How do you "stop trying" to get pregnant? I mean, God bless you all for trying to help those of us who are trying to get pregnant. But when you want a baby so badly that it hurts, it's always in the back (or front) of your mind. How do you stop focusing on it? How do you get it out of your mind? Because every time my husband and I make love, we wonder...and it's difficult not to wonder. I'm not so stressed out that I'm obsessed about getting pregnant. But there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about it several times. I don't know how NOT to think about it. Thanks in advance for any genuine answers. God bless u.
2006-08-24 06:07:04 · 17 answers · asked by DMSGIRL 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
My husband and I tried for almost 4 years. I would pray every time we would have sex that this one would be the time and every month when I would get my period I would cry! I finally convinced my husband to get checked and we found out that he had a very low sperm count. He was then put on some medication to boost his count. It did not work. We were then told that there would be no way to get pregnant on our own. We then decided that we would wait a few months before we paid for IUI. I then prayed, "Lord, if it is your will for us to have a baby then I feel I am ready, if it is your will that we not have a child then I know you have a special plan for our lives." It wasn't 2 months later that I found out I was pregnant. We now have a beautiful baby boy! IT IS hard to relax and forget about it, but it works!
2006-08-24 07:16:41 · answer #1 · answered by me:0) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well here is some advice take it or not . its up to you. ok well i have two beautiful baby boys and i am trying to concieve again. i am from a big family and so is my husband, we are fourtunate enough to have the funds to make a big family. i do not work my husband has a great career. i stay home with my two kids. but anyway enough about me here the advice. don't stop thinking about babies. don't stop trying and don't listen to the fools out there that tell you other wise. You should know your cycle by now. But that does not matter. Have great sex every day. the best time to do so is in the morining when his sperm count is higher . Drink red wine one glass a night. and relax. enjoy the baby making .because when you do and you will get pregnant you will not have a chance to have sex as much. make up for lost time lol..... but relax is the best advice. and think baby . . . . you are doing the right thing and you are a great person who i am sure will make a great mom. good luck and never give up ...
2006-08-24 06:52:17 · answer #2 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the exact same thing. and really there is nothing you can do. If it is all you can think about, it is all you can think about. Maybe if you just relax and take a break for a month or two then you will feel better. Stress can prevent you from getting pregnant too. What I mean by take a break is, everything you are doing right now to help become pregnant, STOP. taking your BBT, checking Cervical Fluid, anything you are doing. I know it will be hard but you CAN do it.
Maybe see your doctor and start fertility testing. It could be you just as much as it could be him.
And just remember, if it is meant to be, it will be.
Good Luck and I hope you conceive soon.
2006-08-24 06:30:15 · answer #3 · answered by CareBear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not one of those people. Unless you have gone through the frustration and pain of infertility, you have no right to tell others to "just relax". My sister was told that thousands of times. Guess what, she had clogged fallopian tubes so no relaxation in the world would have helped her. She got an aggressive fertility doctor and got p[regnant on her 4th invitro. She is only 34 and already her ovaries are working as slow as a woman in her 50's. If she had waited to get a check up, she would have never had her beautiful son. And it burns me to hear idiotic comments like "Maybe God doesn't think you are ready...or doesnt think you deserve to be a mother." Don't listen to ignorant people. If a person can not walk because they have an operable spine tumor, do people tell them "Maybe God doesnt want you to walk or Maybe you dont deserve to walk or Its God will that you be wheelchair bound" NO. Of course not. They tell him to run to the nearest surgen and get the medical help they need. And that is what YOU need to do. Also pray with all your faith, it will help you ease the anxiety if you completely trust that God will bless you the way you need to be blessed. It worked for my sister. And if you need a copy of theprayer to the Child Christ just e-mail me. Best luck.
2006-08-24 06:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by TrueSoul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been trying I know that its hard not to think I'am I pregnant this month then your not. It took me four years to get pregnant with my fourth son. So I could never feel what your feeling becuse I do have children. So atleast I had other children to be thankful for but I got remarried and it took me four years to get pregnant with our son I was not on birth control or anything but I had started to put god back into my life and went to church every Sunday and 3 months later I had gotten pregnant god bless you If he doen't bless you with your own child maybe he has diffrent plans for you. Adoption I dont belive your baby has to come from both you and your husband all children are made from god. Maybe his plan for you is to love a child who isn't wanted
2006-08-24 07:26:15 · answer #5 · answered by marriedwithmore 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What they mean is not to concentrate on it. Don't keep charts, use thermometers. Just do the things you do and not make it a stressful time.
When you are stressed (and when you are keeping charts and using thermometers, you get pretty focused on the goal making you stress about the situation. You may not feel as if you are being stressed, but most likely you are.) you are less likely to ovulate, therefor you do not ovulate on your given day and do not get pregnant.
If you free yourself from the stress and just be "If it happens it happens" then you are more likely to ovulate correctly and then conceive.
Also when sex becomes a chore (Just having it on certain days so you get pregnant) most will stop enjoying it. Less enjoyment, less of a chance. When a man is not excited about the act, sperm quality and quantity will decrease. And also if a woman enjoys it less she is going to produce less mucus in her vaginal area, the mucus is used to carry the sperm to the egg. Less mucus and sperm, less travel.
Enjoy your sex life, have fun when you get to together, don't stress, and don't monitor.
2006-08-24 06:22:32 · answer #6 · answered by The Invisible Woman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard trying and not getting pregnant, it tends to breed anxiety however, if you have ruled out all the other medical factors such as endometriosis, pcos, fibroids and low sperm count or varicocele, then it may not be time yet. I have been married 5 years and I would love to be we have been trying but I enjoy my hubby and I feel that when God is ready it will happen. If not then maybe you should try IVF or other means of assisted pregnancy
2006-08-24 06:32:09 · answer #7 · answered by leci 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI,
I know exactly how you feel! I try to forget about it too, but it is always there, or the thought of it just creeps up on you . I t is very hard not to think about!! I guess just enjoy being with your husband! Thats what I do, and I guess treasure the moments now when it is just the 2 of you, because when that baby comes those moments will be scarce!! Good Luck, it will happen!
2006-08-24 09:44:11 · answer #8 · answered by olivia_andrew69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not one of those you are addressing this question to, I'm one in agreement with you. It took me a total of 13 months to conceive my first baby, which was after a miscarriage. Thankfully I have an agressive (for lack of a better term) OB that came out and asked me how quickly I wanted to get pregnant. I had already been ttc on my own for 2 months, so of course I said "right away". My OB took action immediately and put me Clomid. My cycles were regular, but I didn't know exactly when I was ovulating. It turns out, although I have regular cycles, I don't ovulate regularly, so Clomid helps me to ovulate. I got pregnant my first cycle taking Clomid, which is when I miscarried (but had nothing to do with the Clomid). After 8 more months of ttc, with the help of fertility meds and charting my bbt (basil body temperature), my OB decided to do a laparoscopy to see if I possibly could have PCOS. It turned out I had endometriosis, which my OB removed and I conceived the very next month. I am currently in my 2nd month of ttc baby #2. Since I didn't conceive last month, my OB had me get an ultrasound on my ovaries this morning to check my folicles.
My point to all of this is that I know how much ttc can consume your thoughts, so instead of just worrying about it, get a good OB that is just as eager for you to get pregnant as you are. Also, try to educate yourself so you know what kinds of questions to ask. I was the one who researched PCOS and brought it up to my OB. Had he not taken me seriously and scheduled my laparoscopy, I may not have my baby girl. Also, I have found that by educating myself, it helps me to understand a lot more and take some of the stress off.
My OB put things in perspective for me. He said for all the things that have to be just perfect in order to conceive, it's a wonder it happens at all. I come from a huge family, so I took it for granted that I could have children whenever I decided it was the right time for me. I never thought I would have fertility problems. Hang in there and keep positive. God Bless U 2!
BTW - throughout ttc my OB was constantly testing for everything he thought could be a problem - including having my husband's semen analyzed. You have to cover all the bases!
2006-08-24 06:31:57 · answer #9 · answered by Melissa B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi we have been trying to have a baby for 3 years now and like they are telling you everyone keeps telling us to stop trying and it will happen and that is impossible so when we started going to a fertility specialist i asked him about it and he told me that does not stop you from conceiving and that the longer it takes the more feelings we would develop so don't let people tell you that if you don't think of it you will get pregnant because even a doc says it will not work good luck to you i wish you the best
2006-08-24 07:41:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋