I am with my baby's father and have een for 6 years but i am falling for my friend, what do i do???

Question

I have been with one man for 6 years now...we got pregnant very early on and now have a beautiful and intelligent 5 year old. For years and years I was not really "allowed" to go out and have friends or wear what I wanted to wear. Very recently I met a friend (male) and he opened my eyes and made me realize I deserve more. I let my baby's father know how I felt and how disgusting he has made me feel over the years...now he is willing to change. He has been doing a great job treating me right and FINALLY taking time out to spend with our child and picking her up from the babysitters and whatnot...but now I am falling for my friend. Any suggestions? I am so freaking confused! I want to keep us together for the sake of my daughter but I am not in love with him anymore...

Answer 1

If your friend is a real friend not a player he won't let you break up your family. "In love" = infatuation comes and goes, real love sacrifices and lasts forever. Maybe your baby's father doesn't come from a romantic...background and you need to teach him what you want. You say your baby's father is changing at your request, what more could you possibly want? How do you know you won't eventually get bored with the newbie or that he won't get bored with you?
Think about what's really important for you and follow your mind and heart not just one; your heart and mind should agree if you want to be happy.

Answer 2

Well You need to remember that as a man that I am, sometimes we say thing to other woman in order to get what we want... You know what I'm talking about. Your so call firend might want just a flame because sometimes what is out of our reach that is what we want... But if you already talked to your man and he had done mayor changes in his life for you and your child, then you can not denied that he loves you. And that is something very hard to find. Think now about your child best interest. Good luck and God Bless EFIL

Answer 3

Well, if you are not in Love with him anymore and are sure.......you need to move on. However, I would suggest that you get some counseling in order for you to figure out what you want. Are you feeling this way because this guy is showing an interest? What if this guy dumps you and then what.....will you want the child's father back? You are confused and before you make any drastic decisions......you need to figure out where you are. NEVER make a decision based on someone else.........you will live to regret it!!

Answer 4

Well its pretty di-ck of your part tha tu r even confused, the man is doing everything to change and make u happy for you. You have a child and you start havin feelings for someone else cuz they gave oyu good advice?!?! YOu have a lo tmore of maturing to do, and hopefuly you won't fuc-k up a good thing for dumb confudsed feelings. If your hubby is doung a good job u r definately unfair and messed up, but u r pretty damn cute

Slap your head a few times and work things for the best ( your babys best )

Answer 5

Maybe you are just going trough a stage... or obsession for your friend maybe you feel you like him because of the way he treats you, but maybe you like him like a brother or just a real close friend who is there for you. You should try to work things out with your boyfriend, remember he is the dad of your daughter and if he is changing is because he doesn't want to loose you. Well good luck in your decision, and God Bless.

Answer 6

You need to figure this out and quick. This is the rest of your life. If you feel your life is not fulfilling with her babys father you need to move on for YOURSELF. You do need a guy who is going to open you up and show you the world. We all deserve that. We do not live in Afganistan where they cover their woman up. PLease maybe give him another chance but if you do not feel it. move on. It will be hard but well worth it in the long run. I always ask myself when I am sixty will feel like I had a fulfilling life. If I feel like I get off the path I try and get back on. You need someone with you to work with you not against you. Good Luck

Answer 7

Look you need ot think of it this way k? who said that if you decide going with your friend thats its going to work out huh? You dont know that, just because you have feelings for osmeone doesnt mean you need to drop your whole llife and go with your feelings. This is what I mean. You talked to your man about falling apart from each other and all that, AND HES REALLY TRYING TO MAKE IT BETTER AND SHOW YOU HE WANTS TO BE WITH YOU. now thats love! cant you see that he wants to stay with you, because if he didnt he wouldnt care and just let you leave. But he loves you and wants to stay with you.
But your friend, you dont know if its going to work out, but you have osmething now that will

Answer 8

think about your child first. you fell out of love because of how he was treating you, now he is trying to make it right.. give your relationship a chance, without outside interference (other guy) and "date" each other all over again to try to fall back in love...

Besides, your "friend" knows your with him and seeing you.. Hmm If he is doing it now, with you, what will stop him from doing it again with another if he is with YOU.

Answer 9

Girl, go and get your friend and give him a good treatment in bed and see how he reacts to this and measure what do you feel about it. When a woman keeps this type of feelings round and round into their heads and hearts it can be very destructive. A woman is unfaithful first in her mind and later with her body.

Answer 10

You need to work on your marriage for the sake of your child. It will not be easy, but you need to build a friendship with your husband, and then work on the romance. It may not work, but if you can make it work, it will be good for your child.