my best friend is in love with a guy who i have talked to a few times, and he is too open about his sexual habbits. I know for a fact that my best friend, is not into that stuff, she doenst believe anything i tell her about him. He doesnt even want me alive, but she isnt going to just stop dating him. i dont like him, and i sure as heck dont trust him, i mean he did stuff with another guy, and he tells everyone about his sexual habits!!!!! its sick isnt it? what should i do, iam scared for her!!!!!
2006-08-24 06:25:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i think you need to talk to this guy and tell him the truth and tell that you are not intrested in letting your friend date this person and that you are not confortable with his desciion please email if you want more adlewis@mail.com or zootigerstriped@yahoo.com or aarondlewis@cox.net
2006-08-24 06:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by zootigerstriped 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is always a difficult situation to be in. I feel for ya love but you should prolly take a step back from it. Draw your lines in the sand.
Perhaps when she comes over tell her that while you love seeing her you wont let him take a step into your home?
This will show her likely that you're serious about the situation and not just making it up.
Love is blind. But you shouldn't endanger yourself just cause your friend is. It's her choice and while as her bestest bud you naturally wanna save her the heartbreak. If you keep butting in you might end up losing her friendship. You've warned her.
Now i'm not saying what he did or didn't do is sick. Or whatever. I have no qalms about a persons sexuality. What i have trouble with is when they arent honest with their partner and or partners. Just because he was with another guy doesnt make him sick as you've said.
You are scared for your friend which is natural but you've warned her. You've done your part. If he speaks to others about this then it'll get back to her eventually.
I think that you should take a step back, have a latte and simmer down some. Some lessons in life have to be learned the hard way.
2006-08-24 06:42:05 · answer #2 · answered by warm_champaign 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you say now won't have any effect, infect you will be her number 1 enemy. Especially when someone is in love there is no stopping. What I suggest is that just advised her tactfully and always be by her side. She will need you later when she learnt the truth. It does not mean that when a man do not talk or disclose such things means they are much better man. You will be surprise. On the other hand you'll never know. maybe he is in love with her too and she could change him. It is hard to tell because love can do wonders too. But be on a safe side and stay close.
2006-08-24 06:33:01 · answer #3 · answered by White Wings F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is not going to listen to you there isn't much that you can do about it. I agree that he shouldn't be so open about his sexual habits because that is supposed to be between him and her. However you never know what she is doing with him since you aren't there. If she loves him there is no telling what she is doing with him. As men can be very convincing when it comes to sex. Especially if the woman loves him. I would try to warn her about what he is saying but I would let her run the course of the relationship. Trust me she will learn when she is not so blinded by love. She will see what kind of a creep he really is. Just be there for her when it does end and by all means DO NOT SAY I TOLD YOU SO. Just listen and understand.
2006-08-24 06:32:53 · answer #4 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definite, i assume i could be seen a pervert by using some. I easily have a grimy ideas, I take excitement in grimy jokes and that i admire intercourse. i does not call myself a pervert using fact i do no longer deviate from the sexual norm or push the subject rely of intercourse on others or use my sexuality to make others uncomfortable. to respond to your 2nd question, I in elementary terms have perverted ideas many times on the weekends, or outdoors of artwork. whilst i'm at artwork, it somewhat is much less so yet in elementary terms using fact the persons + the paperwork at my activity = SO no longer attractive.
2016-09-29 22:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have to learn their own lessons. It's like the old saying "you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink". I think Eve is probably right when she said that your friend probably new about this guy's sexual habits. The more you push at her with this, the more you'll probably end up pushing her away....from you.
2006-08-24 06:30:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok... well... people are going to do what they want to do no matter what you or anyone else tells them... if she wants to be with this guy then let her... just because she likes him and you dont... does not mean you and her still cant be friends. just because he has done something with another guy does not mean that he is a pervert... that is his choice... just like its her choice to be with him..in the mean time... most people in the world have to learn the hard way sometimes.. but there is nothing you can really do because she is going to do what she wants to do.
2006-08-24 06:35:23 · answer #7 · answered by ~*JuJu*~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey.... to each their own. I'll bet she knows and acts like she doesnt... shes probably into that stuff behind closed doors... Let their relationship alone. Their personal life is NUNYA!!
2006-08-24 06:27:13 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, you're the one with the problem and not her. She's fine with him so let it be. If you're right then she'll learn. Perhaps the hard way, but she'll learn.
2006-08-24 06:30:12 · answer #9 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ever your friend she will not listen to you .because she will believe him.
2006-08-24 06:43:21 · answer #10 · answered by celeste a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋