Greg and I have been best friends since college freshman year four years ago, but ever since he met his (first) girlfriend, things have been different. I know, it's supposed to be like that, but he's taking it to the extreme, I'm damn serious. I can even't get a guys night out. He'll say "no, I don't have the time," but he always has time for her. We always used to hang out with each other on our birthdays, and on my recent birthday, he couldn't even drop by to say "happy b-day" (and no call) on my birthday. Worse of all, we live in the same building, and I saw him going out to dinner with his girlfriend. It really hurts! Especially after being really, really close the first few years of college. What should I do? Should I talk to him, or let it pass? I know he'll come around eventually, but I think he really needs to know how I feel. I'm a guy too, and that makes it hard for me to say anything, but I know I just have to.
2006-08-24 02:51:04 · 11 answers · asked by bluepsyc09 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I know I need to stand up for myself here, but... should I? If so, how??? Any guys who have been in this situation before with their buds?
2006-08-24 02:51:10 · update #1
It's a classic case of ho's before bro's. There's nothing that you can do, except maybe invite her to your events. Maybe get to know HER friends and get both groups to hang out..... say, at a party, or football game or something.
2006-08-24 02:55:12 · answer #1 · answered by johnbehrhart 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she feels upset and annoyed because she thought you liked her as more than a friend and now she's realised that's not going to happen. Try to include her and make her feel wanted but don't give her false hope. Just remember to see her too and be a good friend to her because she's probably feeling quite hurt and confused. If its really causing problems don't ditch her, girlfriends last for a few months, your best friend has been there for you and will be forever x
2016-03-27 03:35:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you can do is divert your attention. Join a club or group that you are passionate about. Maybe football, hockey, photography?
Make new friends to take your mind of Greg and his gf. But don't treat Greg like an outsider. You can still wish him happy birthday, say hi to him. Invite him out even when he keeps on saying he has no time etc.
Be a good friend to him eventhough he is not to you. He will come around.
Good luck and hang in there!
2006-08-24 03:06:37 · answer #3 · answered by shopaholic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because I( am a girl you may not trust my answer but I still have some experience in situations like this..It depends on how long they have been going out for. You say it is his first girlfriend...so its natural that they be enthralled in eachother the first few months and be totally oblivious to everyone else. It is also natural for you to feel the way you do, but I think you should take a step back and give him some space and he should realise himself and come to you. If his ignoring continues on longer you should probably let him no how you feel but make sure you do it in a diplomatic way so as not to offend his girlfriend because he might get touchy about it..just let him know that though you are reAlly happy he's found someone special you feel like you haven't spent time with him in ages and maybe it would be cool to have a boys night out. If the girlfriend is a nice one she should also be cool with this. Maybe you could invite them both out just to show her she has nothing to worry about with you too and that you are accepting of their relationship...that should make it easier...
2006-08-24 03:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he must be very serious about this girl...but i wander how good a friend he really is if he can not even have a guys night out...unless he would just rather be with his girlfriend...i would tell him though that you think that you deserve a little of his time for a guys night out since you two have been friends for so long...but he does not sound like a very considerate friend or he would know this hisself.....you might just want to keep yourself busy and when he finally comes around say well you have been so busy with your girlfriend i have made other plans to maybe we can get together later.....
2006-08-24 02:58:43 · answer #5 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a friend shoudlnt dismiss his/her friends once they ahve a sig other. i think u should do unto him as he has done to you. ive been in a similar situation and i refuse to b second class i tried talking then i finally just said oh well ... if ur buddy comes back into the picture he willneed ot do someserious talking. as far as havign time for his g/f on some levels he has too i mean shes probably boning him right lol ....... but i do think its unhealthy not to be with his friends at least once and a while . its ultimatley ur choice if u decided to talk to him and if udo be forth right and honest btu be prepared he may not want to hear it .
good luck
2006-08-24 02:55:07 · answer #6 · answered by ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how you feel let him know that there is more to life then just his girlfriend....
(bro's b4 ho's lol)
I have always had boyfriends and always made time for my friends. one of my friends started ditching me when she got serious with a guy and I just told her I hope you are together forever 'cause if you break up you will have no one.. she told me she didnt want to lose me and she would work on it.
2006-08-24 02:53:55 · answer #7 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you bro and honestly you need to kick his ***....I know you probably don't want to do this, but you need to beat the crap out of him. Otherwise he won't even listen to you. So try talking to him and be like wtf man, all you do is hang with her, that is cool and all since she has sex with you, but we still need to hang out man. Then he will probably be like no no and blow you off, so you have to punch him and be like I am serious. There is no excuse for ditching your friends for a girl no matter how important she may be.
2006-08-24 02:56:22 · answer #8 · answered by hawksfan17 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you have a crush on him or something. Usually men don't get all upset over things like this.
2006-08-24 02:55:19 · answer #9 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2006-08-24 02:52:58 · answer #10 · answered by Ricknows 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋