Do you have one of those relatives who.....?

Question

acts like an absolute moron whenever your whole family has to get together for a wedding, funeral, etc??

Our aunt passed away after a long battle with Alzheimers. My sister lived with her for five years. My husband and I lived next door and helped every day. It was very hard on the three of us. Our aunt's extended family never reached out to help.

At the funeral the three of us were seated in the front. As everyone was walking by to say their final goodbyes to our aunt, they also walked past us and said a few words. I'm sitting there bawling when one of my aunt's cousins walks past and says really loud, "You ARE taking that ring off her finger before they bury her, aren't you?"

The day of the wake, this same cousin came dressed in old jeans, a wrinkled shirt and her old tennis shoes. She explained in front of our pastor that she hadn't had time to change. For Pete's sake! It's not like the wake was a surprise! She also made a scene at the restaurant because she couldn't eat meat (she was the only person who was Catholic at the table). We never meant to exclude her because of her religion, which is exactly what she implied. By the way, she could have chosen to go to the enormous buffet offered by the restaurant instead of eating the "family style" menu we had chosen. The waitress brought her a beautiful platter of a variety of foods. Her response to her was, "Well, this is too much. Do you expect me to eat ALL of this?"

She's in her 50's and a professional. What would make someone act this way! It made an already difficult day unbearable. I was in no mood to argue, but I did say a few things in a tone that was unmistakably curt. I hope I never see her again.

About the ring, we going to take it with us. It was her cousin's timing in asking us. She could've asked us at the wake in private.

I also don't want anyone to think I'm being petty about what she wore. I forgot to say, she told us she was gardening and didn't have time to change. I have gone to wakes in my work clothes (scrubs), because I would have missed being able to go if I went home to change. So I understand that time and work are factors, too.

Answer 1

She sounds like a completely caddish narcissist, she'll probably only get worse as she ages. Just be calm and try to put it in perspective that if it hadn't been a horrible day for you already you might have been mildly entertained by her outlandish behavior and have something to talk about to the other family members. But instead I have to say I hope you feel better about the passing on of your aunt. I hope I have caring family as you are around me when I'm old. :)

Answer 2

I'm an indian and a muslim. I've witnessed a funeral once in my village. A very respected member of the village had passed away. All the Muslims in the village gathered the same day and prayed for him. No one was asked or forced to come. Everyone did it willingly. Its the same for any other person. In Muslims if a person dies whom you knew, you go to their funeral. Nobody forces you. And also when you hear about someones death You (muslim) are supposed to say ' We belong to Allah (God) and unto him we return'. I've never seen a person like the one you described but if did I 'd tell her either shut her mouth and stay or leave. i mean who's gonna miss her.

Answer 3

About the ring... I can see where someone would say that because a lot of funeral homes and such are known to steal jewelry off the dead. However, I think most funeral homes seal the casket in front of the family so it's impossible. If they don't, then question why!

Answer 4

you know things like this happens to most of us,..some people dont just have respect or seems to care about other peoplel even if they dead or alive,...and some care more about the earthly things than anyother thing you might think of. you know if this was a friend you might not have any thing to do with her again,...but it happens to be a member of your family.
in a situation like this,..you can be carefull of the very words you say to her,....and try to distant yourself from her so you dont get to say what you really dont want to say to her,... and that might bring a big missunderstanding. if you are a christain pray about the issue in your family and ask God to take control.

Answer 5

It sounds like she wanted attention herself, she was obviously very selfish and rude, its hard to believe she is a professional,
I think a lot of families have one of these in their families, usually the ones who have nothing to do with the family any other time, and then they make a grand entrance when given the chance.
I am sorry that you and your family had to go through that.

Answer 6

i never been to a wedding but i will when my sis will get married in like a year or two so i say no or i dont know lol

Answer 7

no sorry ..

WHO.......?


WHO is THAT ...?
not sure , if that was me or not...
not sure ,if that one who is naked as a dewdrop..
and that one who stand there,...
and watching you with his heart,,

not sure , if that was me or not...
that face which is full of ,
nails ..
and storms ...
and rocks...
really i am not sure of that ..

but i am sure ,...
that,that one whom loved you ..
and never loved any one like you ..
and always dream of you ..
that was me..
and sure i am from that ..

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Answer 8

she's not getting laid apparently.