i've been with my fiance for three years now and i love him but i'm not at all attracted to him anymore. his ways & filthy habits have become so gross to me that i really don't want him touching me. i don't know if i'm shallow or if he could do better with his upkeep and hygene, it's like he knows i love him and he "has" me and he doesn't even try to keep his looks up to par. i sware he is like so many women i hear guys complain about once they get the ring and they let themselves go.
I have brought this up to him so many times in the last year i can't count and still no change, I feel like he doesn't care what I want so long as i'm still here, princess needs advice you guys...
2006-08-24 04:59:11 · 15 answers · asked by princesstheruler 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first, you could do the childish thing and flip the scrip. become the most discus ting woman alive. fart on his head and all that fun stuff. OR.. have you tried to over compliment him when he does take a bath or whatever? if he is lookin good..make a big deal about it, get all hot and sweet. OR give the guy a break, it is not all together unusual for someone to get over comfortable in a long relationship.
2006-08-24 05:16:44 · answer #1 · answered by insane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look if you are not happy with him and the things that he does then you need to leave him. If talking to him hasn't worked, then he wasn't listening to you and thinks that you won't leave him. Maybe he is trying to be nasty and gross to make you leave and he might not have the heart to tell you. i would sit down with him and tell him the way he is being and that you have had enough. That might actually open his eyes and see that he needs to do something about and maybe after ya'll have had some time apart then he will realize what he had loss and he will never make the same mistake again.
Good Luck!!
2006-08-24 12:11:21 · answer #2 · answered by baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, it's only going to get worse. If he really cares about how you feel he would have done something about it. You can tell him what I told my fiance "No more sex til you start looking more presentable" and if you continue to be a slob I'm gone. It worked, but my fiance thought I meant for just that night, he soon realized I meant everyday with an occasional slob Sunday. Things got better, but I can tell you that if it didn't get better I would have left. Good Luck
2006-08-24 12:12:31 · answer #3 · answered by CLM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's too bad princess. If he's not willing to change his nasty habits or behaviour, and you can't stand another minute of it, it's time for you to go. You're not being shallow either if you don't want him to touch you cuz it gross you out, who wants to make love to a dirty man??? I don't think this is a healthy relationship, better decide now.
2006-08-24 12:07:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done all you can. You answered your own question when you said you are "not at all attracted to him anymore." This is different from putting on a few extra pounds. Hygiene is totally controllable. Let him know that you plan on leaving him and why. Keep in mind that if you do this, he may be brutally honest about his feelings, i.e. "Screw you! Take your sh*t and leave!"
2006-08-24 12:05:20 · answer #5 · answered by jax0817 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put a scare in him by letting him notice how other guys are clean and groomed and how sexually aroused and proud they probably make their girlfriend. Hopefully he isn't so far gone that he gets the hint. If not then boot him to the curb where he belongs
2006-08-24 12:04:13 · answer #6 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awh. I am in the same situation as you are. He will not shower in 2 or 3 days, he wont shave, he lives all dishes dirty, he does not even throw his trash. I am so fed up and I am lossing my patience, but it seems he does not hear what I say. I ask nicley several times until i HAVE TO SCREAM JUST TO GET HIM TO DO THINGS. If you find a solution please let me know.....
2006-08-24 12:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by star bright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him an ultimatium, teh way he carries himself reflects on you as well, if you make an effort to look good and be neat he should ditto, or comment on how you miss his clean self and what it did to make you happy, he will get the message
2006-08-24 12:03:19 · answer #8 · answered by vagushue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Onwards & upwards darlin....theres 6 billion people on this planet & 1/2 of them are men. Throw his *** to the curb!
2006-08-24 12:06:16 · answer #9 · answered by guvner_46 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him to either clean up or you will end the relationship. If he is like this now, imagine how awful he will be if you marry him.
2006-08-24 12:01:15 · answer #10 · answered by lavenderroseford 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋