was she cheating,..what d' ya think?

Question

Living in her own home;
Several small bruises found inside of arms and thighs.
Later,.. a larger round bruise between her thighs beside her virgina. (Blamed beautician for being rough on her xxx wax).
Mens foot prints in the dirt path outside her door,..not mine.
Smell similar to Parmisan cheese in her hair, left side of her head, and between her legs. Supposedly from a towel in the bathroom. NOT. I give her the benifit of the doubt.
We move in together;
6 weeks later: I find 3 txt messages sent, (his were deleted) to work mate trying to locate him in the city,.. all sign xox.
His number is listed as something completely different to hide it. Her Phone bill shows a flurry of text messages over several weeks. I discover the night she came home smelling 'odd' was his birthday. I try to believe her because I want to but it tears me up daily. She swears she is innocent and makes me feel as if Im the stupid one.
months later I have left.True or false, its ruining my life

Answer 1

This is why it is said Love is Blind, I've been there and didn't want to see the truth myself so I can't criticize the facts of your situation...she isn't being faithful, that's a given, and to what extent sounds like its extreme...hold off on moving in...it will only get worse if you do...such as her coming home late without a good explanation...and possibly you coming home to find out she has gone for good....save yourself any further heart ache...put things on hold and get to the true of the matter before going forward or backing out....good luck..blessings.

Answer 2

If there was that much suspicion over a period of so many months in the relationship, the union lacks the essential basic component of trust and should have been severed. The question of her cheating is irrelevant. Was it right for the relationship to end? That’s the question. And yes, it was doomed from the word go. Why would you even have lived together? What it the sex? Was it a financial arrangement? Were you planning on marriage, or just shacking up? You are ruining your life, not her. Get over it. Find someone that you can be with and not feel like you have to be a detective snooping all the time. Love is a beautiful thing. It awaits you, but not with her. Work on effective communication skills when the occasional doubt arises with the new person. Be honest with the new relationship partner, and most importantly be honest with yourself. That means “No Sneak-ie, no Spy-ie” This might sound a bit harsh, but just consider that a foe may be confrontational, but a false friend is worse.

Answer 3

Do not allow her to make you feel stupid as she is the one throwing out all the red flags. I can't say for sure based on the info given. But I do agree that all the facts presented are not adding up to a faithful, truthful individual. That being said, you have to decide what you are gonna do. Do you want to stay and try to fix it? Or do you want to give up and move on with life? If you choose to stay with her, I would change how you are going about this. Personally I wouldn't bring up your thoughts about her cheating. Because if she is, you are telling her where her slip ups are and helping her to deceive you better. I would investigate myself and start a journal of all the suspicious activity. The journal will help you see the whole situation rather than each seperate incident. Don't stalk her or change your demeanor towards. Look for ways to interfer with her "free" time. Make all your free time about her. Try to take lunch with her. Get involved in every aspect of her life. Try to meet her coworkers and friends. You should analyze how each of her peers act towards you. Do their actions imply knowledge of her infidelity? Women talk and then they keep talking. So if she is unfaithful, trust me on this, someone knows. This relationship is young and is already running into severe problems. So you need to decide if this/she is worth it to you. Good Luck & God Bless

Answer 4

Why don't you hire a private investigator. Then you will know what she is or isn't doing. Yes, if you continue on like this, your relationship will soon fail. She will get tired of being accused whether she is guilty or not. So get the evidence and go from there. Until then, just keep quiet.

Answer 5

I don't see that you have enough evidence to say that she's cheating for sure. Maybe you should've followed it a lil' closer before accusing her. If she wanted someone else, why would she have you move in withher? I think you are parinoid. Calm down and have a serious talk with her.

Answer 6

There are lot of girls out there!! May be she simply don't like you and unable to tell u that.
U shd understand that.
Put some money. Hire a person to spy on her and get some proof. Then speak with here with that.

Answer 7

WoW if can't read all those signs and thinks she is faithful, you are crazy. You really need to sit down without accusing her of what's going on. She will get defensive and she will lie, but you need to confront her with everything and fin out what to do to work on it or somebody should leave.

Answer 8

You left.......that was the smart thing to do. A relationship takes two....3 is a crowd. Sounds like her heart wasn't given totally to you.

Has she tried to contact you since you left? If not, or hardly at all...I would move on.

Answer 9

shes a liar and being unfaithful to you ...sorry! I dont know why she just wouldnt end it with you instead of running round behind ur back. Shes being 2 secretive, and by over reacting to ur comments shes guilty. Try asking to go out for dinner with her "MALE FRIEND" if its inncoent then she will, if theres something going on she will definately decline.

Answer 10

First off calm down and think rational if your gut is telling something is wrong go with that and screw what she is telling you. Don't follow her and stop going through her things if you feel this bad you should get out and find peace of mind.