How to overcome STALKING?

Question

How do you overcome... I do not know if everyone wants to here my story but I guess this is where I can begin.

I was with this guy for almost four years, we share a two year old daughter, and I have had to place harrassing communications charges on him, because it didnt seem to matter if I didnt want to get off the phone he would still call me and never stopped. He went to court for that and was put on probation and then he made a statement a few days ago about, I know where our daughter goes to daycare if you dont stop...
How do I overcome this....
No one can do anything because he has never really physicalled harmed me, I am just so scared of what he might do.

I have done almost everything I can... I have numerous police reports but it doesnt do anygood because he hasnt physically harmed me...
When I told the police about his comment about our daughter, all they said was that he didnt really break any laws.
I do not know what more I can do!!!!

I just bought my house I am not moving.

Answer 1

Call the telephone company and have your number change and non published.

Answer 2

The only way for you to overcome this is to get everything that happens on a tape, maybe record the conversations and if you can set up a camera and make sure that you record everything he does and says and then take it to court and tell them that you are worried for the safety of your child and your own. The least that you would have is police would be informed so that if something does go wrong he would be the person they would go after. You can't get a restraining order against him until you have some evidence though. Good luck and be safe!

Answer 3

The phone calls is easy to fix, get caller ID on your phone, when he calls check caller id and if it's him don't answer. Or you can get an answering machine, turn the ringer of your phone off and just let the machine pick up all your calls, listen to the calls, call those back that you want to talk to and erase the others. The police are right, he hasn't really DONE anything other than call you and you've done NOTHING to alleviate the problem yourself so they can't do anything yet. The power to stop his phone calls is in YOUR hands. You can have your phone number changed and have it unlisted even.
As for your daughter he SHOULD know where she goes to day care he is STILL her father and he has the RIGHT to know where she is, unless he has proven to be abusive which you have no proof of.

Answer 4

Who told you that you can't do anything because he has never physically harmed you?

That is not true. Threatening / Blackmailing is an offense. He harassed you once. He'll get in deeper trouble if you report it to the local police. And I think he should.
There is also a thing called "peace bond" - your ex won't be able to get in touch with you or your daughter for one year - ask the police about it.

You might need to think about moving to a different location as well.

Answer 5

So sorry you are in that scary situation. First you to need make the police aware of the situation and then begin to document EVERYTHING. Get a notebook and use it to record each time he calls, or contacts you in anyway, any threats he gives, if he tries to contact your daughter at school- any and all things. Make sure your daughter's daycare is aware also. Stalking is so hard to prove, even with the new stalking laws, SO keep documenting and stay strong.
Get caller ID so you can avoid picking up his phone calls. Best of luck to you.

Answer 6

If I were you I would pay someone to beat the hell out of him. Calling the police was the right thing to do however the police can go as far as arrest him & then its up to the courts. Thats usually were the problem lies. If he gets charged & convicted he will probably get probation. And if hes a nutcase he might do you harm. Dont wait for that. And im not telling you to get his butt beat however that would probably keep him away

Answer 7

This is a form of abuse. I dont know where you are from, but I am from Australia, and the Police here are very aware of the dangers of this kind of abuse. Domestic voilence shelters work very closely with police to protect women from violence. If you are afraid what this man will do, even though he has never physically harmed you or your daughter....he has still made you believe he could. Emotional blackmail is a form of abuse. What you need to do is contact your local Domestic Violence Association and talk to someone who knows where you are coming from. They are totally aware that there are many types of abuse...Physical abuse is only one of them. If this man has created fear in you, you need to talk to someone who will be able to help you, and I believe the best place you could contact is a Domestic Violence counsellor.....I wouldnt so much use the hotline if you have one...I would ring a centre direct and ask to speak to a counsellor.

Answer 8

This is so hard for you. If he threatened her in any way, you can get a restraining order against him. This way he will be taken away if he comes around you or your daughter. Talk also to a children's advocacy group to see what advice they have.

Unfortunately the police can't be with you 24/7 to enforce this order, but it does help.

You might consider moving and changing your name if you really fear him.
Good luck to you

Answer 9

idk,if i were in this situation i would homeschool my daughter,and if that dont work beat the **** out of em,after u file a restraining order,if he comes back hell be arested.

Answer 10

Stalking is agains the law you need to talk to someone else.