because if my wife gets promoted she'll make more money than me. I don't even really like the idea of her working at all, let alone making more money than me.
2006-08-24 04:12:06 · 69 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
How about you get over yourself...
Enjoy the extra money man...
2006-08-24 04:12:55 · answer #1 · answered by samram@rogers.com 2 · 6⤊ 2⤋
why you should be so proud of your wife. this is a shame to hear that you would go as far as move to keep her from bettering herself just because she will make more Money then you. why you ought to be ashamed of what you said.Your Wife needs your support and your being happy for her. Any man would say "honey I'm so proud of you"! I'm not a man But, I'm a women that sees right from wrong. In this case you are wrong. Admit it and be happy and supportive for your wife.So what if she makes more Money than you do. You are in a Marriage that means your Money goes to feed both of you.When you married your wife , the two of you became one. You have a great wife that has done very well for herself, getting a promotion is a Honor! How can you even think about not being supportive of her with this opportunity! This is America! I don't mean to come down on you so hard But, don't you agree that you have been acting a bit childish about this. It's OK for you to feel a bit on the bad side since she will make more then you. But, you need to get over that and start saying so what.........My Wife Makes More Then ME! I better work harder now to keep her. She's pretty and someone else would probally gladly have her if I can't get over it. You need to do a bit of rethinking this situation.
2006-08-24 04:30:30 · answer #2 · answered by SecretUser 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
helloooo what century are you in? What is wrong with your wife getting promoted? Do you have any idea how hard it is for a woman to get promoted these days? So what if she makes more money than you do. Big deal, at least there is money coming into the home right? Bills get paid? Extra money to do things? What would happen if God forbid something happens to you and you are unable to work? Are you telling us that you would rather go broke and lose things than let your wife bring an income home? Come on, nothing wrong with her getting a promotion. I say good for her. Be supportive money isn't everything you know. Be proud of her she probably deserves it.
2006-08-24 04:25:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try to look at it this way . If your wife gets promoted her self esteem will go up, she will feel worthy in her job position. You don't say how old she is but let me give you insight to women here. As women reach the 40's or so they come into their full power. Look at the women in powerful positions in the country . Though you may not like what they stand for here are a few to look at who have come into their full power; Hilary Clinton, Martha Stewart, Condalezza Rice, etc. You cant stop your wife. She is beginning a new journey now i implore you to go with her. I suggest you stand by her, support her efforts and hard work for this promotion. She is not thinking any less you of as that is your masculine ego taking over . Society tells us the man should be making more money when in fact does it really matter who is? You are together for better or worse, for richer or poorer... Step out of you ego and pride .. support your wife. You'll be glad you did. ( and so will she ) Good luck.
2006-08-24 04:21:56 · answer #4 · answered by cherylanne 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A few years ago, my wife was making 5 cents an hour more than I was. I jokingly mentioned it to my boss, a man, and he immediately gave me a 10 cent an hour raise. This was all done in humor and my wife even chuckled. Nowadays, I'm collecting a social security disability and she's still working and making more again. No problem here! But if you are genuinely serious with this concern, I'd say that you've got a big sexist ego problem, pal. Get over it and be happy for her and together, take the money and run.
2006-08-24 04:33:31 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
How about u stop being an a** and start supporting your wife. We live in a new age now. It's good that a woman can make for money than a man. That means women are finally stepping up in this world.
Why would you want to move. Do you two have children? If you do, this isn't a good example that you are setting.
Seriously, YOU ARE AN A** and not a very good husband I might add!!!!!
2006-08-24 04:31:44 · answer #6 · answered by Lady C 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Actually, a man's pride in providing is a great virtue that many men lack, in today's age. That is why there are so many abandoned mothers and children. Every man should have provisional pride.
However, if you gave your wife the impression that you supported her job when you didn't, that is your fault. You should not have lied to her. The wisest decision would be to tell her your thoughts.
Also, never be intimidated. If anything, let your wife's success inspire you to achieve more. Men are very potent creatures. The only limit a man has is godhood. Other than that, there is hardly anything a man can't do.
2006-08-24 05:36:38 · answer #7 · answered by man_id_unknown 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are some men out there who feel the same way as you do. Get over your pride issues. More money in the household......it not like you do not need it. Support your wife and let her know how you feel. If you making more money is that important go back to school increase your knowledge base and get a better job! Do not tell your wife to not take something that she has worked hard to get is not really supporting her...whenever you have negative thoughts just focus on your wedding vowel's.
2006-08-24 04:34:16 · answer #8 · answered by Lady D 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can prevent from getting promoted by insisting that the two of you move, that is if she is still willing to be with you after you do that. It's too bad that her success makes you feel so insecure. I know plenty of men who would be happy for their wife were that to happen. How can you say you love somebody if you can't celebrate their triumphs and successes? That's what love is all about. Go get some counseling, dear.
2006-08-24 04:18:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh, Justin, Justin, you must be just out of your mind and out of this world too! Think positively - if your wife makes more money, she will naturally spend too and to that extent your expenditure will get cut short! Maybe you don't need to spend on meeting her needs, for example!
The fact that she will get promoted does not depend on your liking but on her merits and it should serve as an encouragement for you to work hard and get a promotion or a better job so that one day you may be able to earn more than her, if you like! So, Justin, learn to live and let live. Let us give the women their rightful place in society and we men have a responsibility to work in that direction too!
2006-08-24 04:24:55 · answer #10 · answered by Sami V 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Now that is just about the most selfish thing that I have ever heard. Did it ever occur to you that maybe she deserves this promotion because she worked very hard for it. You should be congratulating her. I am sure that she would love to hear you say that you are proud of her. You can't control her. She's apparently full of ambition and that is wonderful. She could sit on her butt and be a couch potato all day long and just get fatter and fatter until she isn't even attractive to you anymore. At least she is good for something right. Just love her and be proud of her. God Bless
2006-08-24 04:17:58 · answer #11 · answered by Amy A 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋