Why do black women seem like they disapprove of black men dating other women of other ethnicity?

Question

My husband is black and I'm Asian. We've been married for six years and it seems like when black women see us together, I get looks or just stares.

Answer 1

I am a Afro-American woman and I don't have a problem with it. Those who do have problems are upset because of the less amount of good black men that are not in prison ,on drugs,homeless,abusive or dead beat dads etc....Give thanks to God and pray for them because there are a lot of lonely black women who are in need of a good man regardless of race.
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Answer 2

Not trying to be politically correct like the rest.

First of all I really think you got it all screwed up. Black women are offended by this because most of our black men are in jail, gay, dead, on drugs, or just not worth it. And most of the black men that date outside the race are successful and well off financially or about to be. And we pretty much know that if you were a regular good guy working a decent blue collar job they wouldn't look at you twice. But black women would be there for you no matter what and that is not worth anything when you have these so-called good white, asian, hispanic, girls on your arm. It's just offensive. We also know that it's harder for us to date outside our race because we are often considered loud, belligerent, aggresive, or just plain ghetto. So our options are limited. If we have a harder time dating outside the race and our own men don't want us or not worth the trouble, then where does that leave us. Bitter and angry. So when we do see it of course we're pissed

Answer 3

From what a friend of mine told me she gets mad because and these were her exact words " its hard enough to get a good black man when all you have to compete with is other black women but when you have to compete with the every color under the sun for one it doesnt leave much to choose from. " Sadly she still sees color even though we are friends and I am white she would never date any other man than a black man . It will be really nice when people stop color coding people. I look at it this way the color of my car isnt what makes it run its whats in the motor that counts . When people stare just smile nicely back at them and feel sorry for them since they obviously still havent figured out how to see past color. Dont even think twice about other people and what they think as long as you and your husband are happy thats all that matters. What other people think is of no importance. Hey maybe they are staring because they think you are really cute or something. DOnt let it bother you what ever reason it may be.

Answer 4

I think it's because black women feel the pickings are very slim when it comes to "good" black men. So when they see a black man with a woman of a different race, it makes them wonder why the man chose a woman outside of his race. In other words, either he thinks black women aren't good enough or he thinks he's too good for black women. This is what I've observed and been told. Personally, I date any and everyone and I am not bothered by interrational couples. I'm a black woman by the way.

Answer 5

I have to agree with another one of the answers, "the pickins are slim" theory. I have read countless interviews, stories, books and such related to this subject. I am a white women who has only dated black men. (It just happens that way). I have only encountered two problems during my 17 years of this. The problem (black) women have with black men dating outside of their race is best described like this: Black men are either married, gay or in prison, and the ones that aren't are with white women (this includes other ethnicities). I have read and heard this sooooooooooo many times. I'm not saying all black women feel that way, because of course you can't group all people together, and you can't generalize, but it seems to me that there is a lot of this mentality going around, meaning there aren't enough for them (black women). My cousin is biracial, white mom black dad, and she can't STAND to see a black man without a "sista" on his arm. It infuriates her to no end. I don't understand that because she is a product of the opposite, but to each his own. All I can say is don't let it bother you and stop thinking about it. The great thing about "people" (in general) is that we all have our own minds. The bad thing about "people" (in general) is that we all have our own minds. Think about that.

Answer 6

Because they do.

Look, America is messed up and a lot of black men aren't worth the sperm that help make 'em 'cause they are caught up in "slave" mentality (having a bunch of kids they don't take care of, having a bunch of women, not holding down a job, going to jail) so when a black woman sees a successful (I'm just assuming your husband's not a loser) black man with a non-black women it just plugs into our own stereotype that black women have no place in a successful black man's life.

If 1out of every 3 brothers were good men, things might not be this way (in the Bahamas where you can hit successful black men where ever you turn we've only started having a problem because we now have BET and what our Prime minister refers to as BET mentality).

Then you have the brothers like Wesley Snipes who say sh*t like "Black women aren't good enough, they have too many issues, they are too demanding, that's why I date Asian women (I guess y'all are supposed to be docile dummies who take a bunch of sh*t) which really ticks me off.

Just keep your head high. If your mans with you 'cause he loves you good. If he's with you because he wants babies with "good" hair and a "nice" complexion, then YOU have problems, let those sista's deal with their own issues of race and ignore it.

Answer 7

Born in Louisiana, Edward Joseph Perkins, the former US ambassador to South Africa during the Reagan years, is black and married a woman from Taiwan, Lucy Chien-mei Liu.

Answer 8

Most black women are jealous natured. Many of them feel betrayed to see a black man with any other race. Those are the racist black people. You will not get this behavior from a black person who is not a racist. Believe me they do exist. What ever you do don't blame all black people for the racism you receive from some.

Answer 9

I don't think they dissaprove, I think it is different and you don't ever see these type of couples.... Only some black women, dear, not ALL! If you see a white man and a black woman, people in general will stare too.

Answer 10

because those black women are idiot and have low selfesteem, are jealous and pathetic and try and come up with excuses like all the good black men are taken by these women of different races... they are just jealous that they cant get a good black men because they suck and they try to blame it on every other factor but themselves