all his bank accounts, large appliances and loans on OUR stuff have his father's name on them so I can't touch them in the event we get divorced. He has always been this way, I thought it would change when we married and it hasn't. It hasn't really bothered me except now we are talking divorce and his Dad's name is on everything. If we do get a divorce how can I prove that this is all OUR stuff and not his dad's? We live in Michigan if this helps?
2006-08-24 06:41:34 · 14 answers · asked by deet deet 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Keep are records of when items were/are purchased. In a court of law, everything is 50/50. The dates the items were bought will show that the purchases were made during the marriage.
Sounds like the hubby has some major issues that you two need to talk about. He needs to cut the apron strings. Dad needs to mind his own business.
What really disturbs me are the bank accounts. You most definitely have the right to be on it but better yet, the father-in-law should not have access to your personal financial information. Is he on your checks as well? Talk to a loan officer at the bank to see what you can do. Better yet, if you are in a financial position to do so, open up your own account. You need to establish credit that is in your name as well.
If your husband has a problem with removing Dad, run, don't walk to your nearest divorce attorney for a free consult on what your rights are. Better to know now instead of getting stuck in the future.
Good luck sweetie.
2006-08-24 06:48:43 · answer #1 · answered by bonjovigroupie 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is one of those 'in hindsight' situations. Love is blind sometimes. And while i feel for your situation you should have thought about all of this long before now.
If his dads name is on the stuff then legally its his and theres really nothing that you can do now.
The good thing is that the loans are in his name to...so guess who finishs paying for all the stuff?
You should open your own account for any money that you have now and hope its enough to get ya through.
Because any bank accounts that were opened in his fathers name belong to his father.
I'm not understanding why you'd put your money under anyones name besides yours.
But sorry for the bad news.
2006-08-24 13:45:57 · answer #2 · answered by warm_champaign 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to go out and get yourself a family lawyer who deals with divorces. Tell him about the situation and ask him if there is anything that can be done. In Washington, if it appears that there may have been an oral contract between the two parties then they will help you to fairly divide the assets. It is definitely the smartest to go and get yourself a lawyer though, they can help with mediation during the dividing of the assets too.
2006-08-24 13:58:01 · answer #3 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a lawyer NOW - don't wait! If these things were accumulated during your marriage, there's no reason you should get absolutely nothing in event of a divorce.
Stupid girl, the warning signs were there and you thought you could change him?????
2006-08-24 13:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
not sure if you work or helped to pay for some of those things, but here is a site that you might get some info on...hope it helps..I would suggest, however, just to be on the safe side....take pictures or use a video camera to record everything in your house (mostly to show that it was used by you and your husband...not your husband's father)....good luck.
2006-08-24 13:46:26 · answer #5 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly u need to talk to him and see how important it is for him to make ur marriage work i mean when u make vows in marriage u and him become one and it seems like he dont trust u with anything and it aint right u should talk and let him know how u feel and ask him y is he so protective with his stuff, well actually yall stuff
2006-08-24 13:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by sexxi k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by the sounds of it there is not much that you can do when you consult your lawyer ask him/her and they will advise you the best way to go about it if your husband doesn't split things evenly good luck
2006-08-24 13:43:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can prove it unless you talk to a lawyer. Try to work on your relationship.
U of M rocks.
2006-08-24 13:43:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You better talk to a lawyer.
2006-08-24 13:43:54 · answer #9 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll need documentation, receipts and stuff.
2006-08-24 13:43:39 · answer #10 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋