My boyfriend is trying to get me to do it anal and i'm scare that it might hurt...so what should I do.
2006-08-24 06:13:41 · 41 answers · asked by Helen L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
From what I understand, it will hurt. It will hurt you for awhile and for the first number of times you try. In the future, it will also continue to hurt. Unless, he is small.
Why does he want to, and why don't you? If you don't want pain during sex, don't. Also, maybe you will be better off offering a fair trade. He gets to, if you get to. Then see how committed he is to it.
2006-08-24 06:16:48 · answer #1 · answered by Labrottweiler 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys like it because it is much tigher... and because that means you are doing something that WE want... its a power trip thing. Not to mention, then he can brag to his buddies that he stuck in your butt.
My suggestion... have him test the idea out, by sticking a couple a finger in...and then maybe a 2nd. This should give you an idea of what its going to feel like. Later, if you still like it, have him use A LOT OF LUBE, and have him take his time if ya'll are going to have ANAL sex. Just remember... if you do this for him... he should do something for you....
Here are some ideas... that will make him earn it.
Go running for a couple hours...and then tell him that you want him to go down on you... ha-ha... mmmmm. If he gets you off a couple times or more... then you will try anal for him. Lol.
Tell him you want a Rim Job. Ha-ha... who knows maybe he will? Maybe he already has...and this is a bad idea? oh well.. give it a shot. Make him earn this treat from you.
2006-08-24 06:59:34 · answer #2 · answered by the_thoughtless_ponderer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only do what will make you feel comfortable. Just try to remember that there is a large segment of the population that engages in anal sex and love it. They can't all be wrong. Maybe you should consider it.
2006-08-24 06:31:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I experienced it one time with my husband and he enjoyed and it was very painful to me to where my butt was sore for days and I never tried again and told him anal was off limits. I think men like anal because the anal area is more tighter than the average vagina and the men get more feeling and lots of pleasure is the way I understand it!
2006-08-24 06:21:20 · answer #4 · answered by mikdar001 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because it feels good, maybe....look, I enjoy it myself, but it's not for everybody...if you're not comfortable with it or ready for it, don't do it, because it will hurt. You have to be TOTALLY relaxed. If you decide to do it, great for you....just make sure he knows upfront that he HAS to go slow, and when you tell him to stop or slow down...he doesn't hesitate in doing so. The first time or two you will even feel kind of funny afterwords...kind of like you gotta' go to the bathroom...but just make sure, the first few times at least, that you use something like KY. If you want to try but are too scared, maybe talk to him about trying different toys made specifically for that purpose first...anal plug, anal beads, etc...you can get them in different sizes....whatever you do....take it SLOW.
2006-08-24 06:20:26 · answer #5 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Dont get scared >> It wld hurt more
2. Tell ur Husband to do a RIMJOB (licking over there) >> Would feel better and stimulate the urge to have anal sex
3. While doing doggy .. use good lubricant and tell ur hubby to insert a finger very very very slowly ..
4. If you feel comfortable .. continue .. If not STOP immediately ..
5. Use a BUTT-PLUG or a vibrator to make it smooth ..
6. ONLY when u feel the plug or the vibrator is running comfortable inside of you .. allow his D.I.C.K.
You have only one life . Try everything enjoiable .. Dont get scared for pain .. i wonder when u loosed ur virginity u got pain too .. but if u have not looosed that .. u cld not b able to have the best pleasure of life
Enjoy
2006-08-24 06:45:21 · answer #6 · answered by Aronyo m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men like anal sex because it is another hole for them to out their penis in. Anal sex is not painful if your partner is gentle and you use alot of lubricant.
2006-08-24 06:19:51 · answer #7 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really hurts. Fetish people love it because they like torturing women. Anal sex is pretty demonic because men actually takes your pain as their pleasure. I don't think it's a good idea to do it.
2006-08-24 06:18:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I like because it feels good and I know a lot of women don't because they worry about the pain but if it is done right the pleasure takes the place of the pain. If you would like to know how email me and I will tell you but I can't put it on here because the last time I did I got penalized 9 points
2006-08-24 06:19:16 · answer #9 · answered by freeatlastboone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything you're not comfortable doing. I have some friends who have tried and they said it hurt for days and didn't even go through with it. Imagine if you went through with it? Plus, it is an unnatural thing. If he's your boyfriend you shouldn't be having sex anyways. Wait till you are married as God commands.
2006-08-24 06:17:26 · answer #10 · answered by Mom of 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋