My husband willingly seeked out a position in another state. He is currently commuting weekly and is home on the weekends. There are times when he will be home during the week and works from home. He will stay in office all day only to come out and give attention to things that are important to him. Such as gym, furniture shopping, etc. I think it is important that he take time out to interact during breaks to have have dinner with us or spending time with our 2 year old. It would be nice if he would GIVE me a break. I provide care for 4-5 children at a time and he never offers a break to me. I did not sign up for this and feel like a single parent.
2006-08-24 05:45:32 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not permitted to move out of state because I have a child from a previous marriage. I can not afford the emotional and financial battle it would take to do this. Not to mention I am not taking my son away from his father who both have a awesome relationship. My husband took this job willingly he forced out of his company and he did not lose his job. He wasn't happy in current position so he seek out another position with the same company in ANOTHER STATE.
2006-08-24 05:56:41 · update #1
Sorry typo...he was not forced out of the company or let go.
2006-08-24 05:59:07 · update #2
I have found that many men get caught up in the providing financially role for their family. They don't stop to think that spending time with their family is probably more important than the monetary issues.
It sounds as if you need to speak to him, find out if he's unhappy in the marriage. Ask him to try to spend more time at home and doing things with the family. Tell him honestly how you feel and taking care of the house and children completely on your own is becoming very overwhelming. Possibly suggest counseling.
2006-08-24 05:50:20 · answer #1 · answered by LSGregg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a new job maybe he is way to focused on doing a good job. Have you tried to discuss this with him? I do understand how you are feeling, taking care of children and a home is a lot of work. My suggestion is to try and talk to him, if this does not work then stop fixing him dinner, washing his clothes etc, let him know what he is taking for granted. As far as moving closer to his new job I would wait a little while just to make sure that the new job is going to work out - and it is expensive to move. Maybe the next weekend instead of him coming home maybe you should visit him in the other state.
2006-08-24 05:53:21 · answer #2 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
comments: good day, did not you comprehend that he became a vacationing worker once you purchased into this relationship? it truly is what they do. you've 2 options....both bypass decrease back to artwork when you've your 2d baby - and characteristic an entire time nanny or you may basically save on doing what you're doing. even with the undeniable fact that it sounds want to me, you spend too a lot time doing for absolutely everyone else, that you want some a lot necessary YOU time. you want to regulate a visit out with pals, or basically through your self....and leave the guilt in the back of. in case you do not do something for you, you'll spend all a at the same time as regretting the marriage, the youngsters, the canines, your existence, and so on... take a spoil previously it receives the more desirable helpful of you.
2016-11-27 19:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband is really selfish. You should really talk to your husband or just tell him you would like to move to the state where he's in - or how about taking the kids for a weekend at the state where he works?? My husband has to work in the UK for a week, every two weeks (we lived in France). And when he comes home, he does as much as he can to spend time with me and my son. I know it's a hard situation but I appreciate his effort to come Friday night to spend the weekend with us.
2006-08-24 05:52:28 · answer #4 · answered by carpenoctrum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off is your husband willing to sit down and talk with you about your feelings? Did he even consult with you before taking this position? If you answered no to any of the above then you are married to a selfish jerk. I think you both should seek out counseling to save your marriage.
Good luck and remember don't ever settle for less than you deserve. And you deserve the best! ((Hugs))
2006-08-24 05:50:41 · answer #5 · answered by kickass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he can't find a more suitable position to spend more time at home, what do you want him to do? Are you willing to make sacrifices in your lifestyle? Is he? Is it worth the seniority, pension, time off, to start over with a new company? all things to consider and it is like this for a lot of families.
2006-08-24 08:48:32 · answer #6 · answered by Carp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever you do, dont use this as an excuse to cheat.
he provides and in doing so is preoccupied.
I say, if you dont like this go out get a job, then let someone else take care of the kids during the day.
what did you sign up for?
2006-08-24 05:48:28 · answer #7 · answered by Xae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to sound mean or anything but are you sure he is working...That story sound familiar (like mine)... And I found out he is living with someone else too... So, I suggest you check it out. Don't tell him anything yet but hire a P.I. or do what I did...Did my own investigation got pictures, emails, text messages, and other evidence to prove me right. Then I confronted him...
2006-08-24 05:56:03 · answer #8 · answered by Sad&Lonely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him that and if he doesn't change then you will have to decide if you want to spend the rest of your life in this type of marriage
2006-08-24 05:49:15 · answer #9 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIM !!! Tell him you want to move to where he's working!!! Then see what happens...could be he's seeing another woman out of state. You'd better check up on him.
2006-08-24 05:48:05 · answer #10 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋