My in-laws want to take my daughter to Argentina for 2 weeks during the winter. I would join her in Argentina after those 2 weeks. She will be 10mo at that time. I personally think it's a fine idea. I know her grandparents adore her, and she'll get tons of love and attention down there. Maybe she'd even get more love and attention than I could offer at that time, because I'm in law school and that's final exam time. At first her grandparents wanted to take her, but now they're afraid it might cause her some kind of psychological damage to be away from her mom.
My mom says that she left me with my godparents for 3 weeks when I was 9mo, and it wasn't a problem.
I'm sure you all will want to refer to personal experience, but if you could also refer to any articles or studies, that would be great!
2006-08-24 02:27:52 · 13 answers · asked by Karen H 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
We would institute a gradual plan of getting my daughter used to being with her grandparents. She would start by spending a night there, then a weekend there, to see how she deals.
Also, I had to go for emergency surgery when she was 5 months old. She was left with her grandparents for three days without me, and she did fine after the first 24 hours.
2006-08-24 04:34:50 · update #1
At that age, your daughter is not likely to even remember that you two were apart for that long. She probably will miss you and you will miss her, but it's two weeks!
I can't give you a specific article because there are a ton!
Try www.ivillage.com. They have a mess load of articles and even a travel checklist if you are feeling less than prepared.
Good luck and enjoy the time alone ( I know that sounds selfish)...take some time for yourself, get a pedicure and a massage!!!
2006-08-24 02:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by nikki puddin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the child. A lot of children go through separation anxiety around that age and it can be very traumatic for them to be away from their parents.
I have 3 children, pregnant with my 4th and didn't let them stay overnight until they were over a year old. Even then it was only a night here and there. I know everyone has different views on this, but there is no place I would rather be than with my children. I couldn't imagine being apart from them for 2 weeks, especially at that young of an age.
2006-08-24 04:03:29 · answer #2 · answered by aliza1999 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's something that I, personally, would never allow. I wouldn't spend a night away from a child that young, let alone 2 weeks.
But, with your situation, it's true that she might get more attention if you will be wrapped up in final exams during that time. Is she used to being away from you? What's the longest she has ever been apart from mom?
2006-08-24 02:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say it depends on how comfortable she is being alone with them for long periods of time. If she sees them as much as you then it should be just fine, you know? I imagine it will definitely be a bit of a big thing for her if you're all she's seen and all she really knows. But it won't scar her for life or leave emotional damage if you do it right. You could call and talk to her every day, let her hear your voice, reassure her that you're still there and that you will be coming back.
2006-08-24 05:17:16 · answer #4 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being away from her will not cause any psychological damage. It will actually be good for her because she will learn to be comfortable around other people. This comes in handy when kids start daycare/school.
Now, it might be hard on you if you've never been away from her for a long period of time. I remember the first time my kids spent a weekend with my parents...I wanted to go get them that night!
2006-08-24 02:34:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would never do that. 10 months is too young for a child to be away from her/his parents. Children need to be with their parents as much as possable until they are 5 years old. It might be scary for her to be away from you in a place that she doesn't know even with her grandparents.
I have a 3 year old that hasn't even been baby sat yet. I would never allow either one of his grandparents take him for an hour alone. He needs to be with us.
Don't do it. Take her after your classes are over.
2006-08-24 04:11:35 · answer #6 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great idea - I do that with my daughter - my parents take her every summer since she was 8mo, we started with few weeks and this year she went with them for two mo (she's turning three on Sunday), long I know, but we'ra moving and I'm about to deliver. And my parents don't get to see her that often. But you know what - she is perfectly fine and I'm glad we started to do that, it seems like she's growing into strong, consues, independent person, she is very easy going and very much sure about who she is and learned to cope very easily. I see planed occasional separation only like a plus and I would definitely recommended.
2006-08-24 02:47:15 · answer #7 · answered by aaja 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My original reaction was that this wouldn't be a good idea until I read the part about you having final exams at that time. Assuming Dad can't step it up during final exam time, I think this may be an ideal solution.
2006-08-24 02:34:01 · answer #8 · answered by lmnop 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was in the military had had to go to training for a month and couldn't take my son with me. My mother in law had to take him for that time and he was fine. I called and checked on him and saw him one weekend during that time so two weeks should be okay.
2006-08-24 02:47:51 · answer #9 · answered by evrythnnxs 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In some cases i think it's fine. If your daughter loves her grand parents and is comfortable being away from you then yes it's fine. good luck
2006-08-24 02:30:36 · answer #10 · answered by notyours 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋