2006-08-24 05:43:57 · 26 answers · asked by Beautiful 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get tested for STDs, get counseling, and if necessary a lawyer, in that order..
2006-08-24 05:45:54 · answer #1 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um, are you saying that your husband cheated on you?? Cuz if you are, I would say for you to sit down and talk it over w/ him. Don't feel like a total loser, and that YOU had to have done something wrong for him to do this to you. No, there is something wrong w/ HIM.
Just sit. Talk. Bring over the woman he was cheating with. Chances are, she didn't know that HE was married to begin with! He probably feels guilty, and if the other woman has any sense at all, she will feel angry at your husband for not telling her the truth, and then she will feel sorry for the grief she has caused you.
Work it all out, girl! Maybe your husband will feel wronged for what he did, and you will be together again, the knot stronger than ever. You just never know, but try to think positive about the situation!!
Good luck, and God bless you!
2006-08-24 05:53:19 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Just Another Broken Heart♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think adultery ruins a relationship, there is no going back the damage is done, unless you are a really strong person. I was cheated on and I took him back, but things were never the same and years later we were divorced. You just loose respect for that person and without respect in your marriage it's all down hill. Sorry for your pain. Good luck, it's hard to overcome this trauma
2006-08-24 05:47:25 · answer #3 · answered by e_deckwa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from experience, I did a lot of soul searching and 7 years later was remarried to my husband. A lot happen in that 7 years but I believe most of it was coming to the realization that I deeply loved my husband and would do anything in the world to have him back. I would not trade him for any man.
2006-08-24 05:48:56 · answer #4 · answered by Reptile lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to figure out if it was about sex or love for him. If he cheated on you and it was about sex, then it depends on how much you love him and want to make the relationship work.
If it's about love, and he loves this other person, and he's cheated on you with this person more than once, it's time to move on.
Make sure that either way, if you decide to stay, he knows that you won't have it anymore, and the next time WILL BE the last time.
2006-08-24 05:47:56 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is a deal breaker for my marriage. I think it is time for you to get your life in order in the event you need to leave. I think you need to leave, but this is your life. Get a lawyer, file for separation, and move on. I hate to say this but most men who cheat will do it again. And if you just found out I am sure there are a bunch of other rats you didn't uncover.
Don't waste your time trying to figure out WHY. Don't think there is something wrong with you. Focus on what you need to do to move on and better your life.
2006-08-24 05:49:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheat always a cheat! There's never a good reason, and of course he'll never do it again, yea right. Get out sweetheart, believe it or not there are men out there who will only and always want you. Think about why you married and how long you knew each other, is it worth it? Only you can decide.
2006-08-24 05:55:07 · answer #7 · answered by charlestonbabygirl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you don't have a huge choice. You can forgive him and stay in the relationship; or you can kick him to the curb. Depends on how much you love the man and how much you can convince him that if he does it again, you're gone. You'll have to take some time to learn to trust him again and he'll have to work extra hard at it. So make your choice and follow through.
2006-08-24 05:49:48 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things: forgive him, try to work it out, or leave him and get a divorce.
Remember you have the power to make a decision. Don't be a victim of circumstance. Now's not the right time to feel sorry for yourself, but act upon a decision in order to make your life better.
2006-08-24 06:05:14 · answer #9 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you think you should do???? You have 3 choices - (1) Leave him (2) kick his butt to the curb (3) forgive him and try to fix your marriage. Decide which is best for you - not the two of you (yet) and then procede!
Good Luck!
Aloha!
2006-08-24 05:46:49 · answer #10 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is something you will have to decide. The things to consider would be : Has he done this before? Do you beleive he will do it again? Are you able to forgive him ever? Is he willing to do what it takes to earn your trust back? Does he just expect you to get over it? IF it were me I would probably end up leaving him.
2006-08-24 05:48:24 · answer #11 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋