I been in a relationship for long now, my boyfriend and i have a baby together he comes over two days aweek. Usually we have intercourse wen he comes over, i almost never say no to him. I'm looking for wart for marriage but he hasent askt the ?. Some one told me today " why pay for it when u can have it for free" is this true???? Will it help speed up the process if I hold off on sex???
2006-08-24 05:43:26 · 6 answers · asked by Twilight 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Let me get this straight......he comes over twice a week and usually gets sex when he does? What kind of a father and/or relationship is that? Does he foot any of the responsibilities or just reap rewards? I don't know if "holding out" is the key to getting a marriage proposal but I certainly wouldn't be "putting out" every time he comes over. I hope that isn't what he is coming over for. I would really examine your relationship and have a talk with your bf about his role as a father and in this relationship. It sounds like something definately needs to change. Right now, he gets the benefits of marriage and parenthood without any of the responsiblities associated wtih it. Why would he change that? That someone is kind of right.....why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?! Stop dishing out the milk unless it's just one of the ingredients in a healthy recipe. Good Luck.
2006-08-24 05:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by Super-Mom9 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These guys out there make me so mad. They treat women with such disrespect. Your boyfriend sounds like he comes over two days a week just for sex, nothing more. He hasn't asked you to marry him yet, probably because he never intends to. You both have a baby together, so why wouldn't you be either married or living together by now? Probably because he wants his freedom the other five days of the week and it's easy to get sex from you the two days he does come over. If you stop giving him sex, he will most likely never come over. And if that happens, it will tell you that he never really loved you or respected you, and believe me, you'll be better off. To answer your question, no, I don't believe it would speed up the process of him asking you to marry him. It will just end your relationship sooner rather than later, which in your case, is probably the smartest thing you can do.
2006-08-24 12:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by cynthiajean222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. If your boyfriend were interested in marriage you would know.. it would have been something you discussed. Honestly it sounds like you are a booty-call... You can't force someone to feel or do something that isn't in them to do. You need to sit him down and explain how you feel and ask him how he feels. Until you know where you stand with him it will be difficult for you to move on with your life. Good Luck!!!
2006-08-24 12:48:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys have a baby together, just talk to him and see what he wants to do.
2006-08-24 12:46:20 · answer #4 · answered by grrrrme 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hook up with his friends... and tell him that you are hangnig out with them just "as friends"... That will get him to pop the question - trust me.
2006-08-24 12:48:05 · answer #5 · answered by Badspe11er 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you ask him directly to decide one way or the other?
2006-08-24 12:47:56 · answer #6 · answered by openpsychy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋