I'm sharing my life with this man that hurt me a lot of times, rigth now I dont know if it's better to leave him or what. He says that he is going tu hurt my fealings everytime he feel is necesary because "I do it too" (not true), but if somebody can give me an advise, rigth now my mind is in fog and I dont know what to do, Im suffering and that's certain.
2006-08-24 05:11:02 · 19 answers · asked by Rainy Heart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If they keep apologizing but doing the same thing over and over its time to go because they are not sincere they are just saying what you want to hear. If you're not happy you shouldn't be with him, what he is doing is verbal abuse.
2006-08-24 05:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by Coco 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how he hurts u!! does he rlly love u? if he does try and help him out maybe hes going thru sthg!! look i can never advise some1 to leave their partner.. especially if theres a love story!! but if ur suffering everyday!! if he makes u sad more than making u happy.. i would actually advice u to reconsider the relationship.. U should ask him questions.. take him for a walk and talk about ur feelings, make him understand that u wont tolerate any hurtful behaviour.. just show him that ur not gonna accept anymore hurt, maybe that would help him change in a way!! dont just give up.. try to talk about it first if that doesnt work.. i guess u have to move on.. u know wat i mean by that!! u dont deserve to b hurt!! be happy and smile!! thats wta u deserve-- and a guy telling u that he will hurt ur feelings whenever he wants is ur answer to all ur questions.. if he loves u.. he will never have the heart to hurt u!! plz think about this!! its ur life!! not his
2006-08-24 12:15:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all forgive him and make up you mind and take you things and leave, because there is no room for hurting people in this time of age. The reason to forgive him is if you forgive, God will forgive you also, and by forgiving you are being set free from obligation and any regret. So there is no reason to stay if you know that he is going to hurt you again, and besides there are men out there who is waiting for you to love you as you should be loved. Why stay with someone who does not care about you and said that he is going to hurt you again, common sense will tell you to turn and run and be far from that person, a bit of advice, leave before you cannot able to get out and and before it gets worse and even abusive.
2006-08-24 12:20:03 · answer #3 · answered by samoy y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey,
It sounds like he doesn't love you...anyone who loves you would never intentionally hurt you. And if you did hurt his feelings...#1 I'm sure you did not do it intentionally and #2 He should be man enough to tell you what you did that hurt his feelings...so that you can both work on it. How immature and ignorant for him to turn around and hurt you. Why would you want to hurt someone you love? Good Luck Dear...I would move on....you deserve better than that...thats just abusive.
2006-08-24 12:44:11 · answer #4 · answered by Smoops 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no cause in the long run he will do it over and over again, thinking you let him get away with all those times so he is going to keep doing it. You can forgive but not forget and that is for sure. You dont deserve to get treated like that and he has no right to do so. There are so many men out there that will treat you like you need to be treated he aint going to change especially if he says that too. its not fair to you, he blames it on you cause he dont want to blame it on him. advice find someone who loves you and don't blame you or play games.
2006-08-24 15:40:35 · answer #5 · answered by hopelovesu2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he's not sorry, and seems to think he's doing it for your own good. It depends on what's hurting your feelings. Is he calling you names and running you down? Or is he really trying to help you and you can't take criticism? If he's not even willing to change the way he tries to "help" you, he's just hurting you for some sick kick. If he really loves you and these are things he thinks needs to be said, then he should be willing to find a way to say them that doesn't hurt you. If he's playing some tit for tat game, he's immature and you need to move on. Love shouldn't hurt.
2006-08-24 12:19:05 · answer #6 · answered by R. F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With his state of mind" hurt my fealings everytime he feel is necesary" , you need to leave him. He's not trying to make your relationship work.
2006-08-24 12:14:53 · answer #7 · answered by Asia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how does it feel? Do you like this masochistic feeling? Some people do.... they just enjoy the pain so much they keep asking for it, love the repetition, can't live without feeling something so they accept the negative. It is up to you...do you want to live without it? Nobody can make that decision for you because you won't listen anyway. Are you packing your bags yet or listening to yourself?.
2006-08-24 12:18:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to get hurt over and over - then you'll have to leave. If it is worth to you to be with this man - then getting hurt is just the price you have to pay. What is it that's important to you in a relationship? Only you can answer that.
2006-08-24 12:21:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi and how are you doing.not to good the way you are talking.well everybody deserves forgiveness.but,you don't intentionally. just keep hurting someone you love,that needs to stop.on both sides.it sounds like there needs to be some maturing on his part,you don't set out to hurt someone.you need to sit down and talk to each other.find out what it is that you both need to do to keep your relationship going and if you cant come to and agreement then i would go my way and he could go his you need to do this before you mess around and get preagent,and feel like you have to stay.good luck
2006-08-24 12:45:18 · answer #10 · answered by Tina H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After he hurt you once, you should have gone, yet you hung around for him to do it 'a lot of times'. Ask yourself 'Am I mad', for quite honestly, I have always thought that you women who stand for it must be slightly crazy. Don't give me all that crap about 'but he loves me'. That is pure unadultrated sh*it. No man who loves a woman will harm her in any way. Kick his ar*se out of it and find yourself a man who will treat you as a woman and not as a punchbag or object of abuse..................
2006-08-24 12:17:27 · answer #11 · answered by thomasrobinsonantonio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋