I am a hard working college educated woman. I do a good job, stay at my desk and do my work, but each time I?

Question

Sign for a job that is more money I am told I dont qualify. I have been offered a job but that was a 2 dollar pay cut and being a single woman, with a house and makng my way by myself, I will not go down in pay. I am getting angry that none of my basic requests at work are being answered by my manger and I feel that this is rude and maybe I am being slowly phased out. My department is being closed out slowly and moved to another location and I will move, but since an old co-worker came back to the department, I am being dumped from the position I was sure that was going to be mine. I want to stay with the company (good insurance, benefits, etc.) but feel that I am not being given any opportunites what so ever. I find myself so angry at work and I often find myslef dwelling on work even when I am at home. I often get upset stomach aches before coming in each day. I know I am intelligent but just dont seem to be given a break. I am here every day and work hard. What should I do?

Answer 1

You don't say how long you've been with the company. If it's not been long, it may be unclear just what your capabilities are, which might disqualify you for transfer or promotion.

If the company is downsizing and your department is among those being downsized and/or phased out, it's quite possible that the company has other "displaced" workers that are being shuffled around and they would take priority over workers that still have a job position. These things are usually done on a seniority basis, so how long you've been working there may be a factor.

As this situation may take a long time to resolve itself, you might do yourself a favor by looking for another job instead of waiting for the axe to fall, especially since the situation disturbs you so much and moreso because you seem to be in a position where you need job security and benefits.

I have been in your situation in the 70's when major industries were computerizing. My company, a large national bank, had hundreds of "displaced" employees who had to be reassigned to other departments. Promotions were non-existant because there were so many who were in higher positions in their former departments and who had seniority. The company estimated that it would take up to two years to dissolve their pool of displaced employees. Rather than stick around in a dead-end job and, to add insult to injury, have to "train" a stream of supervisors for the next two years at least, I left. I haven't regretted it.

Re-assess your options and look for the warning signs. You may do yourself a favor by jumping ship.

Answer 2

I am the more educated in my relationship. My bf isn't stupid, he's hardworking, he's good with money, and he's a wonderful guy in general. He brings a lot to the table. We love each other. We make enough money and we share it (what's mine is his and vice versa). Don't assume that someone with only a HS education can't bring something to the table. Having the chance to get an education doesn't make you a better person, and the lack of a college degree doesn't automatically doom you to being poor and unsuccessful. I'll be getting my Master's soon, and he's got a GED only. However, he is by far the most wonderful guy I've dated. He's hardworking, down-to-earth, and he treats me better than I ever have been. I know that if I lost my job or had some emergency, he would provide for us. He's a wonderful father (to 3) and we're expecting our first child in November. He'll pay for things while I'm on maternity leave, and I have no worries about that. Please don't judge people by their credentials...I've dated men with PhDs and doctors and none of them came close to making me feel the way my guy does. My bf knows that I want to get my Master's soon and he's amazingly supportive. He wants me to do what I want in life, and I want the same for him. Because of all his hard work, he'll be able to retire early with some real estate investments and support me if I wish to do the same. I haven't decided that one yet. Just remember, people can surprise you. I am very much in love, and with someone I never expected to end up with. Love doesn't match people up by education or background. This guy is definitely the one I will marry. I know many highly educated women dating less educated men (happy couples), so maybe you should let go of that stereotypical idea that men are the more educated in relationships. Good luck to everyone.

Answer 3

You have a few choices.. you can stay there and grin and bear it and try and build another business at home on your own til you can create substantial income that pays you what you're worth so you can quit that job, or you can go to your manager and complain. I know of too many people that are overworked and underpaid, hate their boss, hate their co-workers, and some even hate their jobs. Sounds like you like your job enough that you'd really like to stay but if it's making you so angry that it's bothering you physically, maybe unconsciously, you really hate it. You can do what thousands of other people do, stay where you are and grin and bear it for just a little longer, check out http://www.bedavis1.mywayout.net/ and get started making an additional stream of income to the point to where you can actually walk away from your job and say, "I'm being paid what I'm truly worth". And then live the lifestyle you richly deserve.
Good luck!

Answer 4

It sounds like there's not much of a future for you with your present employer--and that may have nothing to do with you. Update your resume and start searching for another job. That will either validate the value of your skills or indicate what other skills you may need. Or you may find a job that's a better match--you don't have to accept it if you want to stay with your current employer--you could use it as leverage for a better position or a raise. But the description you've provided makes your present company look unattractive.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Could it be that your boss is a bigoted male and you are being passed over simply because you are a woman? Does happen in some workplaces ya know.
I say, stick with it as long as ya can girl. Just go to work, don't make any waves and do the job you're paid to do. In the meantime, update your resume and start looking for something different. Don't lose hope.....dedicated, hard-working people DO get noticed!
My other suggestion would be to find yourself a hobbie or something else to take your mind off of your work.
Best of luck to ya hun!!!

Answer 6

Stay and deal or go. Personally, I would go. Sounds like you ticked off the powers that be and you are as high as you are going to get. There are lots of companies out there with good bennies that won't halt your progress. Find one of those and work there.

Alternatively, you could meet with your boss and ask them what more you should/could be doing so you can qualify for some of these positions. He should be talking to you about your advancement track within the company anyway.

Answer 7

I think you need to find a new job. If you are this unhappy, find a different job. Sadly in this day and age, hardworking dependable people are NOT given any acknowledgement. Have you asked other potential employers that have screened you as unqualified, what exactly makes you unqualified? You cannot find a solution if you can't identify the problem.

Answer 8

Talk to your manager about this situation. If he or she does not give you a satisfactory answer, then go to his/her supervisor. Don't stop until you get a satisfactory answer.
Of course, it may simply be time to look for a new job.

Answer 9

You need to either accept your circumstances or try to find a position with another company and see if that helps.

Answer 10

You need to move along. This job isn't good for you .