Okay long story try to make it short.I met this guy when i first moved to big city and i worked with him. We dated for about 1month, then he broke up with me.Then 3months later he called me and we been 2gether for about 8months, now. been living 2gether for 5months. Things have been rough for awhile, but we were great, good sex, good communication. Yet he is 10 years older then i am.
>then all of sudden about a week ago...no more sex, and no more sweet talk. It's like "hi" and then walk away. It's not like i don't love him. it's like ugggghh! You know. It feels weird because...i don't want to be holding on to what i think might be good(and it might not)..The advice i need is...will i always be like this? people that have been together for years...do you have these days.?
or should i wait it out?
2006-08-24 06:37:48 · 5 answers · asked by Punk_Rockin' Chick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wait...was it you or him that cut off the sex and sweet talk?
Well, either way, I guess my answer works;
He (or you) may be feeling a bit uncertain bescause you are now out of the "honeymoon" stage of the relationship, compounded by the fact that you moved in together after only 4 months of dating (kind of quick, by some standards). Now there are all the "is this forever?" type questions that are getting addressed. Plus, the age difference may make these questions a bit more pressing for him than you.
Take it a day at a time, if the bad days continue to outwiegh the good; break it off.
Me and my boyfriend have been together 4 years now and live together, we have days where we are both home but will be in seperate rooms almost the whole day, not because we are mad at each other or anything, just because everyone needs some "alone time" no matter how much they love another person.
2006-08-24 06:50:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me (just based on your explanation) that the relationship SHOULD end soon. The fact that you are questioning the way this feels to you is your first tip off. I've been married to the same man for 18 years. The part about things slowing down and getting blah is bull! Relationships are a lot of work....they are borne out of mutual compassion, effort and love and a lot of it happens just because it does...without your permission....If you want out...get out. If you're still together 10 years from now....well...that's up to you....
2006-08-24 14:32:12 · answer #2 · answered by Krtyr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly I think you need to talk to him about how you feel. Because it might not be what you think. Secondly it could be he is bored. He wants a change in girlfriend. But take note that if this happens never take him back because it will happen again. He is just using you.
2006-08-24 13:44:45 · answer #3 · answered by White Wings F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really had good communication then you'd be asking him this question instead of asking strangers.
2006-08-24 13:43:37 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you talk to him? If not, maybe its over.
2006-08-24 13:40:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋