How do you stop losing your friends?

Question

Why is it that some people lose their friends so easily? I can make friends easily but I can't keep them. Please give me some advice on what i should do about this and how I can prevent it from happening again. I seem to lose friends faster than i make friends and its really tearing me up inside. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for your times.

Answer 1

You don't really go into much..... what happens, are things fine and then you don't hear from them anymore? Do you and your friends have fallings out and its over before your friendship really got started? Or do you have high values and morals that the friends you find don't share and it is best that you let them go? Sorry I need more info to properly help and answer your question. Good luck and Blessed be.

Answer 2

What happens to make you lose the friend a fight, moving, other friends? Losing a friend I think is very hard to do. I have friends I have not seen in probably four yrs or more but know the moment we walk through the door to each others home we are still friends and sit for hours catching up. How do you know they are friends to begin with. Some peolpe like to become your friend to use you and then ditch you as soon as what they needed you for is over. These are what I call fair weather friends. Around when there is a party or something good going on but when the going gets tough or you need them for something they disappear or have an excuse every time. These are not friends they are users and losers stay away from them. You must also be friend to have a friend. Keep in touch and stay involved with them if you cannot be with them email them or do a five minute phone call to just say hi and ask how things are going. You would be amazed at how many people do not like to burden their friends with their problems but if you call they are very willing to talk about them. Friends are like family members if you only talk to them or see them once every month you do not know much about them and it is hard to have a good realtionship this way. SIt down and make a list of all the freinds you have lost and ask yourself what happened to make you lose them. Maybe you only think you have lost them because you have not made the first move to reconnect.

Answer 3

You will never quit losing your friends as you grow older they will go away. I had a friend for 40 years, I knew him when we was growing up. He came by one day and borrowed 15 dollars and I have never seen him again. The way I look at it is that it was worth the money to get him down the road because my wife didn't like him anyway. I lost the rest of my so called friends when I quit drinking, that was because they could not sponge off of me anymore. The point is if they are your true friends they will stick around if not send them down the road. You seem like a nice person so don't let it get under your skin.

Answer 4

well i think the best thing is just to treat them the way you want to be treated...if you are nice and all that they may just not be your type...i would just do the best you can and then do not worry about it...you can not make every one like you....it is easy to make so called friends but it is better to have one real friend than a lot of so called friends....how do you know it is you the reason you are losing your friends>>>> you meet a lot of people and some will be your type and some will not...just be good to people and if they do not want to remain your friend then they were not much to have anyway.....i hope i have helped you with this...but do not stress over this...try to be fun to be around and do unto others as you wish to be done like.....if you want to talk more im me.....take care.....

Answer 5

Do a complete self evaluation. You know you better than anyone else. Ask yourself if people find me friendly initially then what am I doing to become offensive to them. It's possible that people may find you over bearing. Maybe you should ask them and hope they will be honest with you. What is a friend anyway. We have friends and we have friendly acquaintances. Maybe part of the problem is in how you define friendship. To me a friend is someone who would lay down their life for me and I would do the same for them in return. Hope you find you a true friend...

Answer 6

I would ask myself what kind of friend am I being and what kind of person are they??

If you are a true friend, maybe they are not.
If you lack in the friendship skills, that may be why they leave.

My personal opinion is that you only have a few true friends and these you treasure for life. Other friends are in our lives for seasons to give us a gift or teach us something.

Keep on being a special friend and the right friends will be nearby

Answer 7

Well, I do not know you but maybe people lose interest cause you could be boring or just not there type..so try to become more fun by becoming more humorous...people love people that could make them laugh..I have a great sense of humor and am fun..that is why I have so many friends...its always great to have people around that make you laugh..if you are not like that ..try being more like that...

Answer 8

Are you saying stupid things to piss them off or make them annoyed? Reflect back on how you act, talk, or present yourself, when you around them and see if you can find any faults. If this is a common occurence, you may be doing something to turn people off. Time for some self reflection, but all is not lost, we are creatures of habit, but we can change if changes is needed.

Good Luck

Answer 9

i think that depend on ur self
how do you deal with them ?
and i have one answer to this case
is that in ur self when u deal with some one and make any relationship need to support from tow side in other mean from u and from him/her with asking about each other ,calling....
but
when some one bound or even hide for a while u have to ask about the reason if u made a mistake or not then
i think when some one bound or hide u self currupted u to ask about
and said ha what's the defference
that's not true i don't know how r u and how do u think
but u have trying to still communicate with old friend and the newer ones

Answer 10

if you are being nice to them and being a plain old good persn, then the reason you loose friends is because THEY are mean to begin with. Try hanging with people from different crowds. You never know how good of a friend they could be unless you introduce yourself.

Hope it helped!

xoxo