2006-08-24 02:29:27 · 28 answers · asked by BIG AL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ever hear of palimony? Child support? have this number EMBLAZONED on your brain...25% of your NET disposable income PER child...
2006-08-24 02:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This works for two friends who both understand, are honest with each other and who accept the situation. Once feelings get involved and one partner doesn't reciprocate those feelings, then it becomes a friendship that may benefit one person.
If you're the type of person who wants and values a relationship - then don't get yourself into this arrangement, you may get hurt or end up wasting your time or worse an getting an STD.
2006-08-24 10:03:43 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It worked for me a couple of times, one was a roommate and we actually had a code word when we were both in the mood. Silly, but it worked.
The sex is definitely a lot different than with someone you have feelings for. I was able to try new things that I was afraid to try with a girlfriend. That worked out great!!! (ask me about the cup 'o tea technique).
The friendship didn't suffer. It was a little awkward at first but after a while it's no big deal. Just keep your feelings in check, you don't want to fall for her, because then you're screwed, unless she has feelings too. The one problem you may have is that you need to cut it out once you find a true girlfriend.
I say go for it! It's definitely worth it!
2006-08-24 10:11:06 · answer #3 · answered by handyman22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have experience. It doesn't work. I was so into the guy, I knew he just wanted to be friends, but benefits was my way of being able to be with him even though I wished he was my boyfriend. (He approached me EVERY time for benefits, I was not soliciting him.) I had told him I was fine with just being friends, but I lied. I knew if I told him I wanted to be his girlfriend, then our benefits relationship would end. I would rather be used then not be with him at all.
I was heartbroken when he broke things off because he found another girl that he actually was interested in. I was a wreck for a long time.
2006-08-24 09:40:30 · answer #4 · answered by hello 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It works!really it does, but only while you are benefiting, and that is usually for a very short while. You can however discuss with your friend when benefits apply, set boundries.
It is kinda excitin when no one else is aware of your 'benefit contract', but when your other friends find out it becomes sort of complicated.
Oh and jump ship as soon as soon as any form of emotion other than infactuation starts to develop!and always remember that your friendship is at risk at all times so be willing to lose your friend, and ruin your friendship
2006-08-24 10:10:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it really works but you have to go into it understanding that thats all its going to be, that more than likely a relationship won't come out of it. I have what me and my "friend" call an "at will" relationship, we have the uderstanding that as long as we are messing around we don't sleep with anyone else. Oh and it saves on the drama of a real relationship.
2006-08-24 09:32:57 · answer #6 · answered by brandymcclain23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a BWF right now. you have to take it for what it is, a good lay. I'm a cancerian so we're suckers for love and romance. but with this guy, it's been going on for two years and he's always stressed out that he's not ready for a relationship, at first i used to think i could get him to change his mind, then i changed my mind about him. I mean, he is so NOT boyfriend material. I basically trained myself to think like he does. Call him on my cell when i need him and when it's all over, please get up and leave.
So if you can get over that rose petals bullshit, go for it. If down the line you're hoping he's gonna change, give it up. Guys act dumb but trust me they know what they want, if he wanted you as his girl, he will make it exclusive and not just use you for sex.I say, use him back, a girl's got needs too!
2006-08-24 10:03:31 · answer #7 · answered by julsgene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had one
it worked great
sometimes just a bootie call
sometimes we just hung out went to a movie (paid dutch)
hang out and had a good time
also made the se x better cause we could talk about anything and experiment well
2006-08-24 09:32:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It usually works for one of the two people. Some one will get their feelings hurt from expecting too much, of not delivering enough. But it will seem to work for a while. It is possible that both people will take it for what it is, but not likely. Good luck, dont make yourself crazy.
2006-08-24 09:32:10 · answer #9 · answered by n2bateyou2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Works fine with me. Just don't make whatever 'arrangements' you have made to personal or special. The day you buy her gifts/say thank you/ or show any whatsoever form of love/care is the day that 'arragement' fails. You want a sex-toy, just like that chick your bangin. So don't treat her like a girlfriend. trust me it may sound bad but it WILL save you one day.
2006-08-24 09:34:06 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It worked for me cuz we knew it was just physical. There were no emotional attachment involved. If either one of us met someone knew, we stopped messing around. If things didn't work out with the new someone and we were both still unattached, we start it again. Hell, we even set each other up and blind dates with each other's friends. Just like normal friends, but with more fun.
2006-08-24 09:36:09 · answer #11 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋