Why are Girls?

Question

Why are girls so much more talkative and open with their friends but boys more withdrawn? and if they are open people find them weird or gay? are girls naturally like that or is it society?

Answer 1

Could be chemical make-up or past experiences or society telling boys to "suck it up" and not cry and yet girls can cry (double standard, I think.) Maybe it is a combination of all of the above.

My advice to my kids was, do what they feel they should do in that area, according to the situation. I have one son who talks all the time (like his mother LOL), and no one has ever accused him of being gay. and I have another son who has moments where he is quiet and others when you cant shut him up. He is married and has 2 kids, and definitely not gay. And, my daughter has her quiet moments and her talkative moments. My son-in-law is mostly quiet, like my husband. (Wonder if that is why my daughter chose him? (LOL) Both the son-in-law and husband are really great guys. And I have had the husband 30yrs. :)

So, I think it is just how each personality is (and how it was formed in growing up) and that it is your business if you want to talk a lot or not and when to do either.

Answer 2

Society

Answer 3

I've thought about this for a while. I think that boys start out more emotionally sensitive but they get hurt pretty quickly, and they dont get over it. They become self protective, and realize that its an exploitable weakness in others, and because they are children they exploit. I think they start out in a world of eye for an eye and tooth for a tooth, but emotionally have made themselves blind and toothless. Boys come out of those develpmental years all teeth and fur, but deep down they are very sensitive, very relationally wary, and very hurt.

I think that girls tend to have more natural talent in communication, because female brains are more connected and more wired for it. It allows better perception as children, and more communication-oriented interaction. It allows girls to come out of those developmental years less self-protective, and more practiced at communicating. It doesnt mean girls arent wounded or self-protecting but maybe they are less so than boys.

I think your final question is based on the logical fallacy of a false either or. There are three interacting determining factors in the makup of a person: nature (biology), nurture (environment including society), AND choices. The choices you make, they make you. Two people with identical natures and nearly identical nurtures can turn out radically different because the choices they make, make them.

Answer 4

There was actually a study years ago where they observed children between the ages of like 1-5 and they show the same qualities as we do now. The girls were more emotional and caring, whereas the boys were agressive but held back with anything emotional.

I guess it's in our nature!

Answer 5

The gender communication differences arise in social context, but in terms of cognitive differences that can be measured in testing they actually don't exist.

A quote from the definitive study:

"As for verbal ability, in 1988, Hyde and two colleagues reported that data from 165 studies revealed a female superiority so slight as to be meaningless, despite previous assertions that “girls are better verbally.” What's more, the authors found no evidence of substantial gender differences in any component of verbal processing. There were even no changes with age." Link to full APA article below.

Answer 6

Coz you just dont, man. how gay!.....Dude.
I dont think its true actually i know pleanty of men that open up when they talk with each other i think it must come with age.
My husband has lots of male friends and they talk about everything, just the other day my hubby was helping his mate through a tough break up, that not very usual for a guy to do but not gay or weird!
I understand what you are saying but it must be society like you said, like 'solders dont cry' so there for men must not really have any feelings to talk about!

Answer 7

A little from column A, a little from column B.
Women use an average of 20,000 words a day to express herself and has an average of 5 different tones of voice to communicate with, compared to a man's average of 7,000 words (one third of a woman's output) and 3 tones of voice.
This has been proved to be because women use different parts of their brain to men. But it is entirely debatable, whether this is because they are born that way or are brought up to act this way and see this as normal.
I personally believe that men and women could both be capable of these behaviours but the way they are encouraged to act by society and the way they are brought up is responsible for the differences.

Answer 8

Women are naturally better at communication, this comes from the hunter gatherer times. Men had to remain as quiet as possible, so as to not scare off their prey, whilst women were left at home to raise and teach the children and make alliances with other families. Men who have these types of traits are often seen as being gay because it is a naturally feminine quality, and men who have feminine qualities are often believed to be homosexual (e.g. wanting to buy cushions etc!)

Answer 9

b/c with other women there is a comfort level a kin ship when with men sometimes our insecurities get the best of us . ppl in general i think find ppl who are talkative and open about themselves not so much wierd or gay but not societies norm. we are taught at a young age (men and women) on how to sensor ourselves and not to say everything we think ....

Answer 10

Girls are naturally like this...no way to avoid it. Women use both sides of their brain at the same time...which is emotion and being talkative. Men generally don't.