Anyone else feel like no one will ever understand them?

Question

I love to be alone away from the influences of common people. I have grown into this feeling because I have never really related to anyone else. I drove myself crazy as a youth trying to imitate the ignorance of my social group?
Anyone else have feelings of disconnection from the main stream. I feel like I will have gone through life without anyone having come close to understanding me. I have little desire to ever have anyone understand me, I use to has a youth, but now it doesn't mean much to me. I ask this question out of curiosity, not sadness or despair.

Answer 1

I dont think anyone will truly understand me. At the moment I am sad about this. However it is a good thing if you have come to terms with it and are quite happy on your own. So good on you. I might be there in a few years.

Answer 2

I totally relate to you. It is difficult for people to comprehend one can enjoy solitude at times or just grow a little disconnected from others simply because we feel we don't connect with some people. I used to wonder if I had a social problem, but since I am very friendly and easygoing I just desisted the idea. I dont have much friends, only one. I am more of a quiet person and crazy, stupid things are not really attractive to me, but can be wild sometimes. People often tell me you must Make friends like if it was a must. I already have a friend, just one. I am an analytical person and sorry but I don't trust anyone. I observe you, and believe everything you say without paying much attention to it, sort of placing it in a middle ground, sleeping with and observing the enemy. I just make sure I am Happy and emotionally stable, as no one but yourself can give you happiness. I haven't been abused to suffered, I grew up like this because it has been too many years of observing and analyzing people. If you find someone and this person shows to be worthy keep them, value them, praise them and love them as the truth is, they are very scarce.

Answer 3

Happens all the time. Thats why sometimes being different or an individual is kinda hard. Of course people will have their own perception of you, thats normal. But you need to accept yourself just as you are regardless of what other people think or says. People can never truly understand you because you're the only person that knows whats going on inside of you and how you feel about certain things. Sure you can talk about it but some people will never truly understand how or why you happen to see or feel the things you do. You need to accept that as a fact. Only you and only you can truly understand yourself. After that you can relate better to people. Its all about looking inside of us instead of looking to others to define us. Know who you are before someone else can know you.

Answer 4

I am not shy in social situations, though at times my being different in my mindset makes me aware I'm alone in the end:That's what makes everyone special on this earth- not their similarities, but their differences,not their interactions but their reactions to whatever the world passes before their eyes.
People think I'm crazy and that's good 'cause I am and am happy that way! I am gregariouis and outgoing and at other times thoughtful and introspectively introverted-I feel that these moments of introspection are a good thing so I'll know where I am in this world, and the legacy and memories I'll leave behind.

Answer 5

Yes. And sometimes, oddly, I get the opposite feeling. That I understand everyone and everyone understands me, because at root levels we are quite the same. But we think our lives have made us so different. And on the surface I'd agree. But peel back the layers and ... we are just trying to live. When i keep that in min, I find that I am a more compassionate person and less judgemental. Till that guy in the 18 wheeler cuts me off and I wish for him to get 18 flat tires all at once.

Answer 6

I am basically the same way, though I don't want anyone to understand me anymore, I am not lonely, I am very happy with who I am now. I did the same things when I was younger, trying to fit in. Be yourself, be happy, don't worry about what others think of you, why be mainstream? If you are a good person and do right by others don't worry about being mainstream, sometimes that does not work anyway. Good luck.

Answer 7

I am sorry you feel that way. My son is a lot like that. He doen't care to explain his thoughts or feelings and has always been an "outsider." He has one very close friend that he confides in and that has helped him a lot over the last several years.

He may never be like everyone else. That's ok with me, I love him without conditions or restrictions. I'm sure someone out there loves you the same.

Answer 8

YES. Don't Konform.
You're probably very intelligent and creative. You are an "outside the box" thinker. You enjoy time alone and time to create. You probably like the company of other people but don't need them as a crutch.

Be yourself, do what you want. Find people who will accept you regardless.

Don't be trapped into following "norms" especially with your career. You'll hate yourself for it.

Answer 9

Hi Aaron,

There are others like you out there. I completely understand what you're saying. My daughter would completely understand what you are saying (now we have eachother).

The problem with your route is that if you back out completely, you won't find those people who you could relate to in the way you desire.

Sometimes I am lonely for smart conversation, but I just read instead.

Answer 10

When I figured out that I just wasn't born with a book of operating instructions, I learned to look at other people and see how I could be of use to them. That is the begining of love, and I have a loving relationship with a man who is my best friend, lover, and husband.
May God grant you wisdom, young soul.