I moved out and he moved to where I am now. So has he moved on or not? He still wants sex and we still go on family outings. I says it is hard for him to leave me and the kids. So what do you think I should do?
2006-08-24 06:11:58 · 34 answers · asked by denimuh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
takes two to tango
why arent you pushing him away
sounds like you want him also
2006-08-24 06:14:38 · answer #1 · answered by Xae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can still see his kids even if he's not living there. As for you I think it's time for you to kick him out. If you let him keep on like he is you'll be the one who gets hurt. He either what's his family or he doesn't so it's time for him to choose.
If you don't do something now he's going to move on at some point and where does that leave you. Time to cut things off now for your own good.
2006-08-24 06:21:32 · answer #2 · answered by patty c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably more the kids than you which have him sticking around. And he probably feels bad about that, so he pretends to be still somewhat interested in you (family outings). Sexually, he may still dig you, but a marriage relationship isn't just about sex—it's important, but sex should be more of an expression of the larger relationship between the two of you. That's lovemaking. Otherwise, you're just *******...something any mammal is capable of. You should do whatever you feel is best for you. If you don't mind the ******* and can deal with your relationship being a shallow physical one, have fun. ****. But if you aspire to something more, you best cut ties...because you're not going to get it from him, and anyone else you encounter will not likely appreciate the fact you're ******* him but are supposed to be in a relationship them.
2006-08-24 06:21:45 · answer #3 · answered by Barone52 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me he wants his cake and eat it he thinks he has the best of both worlds.
Don't sleep with him any more I know you still have to see him because off the kids but don't let this guy walk all over you I know its easy for me to say this and you may still love him but move on and find someone new who will be better for you and the kids in the long run.
Wish you luck
2006-08-24 06:14:57 · answer #4 · answered by Foxy lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He claims to have moved on, but expects you to keep catering to him and his needs? That's not right. You need to give it to him in black and white since he obviously is not getting it. Saying something like: "You say you have moved on- do so. I appreciate that you still are there for the kids, and I understand that this is difficult, but you made the decision that you didn't want to be with me any longer. I am a human being, not a toy." should do the trick.
I would also advise that if you haven't yet started the divorce proceeding, you do so immediately.
2006-08-24 06:14:57 · answer #5 · answered by blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he has moved on then why does he keep coming back for more! yes allow him 2 see his kids but dont give him anything else he wants its also time for you to move on don't hold back tell him how you feel! even though you may enjoy giving him what he wants its not going to be good in the long run remember that!
2006-08-24 06:18:42 · answer #6 · answered by XXPrincessOfFashionXX 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell this dude that he can not have his way if he has moved on then don't allow him around you so much. You can control how often he's around you. You are making it to easy for him to have his cake and ice cream. When he wants to see the kids okay, let him take them to his crib and you are allowing him to accompany you on family outtings. why? When he has removed himself from the family. You have to give yourself and him the time and space to think through this situation.
2006-08-24 06:23:06 · answer #7 · answered by LaToya L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a terrible thing to have your husband say. cut him off from sex, if he is "moved on" then there are no reasons why you should be intimate. the kiddies are another thing. being a family is important, but you are not just a mother, you are a woman. keep them separate. if he slept around, you are also sleeping with whoever he decides is his new move. nasty
2006-08-24 06:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by insane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's moved on and has someone else don't be having sex with him ... he has defiled the marriage with this type of behavior... stop the sex and keep his visits with the kids and you go find something else to do - don't be around him.... he will continue using both of you.
2006-08-24 06:15:01 · answer #9 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes in limbo hes trying to figure out his feelings.he keeps coming around you to see how you are and figure out if he indeed still loves you or not.but if he says hes with someone else and said he doesnt love you. id be watchful going places with him and spending too much time with you because as much as it hurts he might decide to leave you anyways.and if its bothering you why not sit down and talk with him sometime about what is really going on and then you can get some closure so that you can move on as well.
2006-08-24 06:16:33 · answer #10 · answered by emmabugg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like he does not want to be with you anymore but wants to control you and probley doesn't want you to be with anyone else, but has no interest in getting back with you. a good way to let him know that you are over him and that he can't controll you is to act realy happy around him and don't ask alot or any questions about him keep with the small talk and act like you are just as happy as you could be. also think to your self, would you cheat or be with someone else right after leaving him. If not then do you think he deserves someone like you.
2006-08-24 06:27:19 · answer #11 · answered by nicky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋