I have this boyfriend, and have been dating him for almost 2 years now. This summer I was hanging out with one of our friends, who he also works with,and we ended up kissing. I told my bf immediately..and we broke up, but then got back together. Throughout the summer this guy and I hung out..strictly as friends, because thats all I saw him as...but my bf got mad..and we ended up breaking up adn getting back together again. Now we are fighting again he has said some hurtful things to me about it all, and I just sat back and took it given I deserve it for everything that has happened. I just want to know...is it time that I just let things go between us, or should I keep fighting to keep it together. I love him so much and we have been through a lot together, and it just seems a waste, but I just dont know if this is good for him or me anymore...he says he loves me, but can't trust me, but I want to earn his trust again. Should I? Or should I just let it go?
2006-08-24 06:21:39 · 24 answers · asked by thelittlevoice_16 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Learn from others, If there is no trust there is no you & him?
2006-08-24 06:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by boobi27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I unfortunately have been in the same situation, my ex girlfriend kissed a guy, and being the person I am I let it slide and forgave her. We ended up staying together for a long time until some circumstances where she and I were always upset with each other. We had been through so much adversity, but I finally decided to call it quits. We all have weaknesses, and you kissing that guy was a mistake, and I don't blame your boyfriend for not wanting you to hang out with him, on the other hand, if he doesn't trust you, then it isn't real love, love always trusts. You are the one who has to make a decision to keep it going or not, but they way you two are acting, I would say it is time to break up for good, and live your lives.
2006-08-24 06:34:25 · answer #2 · answered by Light Bringer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you are very young. If that is the case, you need to let this go. Obviously, there is something missing in your relationship with your boyfriend if you were kissing another guy. Your boyfriend has every right to be upset if you were still hanging out with this guy even after you knew it caused problems in your relationship. You never deserve to have hurtful things said to you no matter what you have done-especially in a degrading way. It sounds like you two are on a roller coaster ride, and this kind only keeps getting worse. It is not healthy to keep breaking up and getting back together. In the long run, it will just drain both of you.
2006-08-24 06:27:13 · answer #3 · answered by Stingrey25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if I was him I wouldn't be able to trust you either. You need to ditch the other guy. It appears you have a choice: Do you love your bf enough to ditch the other guy OR do you want the other guy as a friend regardless of what your bf thinks (this would only fuel distrust)? Your bf obviously loves you because most guys would be too prideful to get back together not once but twice. If I were you, I'd ditch the friend. Hanging out here and there with him is not worth the 2 years with the bf.
2006-08-24 06:26:39 · answer #4 · answered by Emi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already have your answer. You say that you don't think it is good for you or for him, so why fight for it? I'm all for doing anything for love, don't get me wrong. However, when you kissed the other guy, part of you must have done it because you wanted a change. That's when your relationship was really over, now you and your boyfriend are just having a hard time letting it go. Maybe you should take a break and see other people. Either you will realize how much you mean to each other and how much you miss one another, or you will realize that it is really time to move on and meet new people.
2006-08-24 06:25:35 · answer #5 · answered by tristen_danielle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am 50 years old and alone. My heart is still broken over the past failed relationship. I wish I could offer some good advice or hope but I lost all hope two years ago when my relationship ended and the man had lied to me and was really married. In our world today, you really need to run a good back ground check to see if the other person is married or what the real truth is. In the future if you wind up in another relationship, I would run a background check as many people lie and they are not what they seem to be at all. I wish you the best. Good Luck!
2016-03-27 03:46:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl it may hurt because you love him so much, but it is time to let the relationship go and if it is meant to be then you will end up back together. I was in a relationship for 7 years and I am only 20 years old, we were madly in love and I felt as though I couldn't live without him and I felt as if the arguing would get better and eveything would be fine but i was wrong. I ended up pregnant and he is now with a 39 year old woman because I wouldn't take him back after he cheated on me, and he wanted me to feel as though I did something wrong. Leave because if there is no trust then there is no love.
Sorry that I bored you with my story, but I hope I helped
2006-08-24 06:31:12 · answer #7 · answered by SweetPea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you lose trust in your partner its very hard to get it back. If you really love eachother then you will both fight for it but remember that BOTH of you have to work on it together. You should not be with a person just because you've been together for a long time. Take this time to re-think all the good things you've had and still have. Best wishes.
2006-08-24 06:26:21 · answer #8 · answered by chipsey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let things go...Never, Never go out w/ co-workers or your mans co-workers or friends...Because now hes right he cant trust you..thats an almost impossible thing to make up..
"It takes a long time to earn someones trust, and a second to ruin it!!!" I've had to let three relationships go because it just wasnt working out..not easy to do when you commit so much time in to it, but dont let it continue, at the end you really dont want to devote anymore time in something that in the long run will be not work anyway...Good luck
2006-08-24 06:30:07 · answer #9 · answered by Jelly bean c/0pecosmakita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think before you go any further you should ask your b/f if your love is worth it. You were honest e-nuf to go to him and let him know what happen b/w you and the friend. He should respect you e-nuf to know that he can trust you, and that you love him and you are human, you made a mistake and came clean. If he loves you he will get over it and move ahead with your relationship. And not keep throwing it up in your face. If you see that he is throwing it up in your face then quite naturally he can't get pass it. And he will soon try to get back at you with someone else. (Something that he has probably already done).
2006-08-24 06:33:27 · answer #10 · answered by mrsbingobabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not advice u to leave bcos he still loves u enough to get back with u after what u did to him. my own advice on handling this problem is; pick a NICE time, when his CALM plead with him not 2 interupt and tell him that "i need 2 let some things out".Let him know that u @ fault for what happened,promise for it never 2 happen again and u would need his help in bring back d lovely days into ur relationship by reducing d suspicion bar a bit lower. on ur own part try to b open as possible(ur movement),get rid of that guy(d Kisser) nad lastly show him extra TLC
2006-08-24 06:55:30 · answer #11 · answered by Blinch B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋