It always astounds me to see how much a woman will take from her man. This is especially true when it come to black women. It seems that we have come to accept everything from a man whether it's infdelity, or tragically, even HIV/AIDS. Why don't we have enough self-worth to ask for and expect only the best from our men? Is it that, underneath our neck-twisting and diva attitude, we really are insecure? Is it the male to female ratio? Why do we always allow the man to keep the ball in his court? I am also curious to hear your responses. Men are welcome to answer as well.
2006-08-24 05:40:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just to let you know, I have the bestest husband in the world and I am very happy, but I DO remember being in a terrible relationship in which I tolerated a whole heap of things. In my experience, I WAS desperate and incredibly naive. I hadn't been in a relationship for about a year and finally I met this guy who cared about as much for me as he would a piece of lent. But thank God I know have the love of my life. Still it worries me to see so many women inceribly unhappy.
2006-08-24 05:53:44 · update #1
I have no idea.
But what I put up with is minor annoyances compared to infidelity or STD's.
2006-08-24 05:43:18 · answer #1 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I see it the other way around a lot more now. Women are keeping the ball in their court more often.
If you're speaking specifically about the Black community, that's a whole separate topic. We have severe issues as a community that are hurting us. And Black women need to step outside of "Black men" sometimes to be happy. There are SO many men out there. When you stay in one group you must cut out those that are gay, not your age, not your type, in jail, hangin out on the block all day ... what are you left with? Men are men and come with all the same tools. Lets begin to open up a bit- Black men, Asian men, Latino men, White men ... there all good! And I say enjoy! Life is short.
2006-08-24 05:55:11 · answer #2 · answered by Recreantess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WE love deep and we love hard. Once that love is broken we can make them wish they never knew us!! I know for me I had to get rid of the I can save them and help them mode. Once I did that I have been in a healthy relationship and i don't take no crap> I let him know off the bat i am with you because I love you not because I need you. That there has to be mutual respect.
2006-08-24 05:48:37 · answer #3 · answered by twinsmakesfive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What black women are you talking about
not the ones in California
they dont put up wit shite
now maybe with a white boy cuz thats money
but black women are shallow when it comes to us brothas
you talk all that but still lock us up.....
I aint buyin into this one
2006-08-24 06:03:24 · answer #4 · answered by Xae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We're naive. And a man knows just what to say to keep you around and loving him. I have a b/f who needs everything his way. I do really love him, but he's taking away who I am. Yes he pays for everything he provides for me, but can not bend just a little to make things easier for the both of us.
My identity is gone.
Lost forever for the love of one man.
So naive.
2006-08-24 05:49:01 · answer #5 · answered by jessi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you kidding me???? I always heard black women dont take crap from their men...lol. But ill admit-- i do take crap from mine but there IS also a line that when its crossed--- im gone. I guess it all depends on the crap hes dishin out.... i think if women were more independent BEFORE they met the men it would be alot easier to up and leave if need be... instead of always feeling we NEED them
2006-08-24 05:51:02 · answer #6 · answered by heavensent41770 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can be true with all women but this morning when I was under the sink trying to unstop it I would like to have one of those good men-
2006-08-24 05:46:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've seen this with my mom. She stuck with my dad even though he was an alchoholic, had no money and no job for years and she had 3 kids!!! Why would she stay with him? I have no clue and probably never will. All I know is, I'll never be that dumb.
2006-08-24 05:45:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It cuts both ways.
Women taking 3 hours to get ready; always late; inability to make decisions regarding simple things like a place for dinner, something to eat.
Women needing to sleep in; Women wanting equality but not wanting to work;
2006-08-24 05:43:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Chicks want guys that lie, cheat and beat. The good guys don't have ladies, the assholes have many flocking.
2006-08-24 05:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by gg_kelley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋