes more of an issue between the two of you.

He/she doesn't want to go anywhere or do anything with you anymore.

You can't even get your mate to fight with you.

You feel as if you are being avoided.

Your partner abandons religious faith.

Your spouse seems more secretive.
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Answer 2

It's different for everyone. I always trust my gut on this one. I've only been cheated on by one person and in this case, we were about 300 miles apart for only a month into it with three years of relationship under our belts... He found someone else, and actually he talked about her as a "friend" quite frequently. I'm not naturally a suspicious person, so I didn't pick up on that. He was more forgiving and complimentary than usual. He said he felt guilty that we were "apart" and made overtures to that affect. Honestly, one time I said "The only thing you can feel guilty for is if you were cheating on me!" And then... akward silence. And he all of the sudden denied everything... which is when my suspicions finally surfaced and later proved to be true.

I'd recommend looking around. Here are some websites with signs of cheating, which may help you:

http://marriage.about.com/cs/infidelity/a/infidelsigns.htm
http://www.illinois-family-law.com/CM/FamilyLaw/FamilyLaw40.asp
http://members.tripod.com/kelly6199-ivil/warningsigns.html

Good luck, and I hope that your spouse isn't cheating- but if he/she is, that they pretty much rot in hell. I'm sure you'll find someone much better the next time around.

Answer 3

This can be different for many people. My husband started being extra nice to me. He would do things around the house for me. He would tell me how much he loves me. Anything to stop me from suspecting anything. Well, there is a God, because I found a very obvious clue one day, without even trying. After confronting him and he denying, of course, I started digging deeper and deeper. And voila. He turned to be a deceiving jerk. Don't let your guard down. I am sure that all the answers here are true. Like I said, everyone is different. But the most reliable sign is your own instincts. If it smells like a fish, it's a damn, stinking fish.

Answer 4

The number one way to tell is if they make major changes in their appearance or their behavior! For example: 1) changing from briefs to boxers, or vice/versa 2) quitting smoking suddenly 3) suddenly deciding they don't want to wear glasses anymore, after wearing them forever! 4) Excluding you from their actvities; such as road trips, concerts,etc. 5) Suddenly doing a new sexual position in bed 6) Changing the style of the clothes they wear 7) And last, but not least, MISSING TIME!! You call their cell evryday during their lunch time and they never answer!!

Answer 5

They act totally different around you, in a more defensive way. Have an excuse almost everytime you want sex.
Sometimes they shower you with gifts or love (guilt setting in) Secret phone calls. Never puts the cell phone down just in case you try to look through the call log or the person may call.

Answer 6

You just posted 4 similar questions at the same time. It's either research or you are paranoid and worried. As other people have said, it depends... on why she/he is having the affair. If they aren't acting guilty, then they won't be doing anything suspicious to pick up on. Good luck on your quest.

Answer 7

I'm no expert at this but, I would begin to worry about that possibility if he starts phoning and say's he has to work late. Finding Phone/Cell numbers you don't recognize. Calls, where when you answer they hang up and when you do a check on the number, it has been blocked. This is the things that would make me worry but to put your mind to rest, I would come right out and ask him. If he is any kind of decent Man, he will tell you if he is or not. Good-Luck!

Answer 8

When my ex was cheating on me, there were a few signs...one was that he would be secretive with his phone calls and would never leave his cell phone unattended...he would go to work sometimes extra early or come home later then usual...he was just emotionally and physically distant...if he went out with his friends, i was always forbidden to go...hed lie about his whereabouts...amongst many others that I cant think of right now...

Answer 9

well not all men act the same when they are cheating....like some men will start caring how he looks again and start buying new clothes, new colognes ,new underwear...some men become very nice to you- more i love you, more dinners out or you will hear" oh don't worry about it go have a good time with your friends"...some men start accusing you of cheating or questioning everything you do because they are out there cheating and they start to realize dam this is easy can she be cheating also .so it really depends on your man ...of course the "I'll be home late from work" or "i am going out with the guys" or he turns his cell off when he is out and on vibrate when he is with you...these are old but men still do these also...

Answer 10

First instincts are usually right. If you think it's happening then usually it is. Look for things like late night cell phone calls or text messages, working late, not wanting sex as much anymore, coming home with a full stomach, smelling like perfume or sex, or coming home smelling like soap although he supposedly was at work all day. Good luck to you!