Hi, There is this friend of mine that was a close friend and she just shut down all communication with me and whenever i do see her she makes up excuses not to have to talk to me. I don't think that she is treating me fairly and I am about to lose her as a close friend. How do I tell her how I feel without having to make her mad at me? I would just like us to be cordial with each other because we live near each other for one thing and the second thing is that our daughters are in the same class at school this year and I don;t want to have to be mean to her infront of our children when we are together in person. This is the second time this sort of thing has happened before that she just completely shut down and stoped talking to me but then she came around but this time I doubt she will because we have definnately grown apart. Please help. Thanks for your times. Any advice reguarding this question would be very helpful and appreciatied.
2006-08-24 02:22:23 · 11 answers · asked by Snowwhite30 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, this person doesn't sound like too good a friend. NOW!
A friend will tell you what is bugging them so you can get back together again. She is holding you hostage to her bad mood.
It is a painful truth that people grow apart. One often grows apart before the other one.
It sounds like you may have made her mad and she is punishing you. My sister does the same thing. She will go for months without talking to me, and then send me a silly card, like the storm blew over. Or call me to tell me her cat died, and we'll chat for an hour and then I won't hear from her for 6 months.
My advice: Leave her alone, Be kind and cordial, and distant.
DO NOT say anything to or in front of your child. Sure as you do, your daughter will pipe up at the wrong time. It is completely inappropriate to share grown up problems with a child, if you can help it.
You want her back as your close friend and feel abandoned, and confused that she won't tell you what is going on, so treat her like she is ill. Maybe she is.
Find new friends, and move on, honey.
2006-08-24 02:49:59 · answer #1 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just be nice to her and do not worry about this...if you did nothing to her then i would not worry about it...some people are just that way...they are rude and i guess decide that you to do not really have that much in common...but honestly she does not sound like she was to good a friend in the first place...you meet lots of people but few are really your friend...acquaintances but it takes more than that to be real friends....i have a woman downstairs i thought we were real friends...but just all of a sudden she decided that she did not want to be friends..well actually someone told me she was talking about me behind my back....well that is not a friend..and i tried to help her in many ways...but i know her type and she really does think different than i do on many things..so this does not bother me at all...i know i have morals and i thank god i am not like her at all....so i think it is best now, and i have made it known that i do not want her to call me again...she since started making complaints saying i was making to much noise above her...but i had some people below her and next door to her go tell the landlady all the noise she makes...she was complaining about my 2 year old grandson...so she is just a trouble maker...i did not get a write up at all....she justs needs to realise that we can not always be quiet up here...i obey all the rules of the apartment complex..she has lost many friends over this herself....so do not worry about it..be yourself and do not even want friends that do not do you right...or do you unfair......
2006-08-24 09:33:39 · answer #2 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you go directly to her to explain yours view she wont listen... so try to mingle with her friends and keep them saying about good habits of your friends.. do in such a way that her friends come to know but indirectly.. slowly she will realize how good you are? always give her smile whenever she is in front of you. be there to help her whenever she need someone. if you come to know that she is depressed or upset, inform her friends and encourage them to give her company so that they will cheer up. She will be surprised to see her friend there to cheer up and will definitely ask them the how they come to know? answer will be you. she will think about you.... definitely and slowly she will value your friendship.
2006-08-24 10:10:06 · answer #3 · answered by Luv4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go and rent a twohundred thousand dollar sports car, then they will be tripping over each other trying to get back into your life.
2006-08-24 09:28:20 · answer #4 · answered by lktt71 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give them some time
2006-08-24 09:24:35 · answer #5 · answered by cutie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her ask her why she doesnt want to talk to u. Explain to he how u feel.
2006-08-24 09:26:33 · answer #6 · answered by Veronica A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just find you some more friends that will treat you better than they did!!!
2006-08-24 09:30:26 · answer #7 · answered by michelle f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find new friends.
2006-08-24 09:24:58 · answer #8 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just forget her,if she has something to say she will.
2006-08-24 09:26:52 · answer #9 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she's a *****
find a real friend-screw her
2006-08-24 09:24:33 · answer #10 · answered by bill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋