Since having my son in March, my ability to orgasm during sex has diminished. I had a cesarean. I'm only about 5 pounds heavier than when I got pregnant. I am concerned. I've never had a problem like this before. My husband is wonderful and feels awful that he cannot "get me there". I know its not his fault. Is there anything I/we can do. I'm very frustrated! Please only serious answers!
2006-08-24 04:05:35 · 15 answers · asked by Emily E 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Oh I feel your frustration. My son was born via c-section in Dec of 03, and it was at least July of 04 before things were back to "normal" again. Try not to stress about it too much, although I know that's very difficult. Are you breastfeeding? If you are, that probably has a LOT to do with your lack of being able to achieve orgasm. (Also, somebody above mentioned it, but try some "solo" time, just to reconnect with yourself) But remember, you're tired, you just had a baby, you've got a million things going on in your life, and sometimes sex takes a back burner for a little while. Your body has just gone through some of the most incredible changes, and things are probably a little different now. You may also want to broach the topic with your OB just so that s/he is aware. Good luck!
2006-08-24 05:17:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your little boy is still very young, maybe your hormones are still up in the air since having him.
Also, even though you and your husband are totally relaxed and want sex, its natural for your son to be at the back of your mind really, whatever the reason - u listen out for him incase something happens to him while u and your husband are having a bit!
Try relaxing a bit more, ask your parents or your husbands parents if they would be able to look after your son one evening at their house, that way you can do something you used to do before you had a baby and mayb if your more relaxed it might get things back to normal...even if its just for the one evening!!
Good luck with what ever you do to sort this problem out, xx
2006-08-24 11:24:32 · answer #2 · answered by splight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took quite some time for sex to even feel slightly good to me after I had my son. I felt the same way...actually I felt guilty because my husband would get even more excited when I climaxed, and it just wasn't happening. I felt guilty for making him feel inadequate, even though he was perfectly fine! It was probably a good 8-9 months after I delivered (natural drug-free vaginal delivery with very small episiotomy) before I started having orgams again. We ended up buying special lotions and gels, and making it more of an intimate session instead of focusing on the orgasm. Trust me, your orgasms will come back! I'm pregnant with #2 right now, so just know that you're not alone with your feelings, and that you will "return to normal", whatever is normal for you!!
2006-08-24 12:14:55 · answer #3 · answered by geminiparody4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a cesarean when i gave birth to my daughter in october and seemed to have the same problem for whatever reason. it seemed as though i couldnt relax myself all the way anymore when i was having sex with the father of my baby so when he would go to work i would masterbate and things would work fine. so i guess i really dont have an answer for you but just recently like a month or so ago was i able to start having orgasms with him again.
sorry...i know that wasnt much help.
2006-08-24 11:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by tat2dprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice of course would be to see your doctor.
Are you taking any medications? Is your son your first child?
My guess is that you body is taking a little extra time getting back to what you consider to be normal for you. Make sure that you and your husband do a few things to make your bedroom "mommy free". Try to turn off Mommy and become the lover again. It is a hard transition for first time Mommies. It takes some work and patience.
And remember that stress is the first thing that will cause problems.
Good Luck...
2006-08-24 11:10:28 · answer #5 · answered by MoMattTexas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may take a year or so before you can achieve orgasm again. After having my daughter I didnt orgasm for about 9 months. She is now almost 2 and sex is as good as before I had her. Your body just needs time to heal and adjust . When you get pregnant and have a baby your body basically goes through a metamorphasis.
2006-08-24 11:07:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If youre breast feeding it can have a huge impact on your sex drive. Also, march wasnt THAT long ago, and it takes a while for your body and hormones to level back out.
I wouldnt worry about it just yet. Just relax and focus on enjoying the physical contact with your husband. You'll find your climaxes come back eventually.
If youre super concerned you can totally bring it up to your doctor.
2006-08-24 11:07:53 · answer #7 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably a new mom, hormones still adjusting, type of thing. Many women don't feel quite up to the task after having a child. Give it a little time and try to relax. Worrying about it won't make it happen any easier.
2006-08-24 11:09:34 · answer #8 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that your mothering duties affect you psychologically. You may be overwhelmed by what a mother should do to her child that things like lovemaking seem not that interesting. We mothers look after our child more than we look after our husbands. It could also be what others call post-natal blues. Your hormones are not as "active" as it was when you were pregnant. They are changing once again. Give it a few months more but if things are not that good, seek professional help.
2006-08-24 11:16:38 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you nursing? It was always a problem for me when nursing--mostly I think because of fatigue and my head (always thinking about the baby). Once I quit nursing, everything went back to normal--at about a year after birth.
2006-08-24 11:09:24 · answer #10 · answered by Maybalee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋