Im 17 yrs old and I have a baby boy in Dec. 24. Baby father is not support me????

Question

He act like a little kid every day more and never grown up...He 20 yrs old turning 21 in March...I tired of his stupid little games and he treat me different then before and always getting loud with me...He more as a mom little boy and is not learning to grow up and we had plan for the future and now there no where to be found...He wanted a boy and I wanted a girl and now that he got his boy he still dont borther buying everything for his son...It's like he waiting for his mom or my mom to buy the baby things...He call me less and spent no time with me and when he do we always fighting or he dont seem he want to be with me...I sometime think he cheating on me because he partying more then he use to and dont want any one found out he having a kid...Is this normal or is something up

Answer 1

Congratulations on the baby boy! Many will say you are too young to have a baby, but you are only as mature and responsible as you want to be. I also had a baby at 17 (8 years ago) and I am still happily married to the father. We just had a little girl 11 months ago and are doing very well financially.

The only advice I can give you, is to be there for your son. The father is the one missing out, and he will have many regrets as he gets older. Sure, he is having fun now, but in a couple of years when his son wants nothing to do with him, he will wish he could turn back time. If he is not willing or wanting to be supportive, then you need to let him go and get your well deserved child support. Maybe you can start off by getting a part time job, and have your family help with the babysitting while you are at work. If you haven't finished school, then do so now. There are many programs out there where you can finish school from home, maybe attending class once a week.

Surround yourself with responsible, successful people and opportunity will surely come knocking. Good luck to you and the baby!

Answer 2

You are both very young to have a baby, and probably neither of you were ready for it. However, it is often the mom who is left to take care of things. You didn't mention your parents or his parents. How do they fit in the picture?

You may need to let him go, at least for now, but do go to court and get a child support order. It doesn't matter how immature he is, he is still obligated to support his child. You focus on taking care of your child, and finishing your own education if you can find a way to do that, so that you can give your child the best possible life..

As he matures he may realize that it takes more than a few minutes of pleasure to be a real dad and he may be more interested in playing a more productive role in his son's life. In any case, you need to get on with things and do what is best for you and your son, with or without his dad.

Best of luck to you and your baby.

Answer 3

What country and state are you in? You could have him charged with statutory rape if your location allows for this. You could also go to the courts and demand child support which would force him to pay you money for your childs upbringing. And if he skips out of paying he can go to jail.

I believe raising a kid is a dual responsibility and both parents should put 100% effort into raising them. But when a situation like this occurs, 50% each way should be the minimum.

Answer 4

Okay, well I have 2 children, one of whom was born when I was 17 and then my 2nd was born when I was 19. I know people are quick to judge, but they don't know where are lives are right now, and they don't know what great mothers "young" mothers can be. Age is just a number...
On that note, I am a single mother. My children Yes, they do have 2 different "fathers" however, my Daughters father was never involved in her life, when she was 3 months old, my son's father came into my life, and we had our son 2 years later.
We split up, and tried working things out, but it didn't work.
Honostley, I think he needs to grow up and realize that he is a father now, no matter what he wants. My childrens "dad" when we split up was very distraught and did alot of things that got him in alot of trouble. He spent some time in jail, and now that he is out of jail, he wants to spend as much time w/ his kids to make up for his mistakes, he grew up a little bit, and mabye that is what your b/f needs, he needs something that will make him realize what he has, and what is best for that baby.
Every child needs a father figure, so honey if it doesn't work out w/ him. And he doesn't realize that he needs to grow up to be a father, just remember that you can do it on your own. It may be hard, but you really don't have a choice if that happens. But like I said, the times when my kids dad was gone, I had my brothers, my male friends, my father, that was there for my kids to be that "male role model" in their lives, and that is what they need.
I know by the end of this answer I am just rambling on, but I hope everything works out, and I wish you the best of luck. =)

Answer 5

It is unfortunate that a child was born to two very young parents but now that has happened its time to put your childhood behind you.
Most 21 year old males do not have the maturity or the monetary resources to provide for children.
Unfortunately the responsibility goes to the mother since she is in physical custody of the child, you are on your own.
My advise is go to school, learn a trade, take care of your child, do not date.

Answer 6

I im in sorta the same situation except
me and the guy or not togther he pretty much egnored me now and im glad cause if we were together id be in your situtaion as u feeling unwanted or something
i dont know whats with these people a things just happen i remember pointed to pregnant chicks that where young thinking that will never happen to me but hear i em i dont beliveve in abortion and i know my life gonna change and it gonna be about taking care of someone else and i expect it to be hard only to be pregnant forever!i forbit sex after this!not till im married and older way way older

Answer 7

Hmmm...sounds really familiar. He is the type of BOY that jumps from girl to girl. He got you pregnant, now he's moving on to someone else. Since he's almost 21, he should have a decent job, and taking care of his son. Since he isn't, sue him for child support. And from now on, if you just HAVE to have sex, use protection. Sounds like you wanted a baby to me. And he also needs to be put UNDER the jail house for having sex with you.

Answer 8

Yes it's normal. When you get involved with a man you have to pick up where his mother left off. You have to teach them how to treat you. Make yourself fun and be someone he would prefer spend time with. Don't argue, whine, or order him around. If you can turn the tables around while he was in the room would you stick around?

Be blessed:) I am so happy you had your baby.
When things get really hard just remember the truth.
Your baby will alway be your greatest blessing.

Answer 9

This is what happens when people have babies when they are still children themselves and not in committed relationships. Obviously from your post, school was not a priority with you as it should have been. Give your baby to an intact family to raise, go back to school to get your life together, dump the loser boyfriend, and try to start over. It's not too late to get your life together, but it is not fair to drag your baby through your maturation process.

Answer 10

sound to me that he isn't mature enough for a child. from what it sounds like it isn't the best situation for you or your baby. You may have go your seperate ways. just make sure you know where he is so you can have child support issued. Make sure you have tons of support from your family and stay in school, an education will help both you and your baby out in the long run.